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Often, when we're unhappy, we fall into the habit of thinking, if only one or two particular things in our life would change, everything would be fine. We might focus on the fact that we need a new car, or a raise, or a change in our living situation. We dwell on this one thing and stretegize, or complain, or daydream about what it would be like to have it. Meanwhile, underneath the surface, the real reason for our unhappiness sits unrecognized and unaddressed. And yet, if we are able to figure out the underlying cause of our discontent, all the surface concerns just have a way of working themselves out.
Maybe I really do just need a new car, and maybe moving to another city would improve my life situation. However, it can only help to take some time to explore what's going on at a deeper level. Sometimes, when I take a moment and stop focusing on external concerns, I get to the heart of the matter. I realize that all my life I've been dissatisfied, grasping at one thing after another, only to be dissatisfied about something else once I get what I want. Or prehaps I'll notice a pattern of running away from a place, or a relationship, when things get too hard. I might then wonder why this keeps happening, and how I might work through the difficulty rather than just escaping it. The point is, slowing down and turning my attention within can save me a lot of energy in the long run, because it is very often the case that there is no external change that will make me happy.
Once I've taken the time to inquire within, I start trying to make changes to the deeper issue. It's so hard at first, especially when I've been grasping everything from the outside sources to quell my discontent. But at the end, I realize, what I want, what I need, are things I already have =o) and to the things that I don't have... they are just a bonus to my life...
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