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Hey! So here I go again... Thanks so much to everyone that commented last time, very helpful.
Anyway I kinda' wanted to clarify some things about the relationship I am in. And, I have a few more questions I'd like help with.
So, I am 18 and he is 28. I am a freshmen in college and he is a professor, never was my professor though. He and I have been dating for about 3 months. I lost my virginity to him. Which is something I think I am fine with.
But, we have been fighting a lot lately. Well actually I've been fighting with him a lot, he hasn't ever started an argument and he doesn't yell or get mad ever.
I think these arguments resolve around this idea I have that I am being used or taken for granted or whatever. But, ultimately at this point it isn't what he does that upsets me so much, it's how I respond to what he does or how it makes me feel. I just always felt like before I was in a relationship that once I was in one I would to continue to be this independent, intelligent, compassionate person. And, I think in a lot of ways I am still that person. But, I feel like my self control is very limited at this point. I call him far too much and continue to want to break up with him and change the title of the relationship, blah, blah, blah. At this point we are friends with benefits, my idea, but I don't think it's working well for me. I should mention this title came out of his reluctancy to define me as his girlfriend, and I thought dating other people would be good for me.
I feel like in my heart I am settling. Cause I am not it for this guy. I think he really does like, maybe he even loves me, but I am not his ultimate dream girl, and I can't stand that. But, I don't know maybe that's not really something that's possible for me with anyone.
Right now, I also kinda' want to stay with this guy because I like to go out him, he's in a band and he's friends are very nice, but I don't know if it's worth it.
Is there any way to stay in this relationship without continuing to hurt?
Oh, also totally side note, but when he was helping me do something on his computer for school one day, naked pictures of his ex girlfriend came up accidentally on the computer. I fought about it at first, but then let it go. Is that normal guy behavior or is disrespectful to both her and I that he still has those pictures?
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Posted by missdenver08 on 2007-12-31 19:14:45 | Rating: | Views: 69
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My Dear Missdenver, True love is the ultimate dream girl or Guy Move on and find it Best for 2008
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Posted by shellyme
on 2007-12-31 23:27:52
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Wow....this guy doesn't sound like he loves you at all! I think you're just his you-know-what-buddy, and you should find a man who loves you so much that he won't even accept you two being "friends with benefits". The first cut's always the deepest, but get over him! ew, he's scum!
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Posted by roqui
on 2008-01-01 03:08:58
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And, I'm sorry, but love doesn't hurt....maybe if the one you love gets cancer or something....but being loved doesn't leave you feeling tormented.
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Posted by roqui
on 2008-01-01 03:10:51
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Sorry to say but I would say that with the age difference also, your perspective on alot of stuff would be different. For ex. He could be at the point of wanting to settle down and you want to keep your options open vice verus. But listen to your heart, when it says that its time to end it and move on. You want to be treated with respect and loved.. no one is perfect so you don't have to feel bad or anything for not being his perfect dream girl.
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Posted by hitomi_82
on 2008-01-01 23:09:57
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