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Unfortunately the young girls of this generation have lost all sense of what it is to truly be a women. First of all, it goes back to the foundation of how someone is brought up. If fathers and/or mothers, would just step up and instill self worth in their child from their first breath of life then young girl wouldn’t have to find it elsewhere. They wouldn’t allow affection to be shown as a man slapping them on the ass. Their sense of making wouldn’t be getting into VIP and sitting next to a celebrity. They wouldn’t feel that their life is somehow incomplete without a man to focus on. There is a difference between a woman displaying sexuality and being empowered and women who degrade themselves and strive to be nothing but a video “model”. Even if you make into the video, you’re still nothing but that man’s prop or accessory and if you listen to the lyrics, he’s mocking you, calling you a bitch and ho and explaining that once you hop off the next beautiful one with a fat ass will hop on. Independence and sexual empowerment have nothing to do with going out and having sex with every guy who looks your way and mumbles “what’s good ma?” Sexy is not wearing a freak um dress up to your ass showing every man what you have before he even knows your name. Videos are allowing girls to validate themselves by how big their ass is, how low they drop it or how many guys want them.This is not a fair representation of women. Women are demeaned to sex objects instead of seductive, passionate beings. Love, seduction, sex and romance are lifelines in music and everyday life, but the balance is all off. We have beautiful, talented young women waiting for a man to pick them, give them attention and validate them. Now ladies (and I use that term veeery loosely because I’m addressing the ones who think how they carry themselves now is cute) lets get some things out there and I’ll keep it simple for you. If you can be honest with yourself and check you motivation for why you act the way you do then that’s the first step. You know you want a good man or at least his attention so stop faking like you don’t. I understand the whole having fun and being single BUT it is instilled in a woman since the bible that a woman will yearn for a man. Read the story of Adam and Eve if you don’t believe me. Men desire women, Women yearn for men… get the difference? One is desperate and one is a craving. So now that we’ve acknowledged what we are working with, understand that no matter what you are doing, single or not, it is usually for a man’s attention, acceptance or validation. It is unfortunate but very true for the majority of females representing society now.I’m nobody’s mother but let me just say this. Stop acting like ho’s and having the nerve to get upset when people call you one. Or worse stop embracing the term and calling you and your girlfriends ho’s because you think it’s cute, it’s not a pet name. The same goes for the term bitch. You can be a lady and still be sexy. Seduce in other ways, intrigue someone by your whole aura… not just because your breast are propped up to your chin. Trust me, men crave a challenge and respect the woman who gives it to him. Stop thinking you are in control when you are sleeping with numerous men. They are running through you and you are devaluing yourself each time you let someone have you who has no meaning to you emotionally. True the man involved is also just having sex so he is just as trashy but since the beginning of time it’s been more accepted. I agree that there is a double standard when it comes to men being whores too but don’t even let yourself be a candidate for that argument…cause even if you win…you’re still a whore. How do you expect a man to value you if you don’t value yourself?Stop. Read the last sentence again. Do not just brush over it. I’m sure someone has already told you, but now its time to soak it in and own it. Read it until you realize that you will get treated based on how you behave and think. You behave like a classy woman; you get treated like a dime. You behave like a slut; you get treated like a trick. Step outside yourself and think about what they say about you to their friends. Do you want to be the girl where they say things like:“yea, she’s only good for head….I’ll chill with her, cause I already know what’s it is at the end of the night….Nah, she’s not my girl, she’s just the jumpoff…Hell nah I’m not claiming that bitch, the sex is good but that’s about it”. While you’re telling your girls:“yea he knows what it is, he’ll be back for it cause he knows it was good…I was just using him, that’s all I wanted was some ass…he’ll be my man eventually.” or even worse you go around claiming that he’s already your man.Not only are you lying to yourself because your motive was to trap or entice relying solely on the physical aspect but you sound classless and disgusting on top of it. Just because a man says it doesn’t mean its right for a woman to say it. Refer to the whole double standard argument. Regardless of the outcome, you still sound like a whore. Stop letting a man or sex be the way you value yourself or feel loved because it will break you down and you will lose yourself.You will be looked down upon and disrespected. No, not hated on, looked down upon. Understand something, there is a difference between others "hating" and showing envy and others just acknowledging that you are a hot mess and showing disgust...don't fool yourself. Don’t let that you think others are “hating” empower you to continue to behave that way either. Again, it’s not cute. When a real friend approaches you and says “you’re changing” or worries about you, get off your pedestal and realize they care about you, it’s not that they are threatened by you or jealous. Step back and see the situation for what it really is. Do not get caught up in fast, social friends. Easy come, easy go. Real friends grow apart and together constantly; don’t just surround yourself with people who will bring you down because they allow to do things you know your real friends know you’re too