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the worst halloween ever.

this has got to be the worst halloween ever! normally, i'm all done decorating by now, already have the kids costumes planned out and working on them and figuring out plans for us adults as well. but there's one thing stopping me.........

no money!

between supporting 3 kids, and a man from time to time, myself and a storage bill that's past due, i'm broke.

my oldest needs money for field trips, my son needs money for his shop class and my youngest has to pay off her fines for court.

the lady that owns the storage facility is at least being nice about it. she's giving me the chance to pay it off alil a week, but that's actually where most of the money is going.

my man, well he's somethin' else. when i told him that i have to pay off storage, one way or the other, he got alil upset. he hasn't been making very much money as of late and i'm starting to wonder what his true motives are. i told him that i was gonna pay $50/wk. he said that i should pay less, so we can live. i'm thinking, wait a minute here, i have to pay this off or i lose my kids' stuff. that's more important! to me it is anyway. he for some reason doesn't think so. he goes on to ask me, "what really is in there that's so important? what's in there that cannot be spared?" i told him my kids' stuff. he said, "what's in there that we can just replace later?" i'm thinking these questions are getting really stupid and common sense can answer them. then i start to think, he's just being selfish and is worried that i won't have money to support him. there are just sooo many things that are wrong with that, i don't eve know where to begin!

he finally said that it wasn't fair of him to ask me to just stop paying storage. but it still makes me wonder what he was really getting at. when i told him that i will only have like $23/wk to my name for a lil while, he was noticeably upset.

then he gets upset cuz he has to work more. he hasn't really been getting much work since we moved. he's angry that he has to go get a regular job. i don't know what to say to that other than what took him soo long? then he throws an old fight in my face. *sigh*

we were having our normal arguement over money and he basically tells me that "I" have to do something. i said, "fine! i'll go out and get a job." he gets angry and says, "no, cuz then i will feel bad that you are supporting me." i told him that i am anyway, cuz, face it, he hasn't been doing good with work lately.

well, a week later he's bringing up that arguement saying, i told him that i want him to support me fully. i NEVER, ONCE, said that. i told him that i don't think it's fair for me to have to support everyone, myself! and i'm thinking that's what he wants from me. i just can't do it. he agreed at the beginning of the relationship that it would be 50/50. and at frist it was. but now it's not. he says, "no, you never said that! you said that you want me to support you fully!" i told him to believe what he wants to believe! that's not what i said and he knows it! for some reason he's been turning things around on me and accusing me of doing it to him. so, i just walked away to cool off, while he's telling me that i'm running and avioding the truth. about a half an hour later, he tells me that he's sorry, that he's only trying to say that i told him that i didn't want to support him fully and that it made him feel bad. *extra big sigh*

ok at least we're on the same page now. but that still doesn't change the fact of what he tried to do and then realize it wasn't working, so he back tracks and agrees with me. then trun around and deny the fact what he said in the first place, wasn't what he said. i told him that one of these days i'm gonna record him and show him what it's like. at least that way i'll have proof.

i'm just really tired of holding up to the 50/50 thing and it's turning out to be 90/10. i mean i understand that times are hard for everyone, but it's been a month since he said he was gonna go get a few mall jobs to help out. yesterday he states that he's gotta do that soon and we can't use anymore excuses not to. i asked him, "what and who's excuses?" he said, "no, more saying that cuz we don't have a phone for them to call me back." that was actually a question "I" asked him. i asked, "how are they gonna call you if we have no phone?" there's a whole different story right there! anyway, he was saying to me that my excuse is what kept him from going. LOL! it was only a question and it doesn't make up for all the months worth of excuses he gave.

the phone issue. wow! this is rediculous!

when we moved in, he asked me to call comcast and put it all in my name. tells me, "don't worry, i'll pay the bill." so, i do it and i get the bundle. the tech comes out and hooks up everthing wrong. exposed wires and everything! after about a week, we start dropping calls and the internet keeps dropping as well. we call and tell them to fix it. we are not paying for dropped calls and internet. they said that within the last 3 weeks, we experienced 45 drops on the internet alone! then we get the first bill. it's $300.00!! for the first month! so we call to straighten that out. they said that we only have to pay for the service we are receiveing w/out problems. which was the cable tv. so we only have to pay $108.00. problem was, we never received the adjustment in the mail. we call and tell them to get a tech out here and fix the phone wires that are all exposed and see what they can do with the internet. they send out a cable tv tech!!! we send him back and call again. they finally sent out the right tech and he fixed the phone problem but not the internet problem. *sigh* then we get a bill in the mail for $400.00!!! no adjustment, NOTHING! we call them back and ask what's up with that. they said that it's in their computers to pay just the $108.oo by october 9th. which at that time was a month away. so, there we were trying to get the money around. on october 7th, they shut us off!! we call them again. they have this neat feature. if they shut you off, you can pick up the phone and dial your bank, your sis, your mom, anyone but comcast and you will get comcast billing. so, we talk to them and ask why they shut us off two days early. they said that it was in their computers to shut us off on the 8th. we argued with them about the bill due on the 9th and they said at first we owed them over $400.00. finally, they looked and said no, there was an adjustment made for $108.00 due on the 9th. but cuz we haven't paid it yet, they can't turn our service back on til they get the money. LOL! i believe that's illegal. in fact, i know that's illegal, but i can't prove it. so, they win! we told them to come get their stuff.

my man felt so bad about it. he called another company and got a phone through them, and put it in his name this time. but we went without a phone for a week. messed up everything. my financing, my child support, and my youngest's probation. now i have a comcast bill in my name for over $400.00. he says he's gonna pay it, but i'm not holding my breath over it.

everything is just starting to look like a lose/lose situation.

now, i have no halloween spirit.

Posted by misslissa on 2009-10-20 11:03:25 | Rating: