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Some people go from relationship to relationship and from person to person, each time being unfaithful on the last person. Some don't even realize what they are doing until it's too late to turn back or undo the damage they have done with the one that they truly love. I have cheated once and what I learned is that how things start things will end. After that time, I had 9 wonderful, loving and faithful years with what I thought was a wonderful man. During the tenth year our marriage was over, due to cheating. It's kind of like the saying from ashes to ashes; we started off cheating on our partners witch each other and eventually we ended with him cheating and me almost cheating. We both loved each other and wanted to turn things around but there was a child to be born and it was too much for my love to withstand.
I wonder if it's in our nature to be monogamous or if that's a learned behavior that we have to value in order to achieve. I thought this was my life partner, I had never loved anything or anyone the way that I loved him. He completed me in every way. I felt that I did the same for him. We were inseperable until I became friends with someone of the opposite sex and so did he. I turned back because I realized that I wanted my marriage to work. He did too eventually but as we were working things out, he found out we would never be the same again. She was pregnant with his child.
It took some time but we were able to have a few good talks after this and believe it or not we finished our marriage amicably. He tried being my friend but I learned that I cannot move on with him in my life. So after 3 years and the majority of those without talking to him, I am at a better place. What I've learned from this is that the problems of a previous relationship usually carry with you into the next one. It's not worth leaving who you are with, to make things better with someone you just met; the newness and fun where's off and the problems are either the same or worse. One of the best things that happened after all this is that I learned that he knew he made a mistake and that hopefully he had learned from it. He says that what happened scared him and he lives with his regrets everyday.
Now, I'm in a commited relationship with a very attractive guy. He's almost everything I've wanted in a relationship but I am scared. When we spend days apart due to my business travel, I get anxious and wonder if there's someone else. I'm scared that the person from his past relationship will come back and he won't be faithful. I think because I know how much it hurts to be cheated on, I cannot do it to someone else. I want to get over the anxiety and just love and see where it will lead me but every once in a while it creeps back in. I wonder if other people feel this and what they do about it.
Do you think being faithful is a choice, something un-common or the norm?
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Posted by prelude2it on 2008-01-30 13:45:45 | Rating: | Views: 162
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it is a choice....i may be young but i know...you can thelp your feeling...but you have to trust...i know its hard to trust but you have to step out of the box and try
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Posted by worldtravlerk8
on 2008-01-30 13:54:46
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I also believe it is a choice. I cheated on my ex-husband, I chose to do that because I did not love him. If I did, I wouldn't have made that choice. Now I choose to never cheat ever again.
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-02-25 16:17:55
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