Two months since our separation, and all is going very well. We are still separated, but are working hard to get things sorted out and try again.

Ron is in counselling and working very hard to make things right. I've been struck with a bout of ill health (again) and he is rising to the occasion handling housework, cooking, finance, kids, whatever it takes. He is getting things done and in wonderful realization of what is going on. I may get flack for this, but have decided it is a relapse and though I have to work very, very hard on trust I won't turn my back on someone in need. That said, I'm going to counselling myself.

The other night we got into a fight because he did not contact his parents to tell them I'd had surgery and wouldn't be hosting a birthday party (for myself). I got angry because I had asked him to do it weeks ago, and he waited until the night before. His reaction was similar to what I'd been seeing the last few years.

Once calmed down, I asked him if the arguement we'd had been a trigger for him. He agreed it was. BUT a great turnaround for him was he recognized that he had indeed put off my request and knew I'd be nagging. I told him I knew I was a trigger to his behaviour by getting into his face. He then said "But, I know that I pushed you to that point. I have to figure out why I subconciously push you to the point that you get upset. I have to figure out why I can't just do things you ask me to do."

Big step. I told him I was crushing on him a bit. But I still made him sleep on the couch.