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so many of you know that since EC and I have '"ended" things, our sharing parenthood has just gone downhill faster than a kid on a soaped up slip n slide. It had gotten to the point that EC and I were not on speaking terms. Ok wait let me re phrase that... EC refused to talk to me about anything, and even sent in wifey to handle his "dirty" work of dealing with me. Granted I KNOW wifey willing skipped right into place, coming to the rescue of her distraught man to handle the Bitch who's upset him.... (please read that with the sarcasm intended) If you remember my past posts (have since been deleted) you know I've always handled her with a strained sweetness, aka pleasantly bitchy. Today was no exception. I called EC to arrange visitation for the remainder of the month, and while he said he would call me back, in comes Sargent wifey to save the day and handle the discussion for him. ok. fine by me. I told her how it was going to be, and she balked (no suprise). Then after she came back with adjustments to the schedule I set forth, I shut her down nicely but flat out saying, um... no... it's going to be this way. So she smarts off by telling me she's sick of my attitude and sick of dealing with me.... OK, great have EC call me like I asked for in the beginning. ha! DUH!... EC calls and has attitude thoroughly laced in his voice. I tell him what I will allow for visitation, he tells me I'm being an ass about it, and that I'm pulling my pleasantly bitchy attitude with him and hangs up on me... well let me first explain, I wasn't really being bitchy, or even pleasantly so, I was just stating the facts, matter of factly, but whatever... so I gave EC about an hour to cool off... and I call him back since we had not set in stone the visitation arrangements. Now there is less angry attitude and more bothered attitude. so I told him that this animosity between us wasn't going to fly, and that we have to work this out for the sake of minime, now with that said, if he couldn't speak to me nicely and civily, and hear me out when I don't give him his way, then he could speak to my lawyer. He chose to speak with me. He told me what he thought, and I told him what I thought, and that I demanded to be able to communicate with him, otherwise we would have a set schedule, that I could guarantee he wouldn't like and we'd be done. I have bent over backwards to be flexible for HIS retail schedule and I've given way more than he deserves. I feel like everytime I give and inch, they're off and running for that proverbial mile. He said he just wants to see minime... I said I have no problem with this if everytime I didn't give in you wouldn't go off puffed up like a damn 2 yr old. That shit don't fly with me from Minime and I'm sure not going to take it off a grown man! He apologized, and promised to do better. Call my cynical, but I've heard that shit before. At any rate, we did manage to get visitation worked out, nicely. and during the nightly phone call, I asked him if we had cleared the air between us. He agreed that we had. so at least THAT's fixed and I can move on with being a mom of a baby girl who has to visit her daddy.
The analytical side of my head tells me that EC is breaking. He knows it's over between us, and it's hitting him full square in the face. Not only can he NOT have me anymore, but he can't shut me out, he has to DEAL with me b/c of minime. He's losing it. Just when he thinks he's regained composure enough, he sees me during the exchanges with minime. I KNOW it's eating at him, I KNOW it's killing him. I KNOW he's internalized everything to try to regain control. I know he's cracked, and I know it's only a matter of time before he full out breaksdown..... and I know I'm not going to be there to pick up the pieces. not this time, not ever again. It reminds me of a Kelly Clarkson song "Never again" some of the lyrics say "does it hurt to know I'll never be there, bet it sucks to see my face everywhere....",
To leave on a good note:
Country boy and I are still talking on the phone, having a blast. Laughin all the time, brightening each other's day with text messages... and generally like talking to one another. I can't wait to see him again!
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Posted by otherwoman on 2008-07-08 22:45:29 | Rating: | Views: 99
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Wow, is all I can say! I can't believe how strong you are being! Way to go.
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Posted by KarKar
on 2008-07-09 13:18:23
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I agree with Kar... you are being so strong! You rock... Go on with your bad self!
And I'm soo excited that you and Country Boy are still talkin! You deserve to finally have fun and be care free!!!!! :)
Keep us posted!
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Posted by helen1282
on 2008-07-09 17:57:54
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I am glad you are getting the upper hand. I am glad he is cracking. I read your story and EC was my ex-husband. Except my ex husband did leave me for her. (Sorry, no offense intended).
I hope you are making sure you look hot when he has to see you.
I am so glad you are not going anywhere near him.
He deserves what he gets... jaded?? a little... Bitter ... slightly... PMS - TOTALLY!!! :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-14 23:23:16
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