All right, so there's two girls in my life right now. One, let's call her Kelly L, is a pretty, partying, ex-slut kinda girl. I never thought I'd like her, but now I'm here obsessing. I hate her friends, but other than that, I see her everywhere I go. Same school, we go to the same social events, and I've known her for a few years. Anyways, she's moving in about 3 weeks, and has recently admitted to liking me. So, now we both like each other but she's leaving : /. BUT WAIT, it gets even more OCish. One night (before a huge concert) we had a minor fight, because we're both way too stubborn for eachother. I was at a shisha place and I was flirting with her best friend. (Her best friend and I have never [and most likely will never] hook-up, but we're both flirty, energetic people). So, I was being an innocent flirt. Anyways, that night went badly and I woke up the next morning (dry mouth, headache) and got a call from my friend/her good friend. He told me to call her immediately because she was upset with me; so I did. But, her phone was off. So I text. And text. And no response. I called (this time her phone was on) and got rejected. So, now I'm starting to think we're in a big fight. So, I go to this concert and have a fun wild time, and make out with another girl. This other girl and I act coupely the whole night and realize their could be something between us, but don't act on it. Anyways, I keep calling the girl I originally liked and walk to her house, just to get ignored further. SO THEN, the next day (it's a 2-day concert) I go back. This time I have WAYYY too much fun (if you get what I'm saying) at the concert and see another girl. (Let's call her Alexis). Alexis and I have a history because for the last 2 years, I've either been in love with her, or sort of liked her. Of course, she had no feelings back and we were just good friends. Then, she became very slutty for about a month, and we hooked up. Anyways, I see her at the concert and our best friends are going out ... so we see eachother a lot. She also had a whole new years resolution to not get with guys unless they really meant something to her. So, GUESS WHAT, we go and hook up and act REALLY coupely the whole night. Holding hands, kiss when we say bye, the whole deal. So, I go home and we both like eachother. I get up the next day and still haven't talked to Kelly. And the next day, we still don't talk. (Though we pass eachother). Later that night, at home, I get a text from Kelly and she's mad as hell. (It sucks, because she never got the texts, she didn't know I went to her house, and didn't know I called). So, she thinks I played her. We get into a HUGE fight, and, by the end of the night, we're back together. (We we're kinda secretly dating). But, now this other girl still has feelings for me, and I still have some for her. I'm stuck. I can't decide who : /.
Two nights ago, I go to an event. And there BOTH there. During the show I sit with Alexis and hold hands, and act like a couple. But, when the lights go on, I move over to Kelly and am all over her. Kelly didn't notice I was with the other girl, but Alexis noticed I was with Kelly. Sadly, I already told Alexis I had was going to be with Kelly until she leaves. (Three weeks...less now).
But, I didn't realize that, that was Alexis last night before she went on a vacation to Turkey. She said I had to decide by the time she gets back, because she has feelings for me and doesn't want to be the second girl. I had no idea what to say, and stood frozen. She said she was leaving that night and I needed time to miss her and think. Then, she left.
The next night, Kelly calls me and tells me to go to her house, because she was having a small gathering. We go and SORT of act like a couple. She got really pissed at one of my friends, so I had to work that out to. Anyways, I leave pissed because we wasted our time together and never get to see eachother.
Now, I'm left with Kelly until spring break, when Alexis comes back. I don't know who to choose...
One leaves in three weeks, the other has a history and will be in the same place I am for the next two years.
I need help guys : /
Post your opinions.
Posted by maxrichardsondavis on 2008-03-15 11:38:26 | Rating: n/a | Views: 100
well its a tough one. Just go with your feelings.Sure you like them both, but you must like one more then the other. Try to ignore how hot they are for a minute. Looks are not everythings. In the long run, the person must have a good personality, or it will get boring.
P.S. a Long-distance relationship will drain you emotionally.
Well good luck.
I know. With the girl that's moving, it's over once she moves. We've already talked about it. And obviously looks aren't everything, if it was that easy I'd chose the prettier one. So, I've tried going with my gut feeling and it's lead me to - well nowhere. I keep trying to get close with them fast, and so far only Alexis has let me. The other one, that's moving soon, is really closed and I have a tough time getting into her emotionally. She's not used to having serious relationships, more of just hookup and go...which isn't what I'm aiming for. So, when I can't read her - it leaves mystery. And that has a certain sexyness to it. But, the other girl and I have a history and...
One of my friends is dating Alexis' best friend. So, if I went out with Alexis we'd have awesome double dates. So, he's trying to get me to go far that. But, by him demanding I go for her, I want Kelly even more, because I think about not having her...
And his girlfriend HATES me, because I am so confused and come off as a dick in this situation...
Well look at it this way, the girl thats moving in 3 weeks is just going to be a fling. Its not long enough to get a comitted relationship and if you do, well then your setting yourself up for a heartbreak once she moves. You admit to wanting Kelly because everyone is telling you to go for Alexis. You want what "you cant have". Classic syndrome. Dont let it fool you, once Kelly puts her guard down, the mystery is going to be lost. Hope it all works out for you.
Hey, sounds to me that you have no idead what it is that you want. So no point in getting into a relationship. Just have fun and make no promises. Let the chip fall where they may.
Sadly, I suffer from depression - so after the fun is over, I tend to think about it way too much. And, being flirty me, I go for the flirty girls (the ones that ALSO don't want anything) and then I end up wanting them for something more, and once/if it happens I disagree with myself. I'm too unpredictable. But I need to find out who Kelly is; and where we would be if she didn't move. I've let it slip before and I need to see this one out. If we end before she moves - we end. If not, I want to see where it goes. At least make her last 3 weeks awesome, right?
As for Alexis, it's complicated. I'll see how much I miss her I guess.
Also, I've been doing the whole "having fun," thing. And I love it and hate it.
I need to try the whole "relationship," thing just to see both sides. After seeing both, then and only then can I decide whats right for me.