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I read an article in the paper yesterday,
how its official, 'Women to blame for men not knowing their place in society'
Once apon a time I would have laughed at something like that
and made a silly comment like 'awww poor men coochie coo'
but not this time, for some unknown reason i thought i would think it through
I laughed a few years ago, when I read something that was discovered by national statistics
'Suicide rate in men is all an all time high because they don't know where there place is anymore'
I ranted for a while about, how us poor women were kept in our place for long enough
Til those sufferagettes and those other Womens Lib movements pointed out
well, its not actually written anywhere that a womens place is in the home, chained to the kitchen sink, baby at the breast etc etc
so women faught for equal rights, and we are still fighting i guess, and i say we losely, as i know i may have got involved in a few work disputes (shop foreman me :) ) but none of them were about equal rights
So anyway, yes we are getting there in the equal rights department, and we should all be on the verge of happiness, but we're not, no one is, and why?
should men be happy that the burdon of being the breadwinner has been lifted a little from their shoulders?
should they be pleased that gradually their rights as a parent are slowly getting stronger?
The result of the survey that made the claim about the suicide rate explained that men still want to be the strong one (and yes they may well be built physically stronger in most cases) they still want to be the one in control, the one to care for his family, put a roof over his family's head and food on the table
That doesn't necessarily mean they want women to remain the 'weaker sex'
Is there a small chance that since this power change, that now men don't like the fact that now the work responsabilities are balancing out that the domestic ones are or at least should be the same?
i don't see anything wrong with the fact that if man and wife have both had a long day at work then they should be sharing the domestic work aswell, but then there is the complaint that a housewife's work is never done, she doesn't clock off at 5.30pm, put her feet up and wait for dinner to be delivered while watching TV
Don't get me wrong, i'm not taking a side here, i'm just thinking out loud, not sure which side of the ricketty fence i am on yet,
But i am intreagued to know why men are so unhappy with the way things are turning out in the equal rights
yet some men claim to love being these 'new men' that i keep hearing about, love being the house husband so to speak.
But still, i keep hearing these news reports and reading these statistics, and i haven't yet encountered one of these unhappy men
other than the ones who get fed up that its the wife who is down the pub 3 nights a week instead of him
And something that has been on my mind, something i miss, at what point during this power struggle did us girls give up the right to have a good old fasioned gentleman?
I wont deny that it is wonderful to have a man wine and dine, walk me home (when i was single obviously) buy me flowers, hold open a door etc etc
It seems that some men have been convinced that this is chauvinistic behaviour
I don't think it is
Is it not polite to hold open a door for someone?
why do these femenists feel patronised by such an action?
I really don't understand it, and would love to know what you think
Just because the power war has settled to an almost even keel, does that really mean that personal relationships between man and woman have to change?
do men spite being gentlemanly and treating a woman like a lady?
Have men lost respect for women because our drinking habbits and sexuality have come to a high similar to mens?
Then that gets to the age old argument about a man being a stud and a woman being a wh**e for the same behaviour, which i wont go into, but you all know what i mean.
what do you think?
please don't attack lol i am asking an opinion, i am not a femenist, i have read alot about femenism, but i am just very confused with the way things are.
I wasn't going to add a song, but this was too cute to resist he he
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Posted by missmarie on 2008-05-09 12:40:53 | Rating: | Views: 138
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I think about this alot(being a man) I would say in a normal situation in todays society,the man and woman share responsibilities. There is a respect for the woman. However men thoughout centuries,have beginning of time has run the show made rhe decisions. I think a woman expects a dominate male. Anything else throws the progam out out of wack.Of course in a long standing marrriage the woman may have to take over due to the husbands sickness. equality and fairness are keys here
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Posted by flipmaster
on 2008-05-09 13:08:42
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I agree Flipmaster, but then you look at the land girls during the world war, they ran the country's industry pretty much while all the men were fighting the war, it's amazing to think, in times of desperation, women can be relied apon, sometimes expected to get on with it, yet in normal day to day, they would be considered to weak perhaps to do similar things.
(still not taking sides)
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-05-09 13:35:34
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Since everybody knows that women are smarter than men, it's up to us to achieve equality/superiority, while at the same time, bamboozling our menfolk into believing that they're still in charge of things :P
Pounce not! I'm kidding!! (sorta)
Sincerely, though, I see nothing wrong with chivalry. In fact, I've been known to be a tad miffed when a man lets a door go in my face. Some acts of up-bringing or just plain manners should be held to in the name of tradition. I've raised my son to open doors and treat women with respect. It's just nice and if it's not doing anyone any harm (quite the contrary) then why not keep it going? Sure, I can open the damn door for myself, but I enjoy having it held for me. It speaks volumes about a man who does this.
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Posted by BootLady
on 2008-05-09 15:22:55
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Great way to end your post with that song! Funny!
I still dont have any idea how to put a song on here, so I guess I'll just have to ho hum!
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Posted by roe
on 2008-05-10 00:45:06
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Bootlady, i think we all enjoy other peoples manners, maybe some people just don't apreciate them for what they are, and then some of these uber-femenists look for arguments and chauvenism where there is none and cause arguments for the sake of it!
I know there are still gentlemen out there, but they are becoming few and far between nowadas :( awww
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-05-10 09:32:26
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Oh Greenersky, now there is a real gentleman, i hope you wern't offended honey...or did Tammy drive you away?
blimey!
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-05-10 09:33:25
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Hey Roe, i thought the song was cute he he
I have mailed you some tips on the Music Player, hope they are helpful xx
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-05-10 09:34:16
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chivalry was beat to death her in the south, you yourself have got on to me for the ma'am stuff, but it lives. I never know how much of a man I'm allowed to be with a woman, she says she wants strong but how strong? she says she wants a povider, but to what extent? Its so hard, but I will always be the best me that my Grandmama tried to make me be;)and if she thinks its to degrade her, well then she doesnt understand a true man.
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Posted by tonyrayhutchison
on 2008-05-10 16:58:02
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I moan at you for the ma'am stuff because in the Uk we don't use the phrase and i told you it makes me feel old, its like if someone calls you Mr Hutchison, i bet you think, 'thats my dads name'
any way, the point, there is a fine line, some women love a romantic hero type and others prefer the weaker men. like guys i guess, some like dominent women and others like a fragile heart...
the answer i guess is, its each to their own
thanks for reading the non sexy post tony lol x
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-05-10 17:07:12
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As long as I am stillkickin, I'll hold the door for a lady. When I am old and/or decrepit, I hope a lady would hold the door for me. In any case, we are all bumbling around in this world stepping on toes sometimes.Can't be helped, no one posted the rules on our foreheads.
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Posted by stillkickin
on 2008-05-11 00:04:51
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I say we both forget the housework if we are exhausted or frustrated with our "day jobs":P I will do as I please and be chivalrous when I feel like it and not when Im not. Blah. Tired old issue has dust all over it. Women and men are not built alike, but that is about it. Ive talked this matter to death...sort of like another matter abotu a certain type of mate:P...hmmm...
Mr Hutchinson is on the job. Give em a post, and he is on top of it. Must be her latest photo that did it:P
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Posted by brainstormer
on 2008-05-11 00:53:43
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I say men be men and let the doors fall or open where they may.... ""jus' act like you still adore us... it'll woo those of us'n worth a woo-in' I say ladies still 'preciate any man wit a few manners..... I think that's all we'd a ever axked fer any how....""
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Posted by lampoil
on 2008-05-16 18:15:01
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