Everyone wants to be pain-free but this real life - it's never that easy. We never plan on having our hearts broken. It just happens, usually when you least expect it. Chances are you believe no one has ever felt this kind of pain and couldn't even begin to understand.

Whether it’s as a result of death, end of a relationship or some sort of other loss, it hurts deep down inside. You go through the motions – sadness, denial, anger and look for answers. Why did this happen? It's tough to get over pain, honour your feelings and express them appropriately.

The first very important step is to make a conscious vow that you will heal your heart as quickly as possible. Be brave and accept it. Focus on your determination to move past the pain. Time doesn't heal a broken heart; it just makes it easier to look back. The pain will always be there but because you have accepted it, it's easier to handle.

It's okay to cry and a good cry or two can help to release the pain and allow the healing process to begin. On the other hand, too much crying can keep you stuck in a wounded emotional body and delay healing. After a while, you start to notice the pain isn't as bad as it was. You get stronger and feel like you can live your life again – one day at a time.

Be creative and allow every hour of your day to become an opportunity for healing. As the sun comes up in the Eastern horizon, stand at your window. Let the rays of light gently illuminate your heart centre. Feel the liquid golden fire of the sun slowly driving out all of the darkness in your heart.

Let this light expand throughout your being until you feel strong, radiant, and whole. Love yourself, laugh at yourself and enjoy the dazzling beauty of each new day. Take responsibility for your life and your dreams and never, never, never give up!