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Hey all! So I am brand new to bloging, but here is goes.I wanted to start a blog because right now I am in a very stressful relationship and I would really love some advice. I don't know if that is what blogs are generally for, but...So, I am in this relationship with this guy 11 years my senior. I think he is a good person and I think that he does like me very much, but the relationship is just absolutely making me a pyscho. I don't think this man is truly in love with me and he doesn't call very much and I don't know, it's like every other thing he does offends me and pisses me off, but I just can't leave him. I have brooken up with him like 5 plus times, but I always go back to him. I just feel so attached. I don't think I am in love though. I feel like this relationship is making me a clingy and obnioxious person, but I am afraid to leave. I just don't know if I could find someone else. And, I am pretty sure if I did find someone else I'd have the same problems.What is wrong with me? Should I leave him? |
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Posted by missdenver08 on 2007-12-30 22:19:07 | Rating: | Views: 77
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Hello, the best advice I can give to you, is to look at yourself honestly. Ask yourself what makes you happy?? I was married to a man for 10 years - he left me! I thought he was my life, but it's taken me 8 months to realise he was stiffling the real me.
So think about what YOU find FUN! and put all your energies into it. Don't be sidetracked by history with a man - it is all a learning curve for us until we find the ONE that likes us for what WE like ... does that make sense?
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2007-12-30 22:22:07
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is it a relationship?
...or maybe obsession?
...or habit?
i can't know - you'll need to look at it good and hard yourself and find out what it really is to you.
good luck!
:o)
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Posted by badlydrawnstickman
on 2007-12-30 22:36:10
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When you broke up before how long were you apart? Perhaps it wasn't long enough to allow those feelings of attachment to settle down...
I went through a similar thing once - a lot of back and forth - then one year I made a new years resolution to not speak to him for at least a year. It was pretty cheesy, drastic, and painful - but it worked. I knew I was dragging things out simply because I was so attached and afraid of living life without him. It was honestly one of the best things I've ever done.
So, all in all, I say take a lot of space for a substantial amount of time. Assuming you don't have any kids or other obligations together cut all ties - even simple phone calls will keep those feelings alive. After you have time to clear your head then you can consider the relationship with a clear mind.
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Posted by LunaSea
on 2007-12-30 22:39:08
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Agree with the 1st post,
You are being stifled, you ma not even be able to be yourself, or spread wings, but maybe you are afraid to and go back to him thinking its 'security';; it isnt!!
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Posted by grace29
on 2007-12-31 00:50:21
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p.s. your fear of something better will be your bigger demise, not that guy :)
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Posted by grace29
on 2007-12-31 00:51:20
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yup, when we are single we want someone and when we are in a relationship we want out,as a gemini I go through this type of thing on a daily basis...with everything!
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Posted by jjlmrken
on 2007-12-31 21:33:38
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