There are relationships that work from day one, that seem to work without effort but I believe a great relationship works with effort, with work and with a lot of patience.

As you get older, love can be more challenging but it's still worth it.  When we get older we carry our past relationship with us. into the present one  That past can make our present and future relationships harder.

I am one of those people in a relationship but with a difficult past.  I struggle with overcoming the past in order to let the present relationship blossom.

It's hard to open ourselves up to love knowing how much it can hurt when that love lets you go or ends.

I ask myself is it worth it?  Is it worth the pain?  I believe that love is what makes everything happen.  It's what make good people great, it's what we are put on this earth to do, to love.  Therefore, I know that love is worth it but my question is, how do you know who you should love?  Who you should open your heart to, who you should become vulnerable to?

I can be pretty strong but I am very weak with the person that has my heart.  This person has the ability to hurt me more than anyone else in this world.  So I ask you and myself, is there a way to know who to let in.

I've seen what I considered to be great realtionships with good people let go of each other and end things.  I don't want that, I want someone who is willing to work, who when they fall out of love with me, works to fall back in love, who believes there can be a happily ever after.

I think that may be the true down fall of most relationships, is that both people don't believe in working at love.  Love is a work in progress and when I give someone my all, I promise to love them and should I fall out of love, I will work to fall back in love.  The next time I fall in love it will be with them. But, how do I know if the person I'm with is like me?  Willing to give life  and love their all.

I believed in someone, I believed they were willing to work at love but the moment things became difficult, he found someone else.  The person I'm with has loved me when I have been at my saddest and has been there through some of the good and the bad for me but I don't know how he truly feels about love and god.  He's more reserved than I am and it's hard for me to push at times.  I want him to open up on his own terms.

I think believing in God is an integral part of love.  I think God is love and where there is love there is always God. The answer is that both people need to truly believe and want to work to make love work.  If you both love each other enough to want to make things work and work hard in the tough times then the relationship will be the type to last a lifetime. It takes two.