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| Teaching A Child Respect Is Number One |
I am gonna tell you this so that maybe it will help someone have a positive outcome with their own children.
First let me tell you this. When I was raised my mother was very gullible and it was hard for her to spank me. Well it was not too hard for my dad to give me a good one, so I was warned that I would get a later spanking from my dad and that was a huge dread of mine. It was such a huge dread that I walked almost a strait line to avoid his wrath. Well it worked and I thank him souly for that today:)
You know if we are not taught as a child we will pay for it and blame our parents later for not being taught the right things. I see it happen too many times. I have had a hard situation to deal with myself. I took in my step son who was not made to respect at all by his parents. He was so bad that when we would go to games the mention of his name would raise a rore due to people seeing his bad behavior. I took on a huge responsabily. See people let him get away with disrespect because he had ADHD. Now that is no excuse to not teach your child out of love. See he payed for his parents mistakes by the pure fact that people hated to be around him because of his behavior. I am still working on him now, but he is amazing compared to what he use to be and it did not stop till I put my foot down so to speak. My husband and his ex payed with awful results in it.
I am not trying to sound big headed here, but I fixed him in so many ways that would shock you. I was strict on him, but with balance. My husband stepped in and said do not be harsh on him because you should feel sorry for him. We battled really, but finally we see eye to eye and he sees that there must be balance. You know pay harshly when you steal from your parents, but still know how to show that child the positive results of good behavior. That lesson must be learned. MUST...or you will create a ball of hate later. My children they are raised right. My four year old who has a serious learning disability but yet cleans up his own messes. Respect !!!! If you do not teach your child that they will make others suffer and so will they. The key is balance.
This is not easy but you learn and that brings more relaxation:)
Now I am going to mention my son who has autism just to explain the importance of this. Let me say he is human and he has feeling and I love him and treat him no different than my son who does not have this disability.
But let me explain the challenge in trying to teach a child with a disability. His autism is a mild form ok....Basicly he is blessed more than some.
Now a child with autism does not understand danger, and they must always have something to do and take up some kind of ritual. My son in particular will be behaving wonderfully and then all of the sudden jump up on a table and in fast motion and try to take the light bulb out of the socket. Now I as a mother must watch him like the biggest hawk you have ever seen. My two year old would never try this, unless one day he decides to mimic him. Sometimes I feel beat physically when my disabled son decides to not mind. Now take in to consideration. I do not let him get by with this because it could hurt him, but he is not like a regular child who learns the first time, but he does learn and he will find another danger because he does not understand them, well most. Now as a mother I do spank him but if I used that everytime I would be a nervous wreck and feel like a child abuser. That is when I decide what type of punishment he needs. Time out and if he keeps getting up I make sure that he stays sit till he gives up. Now he does not try to get up as much because he knows. Spankings when he does something harsh. That is a wake up call that can save him now and in the future.
Now last but not least all kids can take advantage of you when your sick or on the phone and cooking and such. It takes moments like completely turning off your food in order to get them to settle. It is work, but if I do not do this I raise the chances of my disabled child to suffer. I went to classes for children with autism and this lady had a child who was much harder to raise than my own and this boy use to bite her. Now they used strict teaching and now this boy is in college with all A"S. Is that not amazing? Now if they were to let this boy go imagine...He had some tuff challenges. You can never give up on teaching your child for your own good and theirs also. It is all out of love:) Do not let fear of spanking stop you. Balance it with other methods because spankings cure some, but not all. You will see results everyday and yes you may have a challenge with a disabled child, but I promise you that if you never give up you will see your child blossom:) My son now tells my two year old not to break things when he use to break things all of the time. Amazing huh:) Never give up and know in the end you and your child will be rewarded for it.
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