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I need to get this of my chest.Some folk's need a wake up call.If you know that you are doing something wrong STOP IT!!!! Give up the ghost,grow up take responsibility for your actions.
Most of us know the difference between right and wrong.When you ask a question be truthful,there for you should get a truthful answer.If you beat around the bush,thats what you will get.A bush and a big stick to knock yourself upside the head with.
Im just so tired of those looking for someone else to fill their void.Anyone can sound terrific online.Sure why not?You cant see,hear or feel any emotion.Beside's you can get comfy in your own surroundings.Gee, this is great I can sit here and get emotionally involved with words on a screen.BRILLIANT! Why didnt I do this sooner?I can have my cake and eat it too.Of course that isnt what you are telling yourself.You like feeling admired and appreciated by those words.You cant wait to get home and check your email so you can have that warm fuzzy feeling.This person understands me,they know the real me.Thats what you tell yourself.Works for awhile im sure."Why dont we take this to the next level(another much used phrase)and talk on the phone."Sure! sounds great!They only live on the other side of the country or another country altogether.Wow! sounding better isnt it?Makes you want to try it.Then comes the expense of the phone calls.Frequent at first,then daily or many times daily.You suffer at work due to lack of sleep.You avoid friends and family,lets face it you dont have the time.It is a lot of work to wait on those phone calls,another full time job.Your way of living suffers,you start looking sloppy,your surroundings could be falling down around your ears,you dont care.Here comes the "word".....SOULMATE.....this person is my soulmate.Bullshit! you wouldnt know your soulmate if they jumped up and bit you on the ass.It's a word people.Soulmate is used as an expression,just an expression.It makes you sound true and kind,that you can and will withstand any hardship with this person.Bullshit,thats what sums it up, is bullshit.
If you see yourself in this im truly sorry.Im not picking on any one person or persons.Im voicing what I feel and what I've experienced.It's very sad we can all get caught up in the moment.When that happens we make bad decisions that can either wake us up or cause a huge catastrophe.It may change your way of life,it could take everything you own.Think before you sink,pardon the pun.
People are selfish.Therefor,they justify what they do.Whether it is cheating on their spouse,cheating on their taxes telling those little white lies.No one wants to be seen as a heartless bastard when they have wronged someone.So they tell themselves "it was their fault,if they had only given me the ______(fill in the blank)this would not have happened". That is one big crock of shit,we all know it is.Most of us are guilty as sin in this regard.You say "I've invested too much time,I dont want to hurt him/her,he/she will get half of what I earned,I cant do this to my kids".Again bullshit.Nonsense blathering of a selfish person.You dont do as you should because you are afraid.Im not talking about the closet monster.You are afraid that you might be wrong.If you are true to yourself and the ones around you,you would do the right thing for everyone involved.
Ah,but you dont.Your lies become even more grandiose,you even start to believe your b.s.Here's a news flash your other half is onto you,they know somethings up.They resent you,you discust them.Doesnt matter what your "new" interest thinks of you really.You are still in the cloudy area,where you need that "fix" that only they can provide.Only this person understands and accepts you the way you are.Bullshit,kiddo you are fooling yourself.What you have become or maybe you already have been all along is a lying,manipulative dreg of a human being.
Think before you leap.Simple,corny but true.All the reasons you feed yourself dont matter.Depression set's in,self imposed depression.Soon you dont look as "terrific" as you once did to your "new" interest.They find you as simple and deceitful and too much emotional work.So you look for another then another to keep filling this void.Maybe, just maybe, this is a self imposed void?Makes you think, doesnt it.Maybe you are the problem,maybe you share more of the blame.By God you are human.Son of a bitch,im human.Who would of thought that you bear half the burden?
If you are having an affair or considering one dont be ass and go for it.You will come out looking and behaving like a heartless bastard.Let's face it working on finding number two while you are still with number one is stupid.I've heard soooooo many excuses and thats all they are,are excuses.You do it because you feel justified,your needs are not being met whether emotionally or physically.Most of you are past the seven year itch.The newness went out the window along time ago.People get lost in the day to day.No one looks good in the morning and quite frankly we all stink when we wake up our breath,body, fill in the blanks.We become familiar,we let our guard down.When you used to run home early in the marriage because you couldnt wait to get your hands on your spouse,those days are well over.You would do anything to have that passion again.But....theres always a but, one of the kids is sick the dog just pooped on the new carpet your Mother just called (mood dampener) and now your in trouble with the spouse for God knows what.It's called life,and life must go on.If you dig down deep maybe you can find that you still do like your spouse,that you enjoy them,you love them.If you cant, let them go respectfully let them keep their dignity.After all didnt you promise in the beginning to be there for the bad and the good?
If you are coming out of divorce,you need time to heal.You need to deal with your anger,resentment and hurt feelings.Divorce is like death.You need to mourn,have your tantrums,pity party then move on.Be respectful to yourself,dont involve another person because you are lonely.Thats selfish and foolish,to all involved.It's just plain mean.Divorce sucks but you can move on and have in the end have a great life.
If I have offended you,I cant help you there.You will just have to be offended.Life really is'nt cut and dry.To go around hurting others because you feel justified really stinks.I am divorced,still sounds wierd when I say it.But so it goes,im divorced and it's ok with me.
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Posted by pitapie50 on 2008-02-19 10:18:09 | Rating: | Views: 195
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This is a great post!
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Posted by wlamebull
on 2008-02-19 10:51:31
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Thank you for the comment Bull.Excuse the pun I am just trying to take the bull by the horns!
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Posted by pitapie50
on 2008-02-19 11:47:24
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Nice to hear from you Luci thank you for the comment.It is so sad.This electronic age is a double edged sword.Helpful for some and and downright catastrophic for others.I suppose it is all in the way the individual chooses to use it.Unfortunately, what most people think they have lost is right next to them.The person that will give them "eye" contact and understanding.Somewhere along the way some of us do forget and do some horrific things to the people we made promises to.
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Posted by pitapie50
on 2008-02-19 11:58:57
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I agree with you 100%!
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Posted by mizzprincess24
on 2008-02-19 16:33:17
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People who do things that are wrong usually have rationalizations... it's ok to steal this towel from the hotel 'cuz their prices are too high, it's Ok to cheat on my taxes because I am struggling to get by and I deserve more income, it's Ok to cheat on my spouse because they're not meeting my needs, etc. The funny thing is that a lot of the time these people actually believe their own excuses. They don't want to think of themselves as bad people so they make themselves buy into their own deceptions.
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Posted by hairytoad2005
on 2008-02-20 05:00:41
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So how do you wake these people up to show them the real truth?Like an almost ex-husband you still love that cheated on you and is ignoring his kids to be with his girlfriend and her family?
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Posted by prettywoman
on 2008-03-16 22:52:09
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Prettywoman I don't think that you can wake these people up.When a person is doing something that they know is wrong and hurtful to others,they make up excuses in their minds to make their behavior ok.They begin to justify what they are doing,it makes them less of a dredge in their own mind.What you have to decide is when you are no longer going to take this behavior,when you have had enough.Thats what it took for me.Both partners have to want to work their problems out.If one is living in lala land,theres nothing to work out.I wish it was as easy as knocking them upside the head,so they wake up.Unfortunately its not.It's hard and painful.Sometimes you have to cut them loose make your own plans,love your children.This one is the hardest thing to do,do not show your children what his decisions have done to you.Irregardless of his actions he will always be their father,you will have to deal with him.If this is something you are going through right now I am truly sorry.I wouldn't wish this heartache on my worst enemy.
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Posted by pitapie50
on 2008-03-17 06:56:08
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