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OK. Now I'm over feeling sorry for myself and have determined that the following changes will be made to improve the situation I've gotten myself into.
1) After many wonderful suggestions to pray... I remembered to do exactly that. I prayed this morning for an answer to my question on what was missing and realized that we have not been to church for a long time. Prayers daily, but no church. When we did go in the past... things were well with my dh and myself. We need our god back in our lives. He wants to go, but I'm usually too exhausted. I need to reprioritize that. So...
2) I am going to focus more on myself, my husband, and just a little less on the kids play time. Don't get me wrong, they will have all the fun and love that they get now, but come summer I won't be breaking our backs to amuse them. DH and I are going to rejoin our slowpitch league! The kids can come watch us for a change!
3) If dh makes some choices which I disagree, unless they directly affect me or the kids or the house I'm just going to butt out and let him work it out.
4) I am no longer going to make the arrangments for dh, such as team managing, volunteer organizing, group get-togethers or pay for his annual fishing trip (which I am not allowed to attend cuz I'm a girl and you *don't* want me to get started there).
5) And lose 10 pounds. Just because.
There. I've written it, and will refer back to it, and will remember it, and will do it. I do reserve the right to add to this list - but cannot remove items. Even if the hardest to do is #5.
DH can write his own damn list.
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Well good! Goals set, life reorganized! Good, but you got to keep at least me informed, especialy with #4 thats a biggie for him, he might not Know it yet, but he will. Stick to it, I'll be reading.
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Posted by tonyrayhutchison
on 2008-01-02 18:51:39
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Sigh. I just realized that I'm doing "it" again, aren't I.
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Posted by mymidlifecrisis
on 2008-01-02 20:31:25
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It helps writing out our feelings.
Makes our resolves more concrete.
I seem to pray more, since I stopped going to church, just a lil' tid bit I thought I would add.
Best wishes with your goals.
One more thing, 10 lbs. is easy to drop, if you only eat when you are truly hungry, like feeling your stomach growl.
GROWL...then feed the LION.
Peace.
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2008-01-04 03:52:02
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Thanks DS and Scarby, I was beginning to lose hope and appreciate the support. I'll keep you posted on how it goes, if you like. But for what it's worth, I have yet to tell him this plan of mine. As I work on my enablinng issues, he needs to figure a plan for himself out himself. He took the initiative to book counselling sessions - on soccer night! But when he asked me to contact the coach, I told him that was his job. Kind of proud of myself!
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Posted by mymidlifecrisis
on 2008-01-04 21:08:38
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midlife,
I know it is hard to change the same patterns you know to do...I believe that God is working on you both to come together and get thru all of this...One day you willl look back on all of this and realize that you were just trying to save him from himself and there is nothing wrong with that...
God's blessings to you my friend.
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Posted by Hollis
on 2008-01-05 10:04:41
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Thank you so much J. I appreciate those words. xo
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Posted by mymidlifecrisis
on 2008-01-06 00:14:27
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