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| An update on my marriage |
I was raging about my husband and the way he treated me about two weeks ago. Since then we had a talk and I told him about my plans to leave and move in with my best friend. He realised I was serious and asked me to please talk with him and I told him that the way he had been treating me was uncalled for. Then I asked him why he has changed in the past year when use to he did not take things out on me.
We have been together for ten years now and our marriage had been very good until this past year. He told me that he was sorry and then we both brought up some issues that we feel we must take care of in order to fix things. Shockingly he has acted on several problems and has showed me that he is willing to work on us and has not taken anything out on me since.
People say he want change that don't know him but people who do thinks he will. I think it is possible considering that he was not like that the first nine years of our relationship. Also I decided not to stand down if he wrongs me. I did that a lot because I did not want to argue, which I think caused him to think that annoying me was ok since I did not say nothing.
Meanwhile my friend Karen told me that she saw some flaws in me also which I really did not notice, but he still needed the most work. Then she offered to keep our kids over night so that my husband and I could touch base again and be alone at times and do things together. See we have never had a steady baby sitter and what she offered us brought amazing joy to us because we know that is part of our problem. We never get to do things together.
I am working on giving him more attention and pushing my computer to the side when he is here so that he will not feel that the computer comes before him.
Just want you to know what is going on and that I put my foot down. I do not want my boys to come from a broken home.
My husband and I have a lot of stressful situations in our marriage that are not all caused by us and the statistics say that a couple with an autistic child devorces nine out of ten times. I don't want to be another statistic. I want to work on us and from what I see judging by his actions he does show that he wants to save our family also.
Ps. He has never hit me in the past but his anger towards me was so strong that I thought he was going to at times. Know that if it were to continue that yes I will leave but I do need to give us a second chance considering that this has only been in the past year that he has changed. He use to treat me like gold and now that he knows what he was doing to me and that he almost lost me he has been going out of his way.
Just thought I would fill you in and tell you not to worry about me:)
Ps. Our disabled son is a wonderful addition to our family, but as he requires much more attention it does make it harder for my husband and I to communicate well.
I wrote that so that you can understand why I mentioned him.
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