Don't you hate when a long time friend of the opposite sex gives you an ultimatum? Either you be with them or they are out of your life? This is why I don't like to have alot of guys as my friends.

E and I were best close friends since elementary. I never even thought of him as more than a friend. To make the story shorter, his parents are pressuring US to date each other. Isn't that a turn off when a guy has his parents in our business?

I told E that I didn't want to be in a relationship. I went to his house one time with his parents being there. We were at the dinner table and I swear I heard his parents say something about maybe he can start dating and lose your virginity. E assured to his mother that he and I are going to be a couple. I have already told E that I am not interested in a relationship. I know what most of you are thinking. I am thinking WTF! I told myself that is not going to happen. Nothing will develop more than a general friendship between us.

I knew that E thought that if we spent more time together (going to a movie or the mall and etc), he would think that I will eventually want a relationship with him so I kept avoiding his phone calls and ignored his texts.

One day I had told him that I was gonna go the movies with him and then I cancelled out the day before because I don't want to spend alot of time with him thinking I want him to be my boyfriend. Normal reaction, he was disappointed. "Thats messed up about how you are doing me", he told me in a text message. I should of told him that I couldn't go. I don't know why I gave him a mixed message. I guess it was because I kinda wanted to win back his friendship and because I didn't want to hurt him further. I have alot of tendencies of pushing people away, especially guys.

A few weeks later, he told me on the phone that I got the end of the week to spend some time with him or he is gone. WTF! The reason why I been avoiding him is because I don't want to lead him on with him thinking that I want to be with him just because I am chilling with him as a friend. Since he never actually told me that he loved me or liked me but the way his parents acted gave me a sign that he did. He tells me that he wants to be with me and he loves me. I told him that I am sorry but I love you as a friend and nothing more than that. He argues with me over a text message saying oh so you are a lesbian? Is that why you don't want to be with me?

He says he saw that lesbian orientation on my page which is not true and also says I told him that I was gay which is a damn lie. I never told that fool that I was lesbain and I never even told him I was attracted to girls so thats why I'm confused (I had bisexual on my page and didnt add an orientation before I put bisexual). I have No fucking idea of what he is talking about. Additionally, he goes on to add I'm not looking for a friend, I want a girl who loves me and if you can't love me the way I want, then I don't want to be your friend. I told him that I am NOT a lesbain but I am bisexual and two that has nothing to do with being with you. He accuses me of lying to him which is bull crap but i didn't even text him further, I just ignored him and deleted his phone number. I just text him Good bye, I will not explain myself further. I am sorry you feel that way but I can't be with you for alot of reasons and I told him I will not explain what those reasons are at his request. He accuses me of ruining our years of friendship.

My take on all of this is I feel hurt that he isn't in my life anymore but at the same time I don't care. I know I sound cruel but I told him that I don't want to be with him so he has ruined our friendship by giving me an ultimatum of being with him or he is out of my life. It's not my fault that he can't handle being just my friend when he wanted something more. Isn't wrong for me to feel this way? Do you think just because we were best friends for a long time and I am a female that I have to be with you? That is his loss, not mines.