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Spent most of today with a good friend of mine who is going through some troubled times. She has been with her fella for around 2yrs and he just is not good for her. They do not live together and never have, after 2 abusive marriages she will not live with anyone again.
The problem is that this man is trying to control her every move, she has to see him every night or he gets moody, he just cannot accept that she needs her own space from time to time. If he sees her talking to any other men he accuses her of cheating, and if she leaves her mobile unattended he reads her messages. He has been violent towards her on more than one occasion , and she has tried to end it before but he has hounded her until she gives in and they get back together.
She can see what he is doing to her now, and has told him again that it is over, yet again he his constantly ringing her, texting her and sitting outside her house. She is very down at the moment, she still loves him but knows that for her own sake she cannot continue the relationship. She is determined that she will not give in and go back to him. I am trying to support her as best I can but I fear that this is not enough. There is little that I can do except be there for her and give moral support as I feel that advice right now would only complicate matters.
I have posted this to ask that anyone who reads this please keep her in your thoughts and prayers.
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Posted by lostandalone on 2008-01-03 18:52:38 | Rating: | Views: 75
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I will lost, I will. I hope that she is as strong as you and can find it within herself to stay away..for her sake. Just keep supporting her and being there, that will do more than you think! *hugs* you are such a great person!
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Posted by Rajah1116
on 2008-01-03 19:05:24
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Thanks Raj. I'm doing my best she has been such a good friend to me over the years its time for me to return the favour
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Posted by lostandalone
on 2008-01-03 19:10:58
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That's what friendship and love are all about, give and take, hopefully she sees that you care enough to give her that time and will make sure to hold on and make a positive change!
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Posted by Rajah1116
on 2008-01-03 19:16:33
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Many years ago, I was in a similar situation as your friend. My ex was very controlling and posessive towards me. I nearly lost my life although I am a domestic violence survivor. This was a terrifying situation and I hope your friend can get some help before things get worse. My thoughts and prayers go out to your friend. Good Luck.
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Posted by BunnieMarie
on 2008-01-04 00:56:10
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the trouble with relationships like these (other than the obvious) women find thir emotions dependant on a man like that, especially if it isn't the first violent relationship they have been in, i wish your friend all the luck in the world, i know from experience how hard it is to get out of a relationship like this xxxx
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Posted by missmarie
on 2008-01-08 07:03:58
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