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Is it just me or are teenagers getting so out of touch these days. I mean in the 80's when I grew up we were worried about the latest cartoon or cabbage patch doll. Now teenagers are worried about their cellphones and texting and their mall bought clothes. More teenagers are going out and drinking, dropping out of school, and getting pregnant. Now I have three children in my household, all girls 4 years apart. The oldest is 16 and is my fiancee's daughter, my oldest daughter is 13, and my youngest is 9.
Now ever since the 16 year old was about 12, her grandmother has bought all her clothing from the mall. At 13 she received her first cellphone which she promptly ran up a $400.00 cellphone bill on. Ever since then she has kept getting more and more clothes and seems to expect her grandmother to buy them which her grandmother does. Now her grandmother I know started out trying to compensate for the fact that the teenager's mother was never around. But now in her room are thousands of dollars of clothes on the floor, she has so many she has dresses in our hall closet and jeans in another closet in the hall. Her grandmother has thrown her 3 birthday parties in consecutive years each getting bigger every year. Last year they had a DJ and noone in her group dances.
Now, let me tell you about my daughters. My daughters get what we can afford from Walmart usually. My 13 year old has gotten an occasional shirt from the older one but they don't look right or fit right. I have been out of work since November but even before then they rarely got clothes. The last time they got new clothes was because they were going on vacation with my fiancee's brother and his family. That was in June or July of last year and we still went to a bargain store. Now that I am not working, my kids are growing out of their clothes and pretty much look like ragamuffins. My 9 year old is wearing pants that are a little too short and shirts that are a little too tight because we can barely afford to pay rent and buy food. Both of my daughters clean when I ask, maybe not their room all the time, but they wash dishes, laundry, and clean up around the house if they are told. His daughter does the occasional horrible cleaning job on the bathroom if he makes her. Otherwise she does nothing in this house. She is constantly coming and going, her grades are slipping in two of her classes, but my childrens are too.
Am I right to be angry when I hear his daughter and her younger cousin who is my oldest daughter's age sit their and try to compete about how their bill was only this much. And they are sitting there talking about Hollister bathing suits, etc. My daughter does not have a cell phone, I allow her to text her friends on mine when she is home sometimes because I have unlimited texting. She has no designer clothes, she actually gets made fun of a lot. I get so angry when I hear these two girls so out of touch about important things.
Now we are supposed to be family, my fiancee's family to us. I always go to family functions because we are all a family. Yet his mother doesn't take my children shopping like she does his daughter or her cousins. My children to me look like the poor ones of the group and it hurts me deeply. Their cousin who was my oldest's best friend for a few years now has gotten quite stuck on herself and is now rude and disrespectful towards my daughter. I just don't know what to do, every time I go to a function and hear those girls start talking, I just want to scream. Am I being way to out of line? Are these girls really way too out there? Or is it just me?
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Posted by poormother on 2009-05-10 00:48:11 | Rating: | Views: 42
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