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How much does it matter?

Over the past few weeks I've been forced against my will to ponder a number of questions regarding relationships.The first question being, when choosing a girlfriend/ boyfriend/ wife/ husband...how much does sex appeal matter? Does your potential partner have to be so attractive that your friends would want to date them? Or would it be better if you alone could see their appeal? Do men only choose their partners by what they look like and women only by what they feel? Stupid question I know but is this the way that things are meant to be...rules are made to be broken anybody? Is it social crime to be with someone who is not inside of that bracket of easily identifiable sex appeal within your said social circles?

I work in an office where there are a significant number of females of all shapes and sizes who have sex appeal in abundance yet for all that, while yes I maybe drawn to them on that basis there is a significant possibility we may not necessaryily collect on as many levels as I would like- they do say opposites attract but so do similar types. For me there is that question of do you go looking for the 50/ 50 or 70/ 30 swing i..e complete balance between looks and persona or an emphasis on one of either. Should it matter for instance that your friends wouldn't necessarily date the person your with? Should it matter whether or not the person in question has "good hair" or great fashion sense? Should other people have to validate your relationship just for you to be in it for any length?

Normally I would write something poetic to answer this but it seems my leading is somehwat away from that at this moment and what I feel this this.....Looks must play a part in any successful relationship regardless but I don't think they should be regarded as the main reason why your with somebody. I also don't think that its right to end a relationship with someone just because there are other attractive people within your social vicinity whether on a temporary or residual basis...let alone if a family member does not think your choice of partner is unattractive.

From experience, looks have drawn me to people but personality has drawn me more strongly on several ocassions to people in relation to relationships and held me there for a long while. Their looks at the time have somewhat contributed towards the length of time I invested with them but has never been the thing that held me there. I feel like life has taught me to recognise the value of personality and that though ooks may draw you into a relationship but personality should be what keeps you there. Its like - do you go for Wamart/ Tesco or your local greengrocers- do you focus on being signed by a World famous record label to be able so say yeah I made it or a smaller offshoot record company just so you can get more creative control? There is nothing wrong with going for your ideal but relationships are all about compromise and when your on the market for one - you should like the bible says "consider dilligently what is before you". Its not a crime to be with someone who not everyone in your circle finds attractive- the person matters more. A good looking persona can get hit with a bus or use one wrong facial product and thats it! Personally I love real people - I'm attracted to people who I can mentally connect with, take car of their outward appearance - if life is truly what you make it then I think personalities shouldnt be left as something to mould in the person that your with..before you and after you they will be who they are- while people shape in sense to become closr but its generally speaking not the big drastic change people think.