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There are those sweet moments in time we should bottle and keep forever. This is part of the reason why I do the job I do. I love to capture time. The events of today I couldn't capture on film, I couldn't capture them any place other than my heart and my mind.
For almost 2 years now, Andy has been searching for his son, Jaysen. He has gone as far as hiring a private investigator, and no luck. No one could even tell him if his ex-wife had remarried. Since getting together, we have discussed looking for him, finding him, and getting custody of him. I am all for it...why not have two 4 year olds? I love this man and he is a package deal, just as I am. We have looked around...I have looked a lot online. I finally found her today, on Myspace ofcourse. Go figure. There are pics of my step son on her page...he's beautiful. I went through her entire page before telling Andy. I found her cell number posted in a blog, and found her last name in another. I texted him after he wouldn't answer my calls, and told him to call asap, I found Jaysen. He called as soon as he could, and although I somehow instinctivley knew already that it was his son, I had to ask him the questions. I asked what she looked like, tattoo's and the sort, and then I described what I was looking at, and he confirmed what I somehow already knew. I emailed him all the pictures and info I could, and gave him her phone number. He sent her a text...and the next thing you know they are on the phone. I would like to say that I knew what was happening, but I don't know all the details. I know she claimed to have mailed him a letter saying where she moved to, but to his old address...he never got it, obviously. Andy will be seeing his son in a couple of days when he calms down...not a good time to see your kid after you find out the little things that have been happening in his life for 2 years. She is a member of the Rocky Horror Picture Show there in Maricopa, where she lives. She has been letting thier son watch this "movie" on tv atleast since he was 3....as she so proudly posted in her blog. I was mortified to see some of the pictures she posted of herself online. While looking through everything, I also found out her husbands name...and thier wedding date....as they had it tattooed to thier arms...I suppose rings weren't enough?? She wore black fishnets and knee high hooker boots with her wedding dress. I knew finding Jaysen was a good thing, I will always believe that it is a good thing. I wish however that he wasn't having such a hard time with it. He is thrilled about finding his son don't get me wrong...but dealing with the ex-wife is harder than I thoguht it would be. I did it with Pat, but I had to do it directly, with Andy I have to be there for him and watch him hurt instead of trying to fix it for him. It's a different feeling and experience for me, watching someone I love hurt. I apologiized to him today and told him how sorry I was for his anger he was feeling towards her, and he stopped me because I had the wrong emotion. He said to me "honey, it's not anger that I feel, it's hurt. I am hurt that the woman I married once and share a child with doesn't have enough respect for me and our son to tell me where they are living and what they are doing, I'm hurt that she would keep him from me." I am greatful that I could help him to find his son, and I am grateful that I could share that with him....what better gift to him than my love and time and compassion for what he is going through.
I need to get to bed as I have to work in the morning....I hope all of you have a fabulous night and great dreams!!!
~Nancy Drew~
(heee heee haaa haa)
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Posted by nikilynn1113 on 2007-11-07 21:36:42 | Rating: | Views: 110
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You did the greatest thing anyone could ever do for another. Hopefully you will marry and be able to get his son. It is not going to be easy dealing with his feelings. God be with you.
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Posted by memyselfi
on 2007-11-07 23:36:51
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With the writters strike and all,,a new reality series,,NIKKI THE MY SPACE HUNTER...you find him and the son on there...suggestion if you owe this lady $$$ and want to never pay..no My Space page
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2007-11-08 03:42:04
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memyselfi~ Thank you much for your thoughts. I am grateful to have been able to help him find his son, and I can't wait to marry this man, I love him so much!!!
hugz~niki
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Posted by nikilynn1113
on 2007-11-08 05:53:12
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WK~ you crack me up dude!!! Niki the Myspace Hunter....
lmao~~~ Have a great day!!
Niki
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Posted by nikilynn1113
on 2007-11-08 05:55:25
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Wow! I applaud your selfless and successful efforts. Well done. :)
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Posted by Refugee
on 2007-11-08 09:41:01
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Refugee~ Thank you...I love that I could help him to find his child, and I love that I will now have my stepson in my life, and soon, I will be able to call him my son....
Niki
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Posted by nikilynn1113
on 2007-11-08 13:19:48
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