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So, I was at work today sneaking on thoughts.com when I saw that the baton was passed to me. I immediately began to rack my brain trying to come up with something. I thought of many questions, but I still couldn’t decide until I got home today and turned on the TV. Seinfeld was on (love that show). It was the episode where Jerry stopped seeing a girl because she had “man hands”. Sooo that leads me to the question…..(2 parter)
1. What stupid, petty reason have you dumped someone over? Or what is a trivial reason you wouldn’t/didn’t date someone?
And to counteract that question…..
2. Pick someone you are/were completely head over heels for…..what made you realize you had fallen for this person? (Was it something they did or said? Was it something someone else said? Was it hearing a particular song? Was it a certain situation or experience you went through?? Etc…)
My answers:
1. I once stopped seeing a guy, because he seemed too innocent for me and he was a bad kisser. I kept giving him chances to improve, but every time we kissed I felt like a window some little kid mashed their mouth all over.
2. I realized I had completely fallen for a guy when I was at work one day. A girl there had an arranged marriage, and was talking about she gets up at 6am everyday to cook breakfast for him. I went on and on about how I would never do that….he can make his own breakfast. Well, then another girl asked me if I would do that for the guy I was currently seeing. I felt like the wind was knocked out of me as the realization of my feelings flooded through me. I thought, ‘Oh shit….I would do anything for this guy….I’m in trouble now.’
I can’t wait to read all your responses!! I pass the baton to……KarKar!!!
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Posted by nakedtruth on 2008-06-21 03:09:01 | Rating: | Views: 343
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Never been the dumper, been the dumped, and the best one I ever got was that while she was not commiting to anyone she could only date one man...HUH???
And I knew I loved KP when I heard her say "Hi babe" the first time. Those words made me melt and my heart dance
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-06-21 07:57:07
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Ok I have never dumped anyone for petty reasons I do not believe... Now I have refused to date someone for petty reason though... there is a girl I know that I would never date just because she thinks she is the smartest person she knows. I thinnk you guys know the type... she is beautiful but I hate talking to her. If I say oh look at the cool green flower, I would get a responce, that is not exactly green it is more of a light olive color and I do not believe that is a flow because itis growing on a bush. Or if I say my arm hurts... I get a huge lesson on why and the names of things in my body that I care nothing about then a lecture about working out to hard opr something like that.
I allways fall in love with the eyes... it's not allways the color but also the way they look at me. And I lovea cute laugh because I am allways making people laugh.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-21 10:46:14
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1. Never dumped someone for a petty reason, at least in my own opinion. We had only been on one date and I called an end to it because she partied too much. Sound petty? at the bar atleast 4 times a week and driving home drunk afterwards.
2. She smiled and not just a smile.. my smile.. the one ment only for me. :)
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Posted by spiritualcoma
on 2008-06-21 12:41:15
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1. I've always had a good reason for dumping someone. I have, however, been dumped for what I thought was a stupid reason. Out of the blue, this guy I had been seeing said to me: "I can't date you anymore, your breasts are too big." HAHA. Turns out, the real reason was that he is gay... came out like a year later. (haha, or maybe I turned him.. who knows)
2. I was talking on the phone with him and noticed myself melting at his words and I had butterflies in my stomach. Later at work, a co-worker came over to me and tapped me on the shoulder. She had called my name several times, but I had not responded because I was lost in thought. She said to me "That sure is a big grin on your face. I know that look, you've got it bad." And I realized then that I had completely fallen for him.
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Posted by country_girl
on 2008-06-21 13:04:47
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never broke up on a trivial issue. but i refused to go out with this chick once when she asked me. we were in school and she used to PICK her NOSE in class everyday! and this wasn't 2nd grade or anything. it was friggin sophomore year, high school man!
second part. i might step off into a rant here, but whatevs!
so how is communication done? you imagine a scenario, a visual in your brain, something that you can understand and want to convey. lets say its a picture that you've imagined in your head. then you translate that mental idea into words. the listener picks up those words and tries to re-create a mental image of her/his own. now probability says that the picture you had in your head will NEVER be the same as a re-created version in someone else's head. there will always be some minor differences.
when i started talking to my angel, i noticed that she was completing not only my sentences, but my ideas. my pictures were her pictures all along. my toughts were her own. the extreme sense of comfort made me want to test the limits of our similarities and the list never ended. the way she used to say things to me, i was absolutely helpless. even though i tried (not hard enough) to keep myself from falling for her, due to circumstances, i couldn't help but want to love her. what absolutely confirmed it was when i spoke to her the first time. i felt like i KNEW her and yet she made me so nervous, i couldn't say anything. i just wanted to look in her eyes and just be in that moment.... stay there....
