Posted by
sean_barr
on 2008-04-24 16:12:55 |
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You'll be fine. Makes sense that you're worried, but you WILL land on your feet. :)
Trust me! |
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Posted by
Hollis
on 2008-04-24 16:45:49 |
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K,
I know it is scary trying to do this on your own. But you have been doing just that for how many years now?
Keep asking God to supply your needs and He will if you believe.
Missed you and praying for you sweetie. |
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Posted by
BlueMoonInMyEye
on 2008-04-24 17:22:14 |
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| Hey K, you'd be seriously deluded if you DIDN'T have these worries. Hard to start your life over. But explore all your options; maybe there's more than you think. Maybe a coworker is looking for a roomate, maybe there are carpools in your area.......I don't know about your area, but around here, there are always positions available for someone to sit with elderly people. You'd be awesome at that. You don't have to have a medical background for alot of those candidates; just watch out for them, provide company, help them ambulate.......just a suggestion. |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-24 17:56:47 |
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| hello sean barr, i know ultimately i'll be fine. in my head i know that. i know what i am suposed to be thinking about and its just hard saying things when the feelings are so up in the air. i mean absolutely "no way" to the spouse thingy. god, i can't even imagine it but this whole thing is just so messed up. i'm not even making sense here. k |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-24 18:12:51 |
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my hollis, hey sweetie, long time no see. i just feel so pulled in so many directions and like i'm losing control of what little i actually did have control of. spouse is like satan tempting christ. hes saying how nice it would be to be able to breathe financially and do things again. i hate him even more for putting the ideas in my head if only for a split second. i really do.
k |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-24 18:19:04 |
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hi blue, i'm looking at those types of positions. i get off early enough and don't mind working evenings and since I HAVE NO LIFE TO SPEAK OF it would be nice. blue, am i such a rotten person? am i such a shit? i so need to get away from this area. i mean really move and not the next town, i mean AWAY. i'd miss my kids and grandkids but that why they invented the telephone and road maps right? and as long as pitapie doesn't do the driving then it would be ok. right? how much are u-hauls anyway??
love u blue
k |
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Posted by
Nubian
on 2008-04-24 21:26:17 |
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This your voice of reasoning....OK I have always wanted to do that...LoL!!!! you are on the track I have been there were you are....It's all about good lawyering. Finding the right lawyer that deals with domestic abuse cases. Remember all of this garbage that you are going through is like fire and you are the diamond. I know that sometimes you feel like GOD is not there but he is and he will show you. Just trust and believe. The economy is in ICU right now but things will get better soon :))
P.S. Love U xinfinity and hugs frm the girls |
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Posted by
pitapie50
on 2008-04-24 22:43:39 |
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| I know my driving skills stink :)..Kiddo its still fresh and new. I know how the uncertainty can confuse you. Remember, it will all fall into place. You deserve to have an awesome fulfilled life. Your on the right track, looking for a second job,wanting a place of your own. Change is always tough in the beginning. Your also trying to change a lifetime(marriage) of learned behaviors. One step at a time. You had the courage to leave,your in a safe environment now, Counseling with the spouse. Learning to take care of yourself. It feels like its not moving fast enough,that you should be further along. Don't fret, your making progress :) |
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Posted by
EasyToSay
on 2008-04-25 02:04:00 |
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Hey I think that everyday - why is HIS life so good, he's engaged, he LIVES with his fiancee, he's got a great salary and child maintenance only dents his wallet. Me on the other hand, I have the total responsibility of our 2 kids, we have had to cut so much out of our lives ... and to top it off I have to pay him OUT an obscene amount!! Where's the justice??
But when we open ourselves up to possibilities and options things do change.
You can do this ... not only that but YOU ARE DOING THIS ... each day it will be a little easier, each night a little less scary ... because you HAVE got friends, YOU are an intelligent woman and THE WORLD really can be yours all you have to do is believe again.
Luv You K.
Hugz from me over the ocean |
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Posted by
Ellie2008
on 2008-04-25 08:54:53 |
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Hi there, Your feelings and fears in the middle of the night are normal!! You're going in the right direction and don't look back (except for in counseling). It's always scary to realize that financially we are struggling, but it WILL work out. You will be happy, loved and there are many residential treatment centers in MD who are DESPERATE for people to work the evening and night shifts. If you are interested, email me! They are perfect second jobs.
I send you much love. XXX |
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Posted by
BlueMoonInMyEye
on 2008-04-25 10:41:12 |
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| K, it takes time to rebuild a life. My only reference point was after my divorce.....most of my friends drifted off, either because they had been mutual friends and they were uncomfortable, or they knew he had been cheating and didn't want to face me. It took a while, it really did. Took a new job, and slowly, made some new friends. My own friends were still there, but I took some major losses. But at least now, the people in my life are those I can rest assured are there for ME, not me as part of a couple to hang out with. Ain't easy, and try not to get impatient. It'll happen. I promise. Oh, and hell no, you aren't a rotten person.....what kinda question is that? You rock, K!!! |
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Posted by
BlueMoonInMyEye
on 2008-04-25 10:42:13 |
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| Oh, I forgot to mention.....there's something really empowering about making it on your own......you'll get there. |
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Posted by
prelude2it
on 2008-04-25 12:30:01 |
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You will get there. Sometimes it does feel like the other person has the better life. I Know I have thought, why does he get to have somoene that loves him? why does he get to have a family when I don't? I believe that in the long run we will look back and see the answers.
Blue is right, there is something very empowering when you realize you made it on your own. You have come this far and I believe you will keep going. You are very strong. |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-25 15:31:42 |
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nubian, i know all u say is true, truly i do. i have an attorney that is helping me from the shelter i am going to and she is wonderful and isn't going to let any asshole ex get me. thanks for the support. kisses to the girls from auntie karen
love u
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-25 19:32:07 |
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| pita honey, are u mad at me bc i mentioned ur driving skills??? please, please don't be...kiss...kiss... thanks for the comment and support. i am taking it baby steps at a time. its really hard when satan's sibling tempts me though. but i can handle it. i am woman...... HEAR ME ROAR.........K |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-25 19:34:27 |
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easy thank u friend. u are like the little jiminy cricket character. ur my conscious whispering in my ear....'YOU CAN DO IT'....smile.... ty for always being here.
K |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-25 19:37:42 |
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ellie girl, my boss at work heard from a little bird (seems to be a lot of them lately) about me looking for more work and offered me more hours today. i was thrilled to death. and of course i said YES YES YES! i send love back to you. hugs
K |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-25 19:40:37 |
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blue, u r amazing. how did u ever get so smart?? listening to me????lol the people i have met here on this site are my family for sure. i will never in my lifetime ever forget the impact u all have had on me. some i want to forget, but 98% of them i want to remember forever. love u
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-25 19:43:43 |
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prelude, it does seem unfair doesn't it? men (at least in my past life)seem to come out on top while i waste away to shit. but when all is said and done i will be OK and i'll be stronger and so self efficient. thank you for being here for me. it means a lot.
K |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-04-26 16:03:58 |
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greenersky, hello friend and how have u been,it's been a while. i know reconciliation seems good to him but he wasn't the one hurt and bleeding. i cannot stand the thought of sleeping under the same roof as him or ever having him near me again. it literally turns my stomach. i'll stay where i am for now and think later about changes after i save some. it will all be ok bc i know its up to me to make the changes necessary and i will.
K |
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