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letting go is such a hard process. sometimes you can drop someone or something without any second thoughts. yet ive noticed i identify myself in a lot of people and things, and feel very attached to them even though i really should let go and move on. lately ive been on this letting go trip, i think after a recent chain of events. my ex's birthday brought up some memories and in a moment of pure weakness I messaged him, I dont think he got the message, or im hoping he didnt because now i feel like I should let go of everything involving and surrounding him and who i was those years i dated him. I am essentially another person and I need to accept it. I have an entire new life, I my not enjoy my new life but it is mine, and I am living my life my way. Ive built this new life alone. it was really silly because i was going through stuff in the closet and realized i have held onto momentos like letters, pictures, ticket stubs. I really have such an attachment to those years. I am starting to see though that my ties to the past really are effecting my enjoyment of the present and the future. I dont want to be weighed down by emotions i should have let go of long ago. another example of this is my friendship with this girl from highschool that I know. we are still speaking yet we have nothing in common anymore. Life seemed to just stop for her when highschool ended. she hasnt gotten a job, finished a degree, or moved out of her moms house, even though she has a son with an ex. she doesnt even have the capibility to take the family car for more than a few hours so virtually she is my opposite. yet i have tried to maintain a speaking friendship with her via internet and telephone ....only for her to get very rude and angry with me for telling her I was too busy to hang out with her. I realize that this person cannot do anything for me, and cannot even meet me 50/50 in the friendship. I should let her go. I have tried to in the past but from her pressures I always let her back into my life. is it wrong to just cut a person off cold turkey? I am her only friend and feel very obligated into a friendship with her. Now another thing i need to release is possessions. I really need to let go of my old things. I have had yardsales and donated a lot of stuff to charity, but I still have more than I need or want. I feel like crap accumulates in my life. Why do I attract clutter? How can a banquish it from my life? So here is what I want to know, from the people who have been sucessful with letting go. How do you do it, stick to it, and go beyond it to where you think more about the here and now than the there and then?
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Posted by lovecrasher on 2008-07-12 15:46:49 | Rating: | Views: 125
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i hope someone who knows reads this! i need the exact help!
so glad i found this blog.
thanks
:o)
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Posted by LucyLu
on 2008-07-12 16:01:42
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I hope can add a helpful comment, I think a lot of people have trouble in that department. :O)
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Posted by lovecrasher
on 2008-07-13 13:38:39
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I had a situation where I let a friend go "cold turkey." I felt like she was becoming too emotionally dependent on me and it was extremely unhealthy. So I just ended the friendship. I told her how I felt (in the nicest way possible) and just let it go. She was very angry and hated me for a while, but now we talk every few months and it is MUCH better. It's the way to go. Even though you might hurt someone, you have to look out for yourself.
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Posted by FoodForThought713
on 2008-08-24 09:51:21
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