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Posted by Slash
on 2008-06-21 13:25:30
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i was dumped for not being ready at the time for a physical relationship. lol but it turned out really great for me. he was controlling, and i had to play the role of who he wanted me to be. I have dumped someone before, okay, this might sound harsh, but.. the guy had no personality. nicest person, just not the guy for me, there was absolutley no connection.
how i knew i had fallen for him. the day after we first talked, i felt so different. like a huge part of me was back, everything had meaning again, i woke up smiling, i felt alive again.
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Posted by pixierose
on 2008-06-21 13:38:02
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1.Alright, I may sound like an ass here but I’m going to be completely honest. Most everyone so far has said they haven’t dumped anyone for a petty reason. Well, I have. I dumped a girl because her laugh annoyed me. I know it’s terrible. She was a great person. Good personality, really smart, beautiful, and had the cutest little girl. We got along great. But her laugh did it. It annoyed me so much that I would try to avoid being funny at all cost. When she laughed, I would have visions of smothering her with a pillow just to shut it up. I know it’s petty but hey, you asked.
2.Bare with me on this one because I was just recently hit with this. How did I know? My now ex-girlfriend actually got me thinking by pointing out that I was probably acted a lot happier with my ex-wife. I tried not to believe it but I kind of looked back on how I feel about her.
-Everytime we’re together with our son listening to the Disney Mania CDs and Kiss The Girl comes on, I have an inner argument with that song about how much I would love to kiss her but it’s not always that easy.
-Everytime she would hug me or even brush against me, my heart feels like it will explode.
-When she cries, it tears me apart. I often end up fighting back tears of my own because it hurts so much to see them in her eyes.
-When she laughs, I know it’ll all be alright as long as I do get chances to see that smile. If she chooses to be with someone else or something, I can eventually be ok with that as long as I can see her smile.
-I was capable of writing a list of over 300 reason why I love her.
-Mandy more reason but I won’t bore you with them all.
Hm, I went from asshole to a romantic and I just wrote a freakin’ novel on here…sorry.
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Posted by noahseth
on 2008-06-21 15:19:15
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Another reason...while meaning to type the word MANY, I typed her name instead.
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Posted by noahseth
on 2008-06-21 15:20:27
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whiteknight-that is so sweet...I bet you get brought back to that exact moment every time you hear her say it!
DouglasMB-I would hate to talk to that girl as well!!! She sounds so annoying!!!
spiritualcoma-that is so sweet! And it doesn't sound all that petty to break up with someone for partying too much...you guys obviously didn't have the same interests in mind.
Countrygirl-that is hilarious that he said you're boobs were too big!! Also, I know exactly what you mean about having "that smile" stuck on your face all the time...it actually feels embarrassing for me, because I feel like everyone in the room can read my mind.
Slash-Ewww...if she had no qualms picking her nose in public, imagine what she did when she thought no one was looking!! haha Also, I think it may be impossible to keep yourself from falling for someone...no matter how hard you try.
pixierose-I know what you mean waking up with a smile on your face...feeling like you can do anything....aaahh love haha
noahseth-you don't sound like an ass...I asked for petty reasons, and you gave the perfect answer haha. Now imagine if all of a sudden your ex-wife had that girl's annoying laugh escape from her mouth one day....you would end up growing to love that laugh. I don't think it is the laugh itself, but who is doing the laughing....maybe?
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-06-21 15:43:28
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haha wow..when I first read that I seriously wondered if you typed her name instead! Too funny...you got it bad!
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-06-21 15:52:17
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1. I started to find this guy unattractive and I would find little things that bugged me about his looks-- the kicker? When I noticed his nostrils weren't the same size!! I broke up with him. :)
2. I realized I was in love with my current when I went against what my family and many of my friends thought I should do to be with him.
