I thought the point of being a swinger was just a physical thing. No emotional attachment, just sex with someone else... If there are feelings involved, I think it would take on much more importance. "Swinging" implies a casual thing... And I just had my bf come to me and tell me he had been talking to another girl and thinking of cheating, but didn't... It still hurts that he hid it like he did... So, I would have rather known about his sexual affairs (if it had gone that far) so that at least I could be playing the game too, you know.... Don't lead me to believe we are something we aren't.

Everyone says it's strictly physical.
But, once you're in the lifestyle, it becomes more emotional than you ever thought it could be.
My boyfriend has been in the life almost his entire life.
And, he's even gone as far as to suggest us bringing another girl into our relationship. WTF?
Am I just not enough for him?
So, I completely get what you mean.
I know he's never cheated on me, but the fact that he wants to have sex with other women, multiple other women, it makes me want to slap him.

Honestly, yeah it has to become more than physicial if it is going to be the same person again and again. Sounds like something inside of him, I doubt there is a problem with you. If its a choice for him and something that he wants you to do and you don't want to then don't. I personally too would freak. But you keep your values, don't do something you're not comfortable with because in the end you'll lose yourself. You have every right to be uncomfortable with this for the simple fact that you are. It sounds like this is the life he chose a while ago, think if he is ever going to change...

Dear miss_april.
I wholeheartedly believe that you are only fooling yourself into believing that your boyfriend has not already cheated.
If he has lived this lifestyle all of his life, what is it that makes you think he has suddenly become dedicated soley to you.
Just the fact that he wants you to become involved in the hedonistic lifestyle goes to show that his intentions are to continue with doing so.
Personally if I were you, I would find me a different guy!!!