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Seven years. Still no ring. Just talk. Talk about getting married, a future together, I don't know how long I can do this for. I feel like I'm constantly on call - waiting for HIM to be ready. When that will be, I don't know.
I asked him the other day if we could set aside a time when we could have a talk. I just get brushed off.
I don't know if I want to do this anymore. I am so lost in my life. I feel like it's going nowhere. And when I do tell him this, he says that I'm blaming him and making him feel bad.
I wonder if he knew how much this is hurting me. That sometimes I spend the night crying because I don't have a clue what to do.
I'm so lost. I'm hurting so much inside and he doesn't seem to care.
I know I deserve more than this.
He says he loves me. But does he really? How can you let someone you love get hurt by your actions (or inaction)? If you knew that they were in so much pain and anguish, wouldn't you do whatever you could to make them happy?
Time passes but no decisions are made and things are still up in the air.
Whatever it is, something always comes up. He's not in the mood to talk. He's too tired. He wants to focus on his training or his work. Finances. There's always something,
I don't know if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill but the feeling is still there.
Maybe I'm still with him for the sake of the time we've already spent together. Who wants to be with someone for 7 years and get nowhere together?
It kills me to watch friend after friend get married, have kids, buy property together. And I'm still stuck in the same spot. It's turned me into someone I don't like. Jealous, vindictive.
I'm sure any psychologist would tell me that it's not healthy to move away from engaged and married friends and feel secretly thrilled when other people's engagements and relationships go bad.
Is it normal to love the idea that my cousin is a "bridzilla"? I'm still hoping that her wedding falls apart. That can't be normal - and I'm her bridesmaid!
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Posted by lostbutterfly on 2008-08-31 08:01:26 | Rating: | Views: 54
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Don't just stick to a relationship because of the time put into it. Ask yourself what do you want from a guy, and if your bf isn't providing what you want, then move on. He takes you for granted, that's why he doesn't pay attention. The worse you can do to us men is, make us see there is a slight risk someone else can take you. If you're there 24/7 at his want and will, then he doesn't care to show, because he knows no matter what you'll be there. Good luck to you
enough said!
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Posted by Frankful
on 2008-08-31 10:24:25
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Ok 7 years and you get brushed off when you want to talk about something as serious as this. Reconsider loving yourself, Do you love yourself enough to want someone better? DO you think this is as good as it gets for you? Its upto you to stop this, noone else can control this situation. He can not be blamed. you let this go on for 7 years and wanted marriage? You cry but you really should introspect about whether you really think you deserve better...if you do, then what are you waiting for? He is alot less likely to change than you think...he is getting what he wants, as far as he is concerned it is perfect. Is this What YOU think is perfect? if not, is it close to perfect for you? if not, maybe it's time for you to make some difficult decisions...just remember what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. Good luck, i hope you start loving yourself enough to realize you do deserve better.
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Posted by Dancer78
on 2008-08-31 10:28:34
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Thats sad kiddo:( Kiddo feeling as bad as you do, you don't really want to spend your future with him? Its been 7 years he either cant or wont commit. Here's wishing you the strength to move on and have a joyful life. If he doesn't give you the time now, its highly likely he wont give you the time of day in the future. I'm not trying to add insult to injury I just see the pain in your post and hope for better days ahead for you.
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Posted by pitapie50
on 2008-08-31 11:39:02
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