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-06-21 16:49:51
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1. I dumped a guy once bc his voice annoyed me...He had this new york accent that was like a Rocky movie....couldn't take it. Sorry New Yorkers!
2. I realized I was in love with someone when they 'listened' to me and didn't make me feel silly. I still do love them....
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Posted by lastblastkl
on 2008-06-21 17:38:27
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I've always been 'the dumped' really...and I dont think I would ever dump someone over a trivial thing...if it were trivial I wouldnt think it worth splitting over unless I thought it could escalate into someone more..irritating.
I realised I loved David when I first met him face to face. I mean I loved him before then, but the big meet still scared me, in case it changed his or my feelings. It didnt. He put his big strong arms around me, and I had my confirmation right there...and when he left to go home on the train, it hurt so bad I knew we had something I would never be able to let go of...and I never will...
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Posted by chebtastic1
on 2008-06-21 17:55:12
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The only times I've ever dumped somebody it was not over anything trivial. As for the second question, when we broke up I tried to date other girls... it didn't take me long to figure out that I didn't want any other girls, so we're back together again, and things keep getting better.
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Posted by seeker_of_truth
on 2008-06-21 18:34:17
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I wasnt really "going" with him, just seeing him alot over one summer, long story, although he (this person I was seeing) was a great guy and had a boat and we went water skiing daily...I had that summer off (a teacher at the time)but I had to stop going out with him becuase he had the worst breath I had ever encountered.
part 2
I was dating Joe, my husband... but at the time, he was someone I was "just seeing" Joe was giving his daughter (Nicole) a bath. He was sitting on the toilet (lid down of course) and I was on the floor in front of the tub just watching the love flow between the two! His wife, and the little girls birth mom, had died of cervic cancer...long sad story...I did not know either of them at the time...we were fixed up on a blind date afterwards... another story...
I had always wanted to marry someone who I felt would be a good dad, but never dated anyone with kids, so how would you know, I digress, so while watching him give her a bath, I thought if I could ust tap into this, Id be pretty lucky...so when ever anyone ever asked me when I fell in love with him, I answer, when he was on the toilet, lid down of course.
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Posted by roe
on 2008-06-21 20:19:04
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Many, many years ago,I dumped a guy because I hated the way he looked in his jeans (horrible, I know. As I said, MANY years ago.)I also dumped a guy because he was a horrible kisser and I couldn't deal with it. No apologies for that one.
I realized I had fallen for someone when we went to a Yankee game and it started to rain and he had thought in advance to bring me a disposable raincoat "just in case". I momentarily forgot that I had just learned my dad had stolen my identity (opened up credit cards in my name). I turned to mush.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-21 21:24:42
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When I was young the first guy I went out with hardly spoke two words. In hindsight he was probably extremely shy, but if you can't talk, there really is no point to it!
I realised I had fallen head over heels in love with my now hubby when I was 19 and sitting in an aeroplane waiting to fly overseas without him. I literally felt a pain in my heart and I knew at that moment, that I never wanted to be apart fom him.......mushy isn't it :)
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Posted by Kaybee
on 2008-06-21 22:07:39
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.....Im sorry, I was hung up on country_girl's first words:P
Um, I will give a subtle shade of an answer to these.
I once knew a girl who was a great girl in many ways, and we could have been perfect together--the way my classmates talked about us. But, every time I looked at her face, I saw my brother...so...I couldn't bring myself to go out with her. I felt bad about it too.
And, what tells me I am head over heels for someone often can be told in a photograph. Now, I realize that photos can vary with timing and expression. But, when I think of photos of those I've fallen for in the past, just one look at the energy in that face tells me "she could be the one"...though those words fly from my lips and make me sicker with every passing face...thus--adding all the bad experiences with other couples happenning around me--I have less optimism and confidence to try again. If not in a photo, it is just the energy a person brings to a room. You know the old saying "she lights up a room". Well, it is quite true. Although, I can't say I've officially felt over the top head over heels for anyone. If I did, I suppose I wouldn't be single. Then again, I could be head over heels, but the woman thinks I'm just a sweet guy to pass by.....
But, there are a few people that come to mind which I can remember a face and the light in the room and the feeling in my heart. And, at least one photo of a smile that I may never forget.