good to be doing. No matter how strong you are, friends influence you. I’ve been told you can’t be pigeon and an eagle at the same time, my sister was defiantly speaking the truth on that. Stop fighting in the club over silly things. No, you do not look tough, cute, or someone who “shouldn’t be messed with” you just look like a fool and on top of it you messed the party up. Grow Up. That is not the way to go about getting attention or defining who you are.All this trashy behavior is undermining the intelligence, ambition, strength and grace that women really should stand for. If these are the women who are responsible for bringing life into this world it’s a scary thought because they are lost themselves. Now do not get me wrong. Sex and partying is a wonderful thing and its human nature to desire it and want to go out BUT it’s all in how you handle the situations and how you carry yourself and the choices you make. It’s that simple. I could go on forever on my opinions on that issue and so many more that are relevant to women because it’s something I feel strongly about. I love being a woman and I get frustrated with women who don’t embrace and take pride in who they are and understand their strength, importance and influence. Let just put it this way…it’s all coming soon, so when you see a writing from me titled “To my Ava” you know what it is ;)
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Posted by missjones523 on 2007-07-23 07:06:18 | Rating: | Views: 159
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I hear you sister. It is ashame that women dont want to conduct themsleves in a better way. What it all boils down to is the attention from men. It feels great to be admired but to sacrifice sacredness is saddening. I am a lady and I want to be treated as such strength and pride are important to me, I just wish I saw the same attributes in others.
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Posted by mshi24
on 2007-07-24 21:06:20
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There is nothing wrong with a woman having sex with a lot of men. Have you thought that is what she wants? That she enjoys sex? That she likes fucking a lot of guys with no commitment?
We want the attention of a man so he will fuck us. And if men didn't fuck women then there would be no babies, no babies means no more humans. We want men and we want sex because that is what it takes to make babies. Saying that is wrong is saying that you want the human race to go extinct (really, not that bad of an idea). Then you would probably think that every other animal would have to go extinct as well, because that is how they operate. (Other than asexual animals/insects and such.)
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Posted by AngieAki
on 2007-07-29 20:03:41
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Boy, I think angieAki is one of those lost pathetic women that you are talking about!
Okay, now about your blog. You go, girl. I have been doing a study of sorts, examining why it is that women don't value themselves. As a matter of fact, that is what my business is about, -assisting women to realize their value. I have discovered that a lot of women have this pathetic approach to themselves due to the fact that they have not had the right love, attention, guidance, caring from their Dad growing up. The truth is: if a young girl does not have the proper attention, love caring, time, admiration and guidance from her Dad growing up, she will indeed keep going elsewhere as she gets older, to receive that approval that she never got growing up. So women, shape up and I don't mean with your bodies. I mean, with your life and with your love for yourself. It is such a shame, that most women don't know what good self esteem is. They don't value themselves. They think that they need a man to have value. Boo and Hiss ladies. Get yourselves together before thinking about dating and having a man, - if you will. If you don't have YOUR ducks in a row so to speak, you will have a restless unsettled life. If you didn't get approval and correct loving guidance growing up, then YOU take hold and help that hungry, emotionally deprived little girl inside of you and YOU take care of her. Meet her needs, see that she takes care of herself. Upon reaching adulthood, if those needs have not been met, then ladies, it is up to YOU to take care of yourself and that little girl inside that is hurting. As long as that little girl inside is not taken care of, she will cause you as the adult woman, to do things that she will regret later on. That woman will be like grass in a field swaying back and forth, with no stability. So ladies, listen up, - wake up, - no one but YOU can take care of yourself so that you love yourself before you can begin to venture out into the world, no matter how old you are. A man cannot meet those needs inside you that YOU need to meet if they weren't met as a little girl. Breasts are a gift to us from God, but flaunting them off back and forth thither and yon, is a weak way of living. That is NOT self esteem, ladies!! That is a way of trying to get attention as a woman that you did not get as a little girl! Yes, there is a time and place for all things. Yes, being sexual with that one special man, in private is understandable, but flaunting what you have to all men is weak, weak, weak. It shows no strength. It shows no control of your own power. It amazes me at the number of women that I work with that have their breasts hanging out. Ladies, cut it out. The work place is NOT the place to flaunt your breasts. Why do you think that we are not taken serious in the work place?! It's because, if your breasts are sticking out and you are in the middle of a business transaction, the men are looking at your breasts and they are not taking your brains and your knowledge serious!!! Ladies, get a grip! Take care of yourselves!! And like the gal who owns this blog, I could go on and on and on.
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Posted by Godslady
on 2007-08-04 21:46:32
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