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Johnny Bravo: Great Scott. My pizza-sense is tingling.
You are correct - I am very judgmental and opinionated. You didn't hurt my feelings by making that comment. No worries!
My "judgment", however, comes from working with young parents every day, day in and day out. Plus, have experienced first hand the consequences of bad actions. I truly have good intentions with my comments. Certain things just rub me the wrong way and the words I choose may sound more hostile then intended.
I don't know you or Mandy and only make my intrepretations based upon what I read. And, what I have read, is that you both jumped out into a relationship together - baby is born - jumped out of a relationship - got involved with other people - jumped into a sexual relationship again - and now you're back together. It just seems that nothing has much weight or consequence to it and you both just do whatever feels right at the time and hope for the best.
I do wish the two of you the best and I'm sure your son is beyond happy to have the two of you together again. But, you two are still living like young single CHILDLESS people. That's my only concern.
Take care
Alright, judge ME all you want. But do me a favor and do NOT judge Mandy because you know nothing about her. All you know is the little bit I've written about her. She is a WONDERFUL mother. She is not making bad choices.
We did not JUMP into a relationship and just go have a baby! We dated Junior and Senior year of High School and were good friends before that. That's NOT jumping.
Yes, we made a stupid choice and got married too young and it ended in divorce. But we believed we were doing what was right for our child. How is that irresponsible?!
We've both had relationship but even older, divorced people with children do the same. IT'S PART OF DATING! I don't know how you get that we act like we are CHILDLESS? We both take great care of TC. Yea, I go to parties occassionaly, there's nothing wrong with that. TC is at my house every other weekend. And do you know where I am then? I am at home with him. LIKE I SHOULD BE. How is that acting like I don't have a child?! I support him. I supply him with everything he needs. He's loved and knows it. His parents like each other and he has the best situation a child can with divorced parents. What the hell is wrong with any of that?!?
Ok, please, somebody tell me if you agree with this person. I don't see what the hell they are getting at. Honestly, it has pissed me off but if it's true...if anybody else sees this, please point it out because that means I'm fucking blind!
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Posted by noahseth on 2008-06-22 23:33:59 | Rating: | Views: 113
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Hmmmm - Well firstly let me say, why is this person emailing you personally?? and not commenting down here like the rest of us do??
And secondly you are blogging for your own benefit and to share your world...NOT TO BE JUDGED!
I've been following your blogs, and my take on your life (if I may be so bold) is that you guys dated, "accidentally" fell pregnant, and I'm sure although you wouldn't change a thing now, because you both love your son, you weren't planning on having a child so young.
You then chose to get married to be responsible, I'm sure you loved each other as 18 year olds do (no offense) and to give your child a family life.
Then realising it wasn't working, you divorced. Which is again responsible since feuding parents don't necessarily help kids.
You then co-parented. And at the same time continued to ENJOY LIFE. Life should not stop because you have a baby. Infact that is where life breaks down when people forget how to live their lives and start trying to live only through their kids.
So what if you go to parties and enjoy yourself, as you say 30's somethings do exactly the same. You did not expose your Son to this partying, so where is the harm? Your Son seems to be always with someone who loves him, whether that be yourself, Mandy or relatives. WHERE IS THE HARM??
How does this make you a bad parent? or Mandy for that matter.
Noah spends more hours with his son than my 38 year old ex husband, who generously (?sarcasm) gives our kids 8 hours of his time a week. My ex is always OUT on the TOWN with his mistress. Seeing our kids has to work around his social schedule. HE is the one acting like he is childless.... not Noah who fits his social life around his responsibilities putting his son first.
Reveal yourself SECRET COMMENTER... so that we can all get a better understanding of where you are coming from.
Sorry .. this has turned into a bloody essay, but I live and breath bad parenting on a daily basis,
What Noah shares shows he is doing a fantastic job with his son, and I can't speak for Mandy, but she appears to compliment Noah as a responsible parent and I wish them both the best and congratulate them with the way they are dealing with teenage pregnancy! *taking a breath!* :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-06-23 00:01:39
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"you two are still living like young single CHILDLESS people. " - this is something that any narrominded person would say. i wonder what's the basis of that person to tell you that you and mandy are like young single childless people when in fact both of you are just doing what is right as parents. duh.
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Posted by waitin
on 2008-06-23 02:12:39
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As long as TC is loved and cared for by his parents, I think you are doing a great job. And from what I've read he sounds a happy and fun loving child.....much healthier than a child living in an unhappy home.
Some blog to release the thoughts, fears, dreams, aspirations and emotions in our hearts......keep blogging Noah for your own reasons and be true to you :)
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Posted by Kaybee
on 2008-06-23 02:22:58
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Noah: One sentence covers this all..
Do not let the bastards get you down
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-06-23 11:14:44
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I don't think this person knows anything about life. You sound like you are doing the best you can, and that is what you should be doing. I agree with whiteknight.
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Posted by KarKar
on 2008-06-23 12:05:32
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You are doing everything in your power to help your son to grow into a responsible, kind, and successful man. That is all anyone, at any age, needs to do.
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-06-23 15:49:03
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Noah, I have been reading you for a while and can see how much you love and care for your son and Mandy. Life gets rough and you both have made the best out of what has been thrown at you.
We can not all live lifes dictated by what others believe to be wrong or right, mostly because every person sees these things differently.
Just like everyone else said as long as TC is cared for, safe, nurtured, and supported then the only thing left to do is take care of yourselves...and it sounds to me like you are doing a damn good job at both of those things.
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Posted by Katydids_and_daisies
on 2008-06-23 21:42:17
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Obviously this person is perfect and holds the answers to everything in life. If we could all only be soooooo immaculately conceived! It must be a hard job filling the role and shoes of God!
Noah don't give this person a second thought! They only see what you write and obviously can't read between the lines or they'd see the love you've got for this little boy no matter how he got here. Peace!
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-06-24 11:38:55
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