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Posted by brainstormer
on 2008-06-22 02:26:53
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Hmmm.. Well, for question 1, I can't really say I can answer that. I've never dumped someone, I've always been the dumpee, and I can't say I haven't dated someone for any petty reason.. I'm really not too picky. :P
Hmmm, as for question 2... It was with one of my exes, at the time we were only good friends, he was in a band and he wrote and performed this beautiful song for me, declaring a deep, unrequited love.. At the time I just thought to myself, "Maybe I should give him a chance.. You don't come across people that feel that way for you every day", I watched him perform it and I resembled a deer in the headlights, it was such a movie-esque way to do such a thing, but I felt like I was falling out of the sky or something! After all that, we were together for 16 months.. Long for a teenage relationship, I guess. :P I certainly don't miss him in the slightest, he just knew how to reel me in.. Although, I don't think he was manipulating me at the time. Either way, he's a thing of the past.
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-06-22 05:31:52
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Q1 - I have refused to continue to date someone because MY PARENTS thought he was great, mostly because he put on airs and graces in their presence. *saw how fake he could be*
Um another one was because he told me he was intimidated by me - because I was "gorgeous" and "intelligent" ... hmmm... whats wrong with being both?? Oh and I guess I really don't take compliments easily. *turned me right off!*
Q2 - pondered this for awhile, I fall for the guys who are amazing at what they do. You know the ones who excel at their chosen speciality.. that's why I have crushes on some Actors and Singers... and writers! e.g. Heath Ledger, Robbie Williams ...
sorry thats the best I can come up with at the moment...hmmm... Actually the guy from my work that I dated for awhile, although I couldn't say I "Loved Him" I fell for him because he was an extreme Gentleman, intelligent and had an amazing talent. He floored me really!
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-06-22 07:33:59
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I got rid of two guys for being way to ass kissy. They were just way too nice and smothered me.
I think what made want my husband so bad was the cockiness I hated. It was a "you can't tame me thing". I didn't care to tame him. I just couldn't stay away from him but did a GREAT job of not chasing him or feeding his ego.
Now that I know him the way I do I see the cockiness was a cover for his insecurities. Most steming from him being adopted. Didn't really ever figure that out or see it until his mother brought it to my attention.
Makes me wonder now the guys that just seem so full of themselves I blew off, I wonder what they were covering.
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-06-22 12:01:41
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Oh yes and I've seen the Man hands episode. Funny stuff! I've heard many say they hate that show but it's the best show about nothing I've ever seen! There is also a hidden Superman in ever episode. My husband started watching it saying he hated the show just to see if he could find Superman. I think we've seen them all and the hubby does like the show now too.
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-06-22 12:05:26
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Is dumping someone because they wanted too much sex a lame reason? Regardless, I did it. :->
As for when I knew I was in love... When I looked into her eyes the first time before we had ever been introduced… I thought to myself, she is the one that I want touching me for the rest of my life.
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Posted by pinkcouch
on 2008-06-22 18:12:55
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No comment on the last comment:|...>crickets<
Are you serious there is a Superman in EVERY episode of Seinfeld, and it is not just on his fridge or the statue on his bookshelf??
EasytoSay, you confuse me too. You dont take compliments well at all, and yet you dont see why a guy would abandon ship when he tells you that you are so intelligent and beautiful...Im getting a headache.
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Posted by brainstormer
on 2008-06-22 20:15:16
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Haha thats a good one!
1. I guess the dumbest reason I've dumped a girl was because she was too far away. I was young and stupid and decided to do that dating online thing. She lived in the UK and it was bad from the beginning. I told her I loved her and I started to have feelings for her but I realized that I loved (actually loved) someone else.
2. I realized I was in love with this girl about an hour after I broke up with that other girl. She didnt say anything or do anything, she was just herself. Thats what made me love her. Any girl who can act like themselves is a great girl.
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Posted by tpks53
on 2008-06-22 23:42:50
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Hmm...ok so i didnt "dump" anyone, but i politely declined going out with a few guys because i was already seeing my current boyfriend.
What made me realise i love him so much? I dont know, the way i blushed at everything he said...i'd never been told the stuff he said to me, it just came so easily to him...and i found myself smiling at each word. i realised when he went away for a few days and we both missed each other like crazy!! it was ridiculous how much we'd missed each other...i think we both realised its serious at that point :D
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