So...out of extreme boredom here, I decided to surf the web and see what I could find as far as articles, relationships, all that good jazz...I'm seriously disappointed in society. Ok, so to start with this was a men's magazine...my first mistake, lol. So...thier proposal advice, everything from the score board at a game, please NO, unless she is a major sports fan, save it. Another of thier lovely tips was to propse under water while scuba diving...hmm...ok, lets say she says yes, you drop the ring...who's swimming for that one? Not me..lol, and if she decides to say no...how do handle that...she shoves you into a shark? To conclude the stupidity here, cause really it doesn't get worse than this one for me.... **during sex** for love of God and all that is holy...NO!!!!! While she may say yes, how do you know if it was to the question, or the desire to "finish" shall we say? And if she says no...lol...how ya gonna get out of this one? She's in a bad position possibly in more than one way, and you...well...you have many very sensitive areas exposed...really wanna try it? So...for the men out there that read this, please please please...think about her, and what her personality is. What makes her happy, what is her favorite place, food, thing, color, anything....and just consider, your proposal is the first step into a commitment that should last a lifetime. You should be showing her your desire to care for her and about her. Don't make her feel all uncomfortable with the strangeness of off the wall proposals. It should fit and match the relationship and connection the two of you have.
Now...lets talk about the other advice they had...long distance relationships. Wow...so, while everyone has an opinion or an experience to go with this subject, I am living it as we speak...and it's not as bad as people make it out to be. Yes, the two of us are frustrated, and bored and lonely. We pass the time with phone calls, emails, text messages, and general concearn for the other person. Some of the advice I read in this magazine was hideous. Playing the game of cat and mouse while in a LDR...very very bad thing. Telling her that you want to date others and see how it goes...uh really? You either want it or you don't. Distance really does make the heart grow fonder. If the relationship is solid and the two of you can talk openly about everything...and I mean everything, you will be fine. Just remember to talk. Call often, consider for a minute what that person far away is feeling, and chances are if you're thinking about them, they are thinking about you....call her!!! The article said...regarding phone calls...girls like to talk, they talk to thier friends about everything, they curl up on the couch with a glass of wine and chat...it's the equivalent of guys at a bar with a beer, they continued on to say that you are not one of her friends, you should control the conversation so that when you mention a seafood place, she will not go into some story about how her dad used to take her fishing all the time...guys don't care. Have any of you ever considered that..maybe just maybe...that is the problem right there. One, you should be her friend, duh, you want to spend the rest of your life with her, or even a few months...you have to be her friend to get anywhere close to that place in her heart. When I think of Andy...ok besides the butterflies and comic strips of fun that run through my head and heart..I think of him as my best friend, closer than even my best girlfriend. He should know more about me, about what makes me happy, sad, angry, thrilled, terrified, and generally peaceful. He should be the one to know all of your secrets...he wants the rest of my life...he needs to REALLY REALLY know me. This may seem all foriegn to you men, you may think I have lost my mind and that I possibly drank a little too much tonight, I assure you all I have had is coffee...all day. :) All we want is to know that you guys can know every detail and still love us. Every flaw, and every little scar, every happy memory and every sad one. I have shared a lot of myself with Andy....more than I thought I would have in 4 days...there are still a couple of things we haven't talked about, and few things that he and I haven't shared, but thats where time comes into play. I'm not saying we should all spill our life stories on date 3...but really..once you know it's going further than the bed...start talking. I need to find my way to that empty bed again...soon it shall be warm and cozy just waiting for us...until then..I'll cuddle the shirt he left and the teddy bear he gave me when we 15. have a great night everyone!!!
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quick note....one of their other suggestions was through email, may I ask where the creativity is in that one?!?!?
Posted by nikilynn1113 on 2007-10-10 20:10:16 | Rating: n/a | Views: 91
I will say this, and just my opinion, if you tell a man how to propose and limit his creativity you will begin the slow killing of all that part of him. Women wonder why they marry a man that will do all the great romantic things he does while they date, then years into a marriage he has stopped...it is because of the type of thinking above. I will agree that doing it at a stadium might be over done, but listen, you guys hopefully get the chance to tell us a few times..and that first time is the one that is the biggie emotionally in some ways..that we will be a dad. We do not restrict that. While it was a TV show, tell me that you did not love the episode of I LOVE LUCY where Ricky is told he will be dad as he sang" We are having a baby. my baby and me"...I would have killed to have my wife do that!!!! And trust me I had great ideas how to ask her, and ended up doing it in such a lame way that was so boring I want to cry thinking of how I wasted that moment.
I'm not suggesting limiting the creativity, only to think about it and realize that you are proposing to HER...don't you think it should be more tailored to her likes than your own? I agree it should be special to both of you. Recently, my little brother proposed to his now fiance, he called one day just freaking out...he got the ring. He was looking for ideas, wanted to know what i thought. I asked what thier plans were, what did they do together, where would they be for the weekend, are you going out of town, are you having a cozy couch weekend? He told me they were going bowling and they were going to the apple orchard for the day. I suggested since she has never been to the orchard and it was something she was very evry excited about that maybe he place the ring around the stem of the apple, and get down on one knee in the middle of the orchard and ask...he decided it was a great idea, and she would love it!! Yeah then he decided to be a dork and get ahead of himself, and did it the night before he was suppsoed to at her work infront of her entire staff. She's a manager at a restaurant...she was not impressed, although she did say yes. I understand that it's a very very scary experience, but why do you guys let yourselves get that nervous. Shouldn't you already know the answer before you ask the question? As far as sharing the news of fatherhood...when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, he is actually the one to read the test and tell me...I get to carry this child for 40 weeks, he should get to read the test...he loved it and was thrilled. With our second child, I already knew I was pregnant before I even took the test, so I handed him the stick and said congrats dad...before the test even finished. : ) When it comes to Andy and I however, I will never get the joy of telling him we will be having a child, as I can no longer have children. It makes me sad to not get to share that moment with him.
