How do you let a woman know that the vibe you're showing from the start is the real you?

And how does she know that all of what you said before she had sleeps with you will be backed up?

The answers to these questions are the same.

Credibility.

90% of the guys that think they don't have enough value lacks credibility. In fact, these days most of everything used to create value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

Actually "player vibe" is not a bad vibe, but it is just a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

Able to create credibility is one of the main components to sleep with a woman quickly.

And the other component is sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

So now we will focus mainly on credibility and let's get down to it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction

This is the most basic and fundamental level of credibility, before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you, you need to demonstrate SAFETY.

In order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you, you need to demonstrate COMMONALITY.

In order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you, you need to show DIRECTION.

A word about Social Programming

You have to realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have your own social programming. We all do.

It's not really a bad thing. In fact, it's very useful.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.

Men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible while women have evolved an instinct to choose a guy who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around with and capable to raise children.

These instinct are build by social programming.

A woman's programming is her reality. And literally that programming is her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

HERE'S A GOOD ILLUSTRATION ->

Imagine you are comfortably warm sitting in a chair in your bedroom..

And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch on where you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.

For sure you would feel pretty uncomfortable with him. You might even think he's crazy.

He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you.

Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand your world, and doesn't respect your world - He's "in his own world".

I bet you wouldn't trust a guy like that. And probably wouldn't want to connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

Same as thru with women. This is what they will feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.

If the girl thinks that it's a bad thing for a guy to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you also believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell.

Having the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility immensely.

You can think of the three levels in this way:

Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usualy good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.

But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match any woman's worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating the woman's thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

At first you will just be remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she's forgotten she's said anything.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That's when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She thinks "He's just like me!"

This is the easiest thing in the world but it's a major piece that will improve your game dramatically. So don't mess with it.