i read today in a newsflash that curvy women are smarter than skinny women. now don't get pissed at me for saying this, it was a published study from univ. of calif. santa barbara and the univ. of pittsburgh. they said that curvy women also have smarter kids. who knew???? and that they live longer and men prefer them to skinny ones. it's all about the fat. fat makes their brains work better and therefore makes them smarter and in turn makes their kids smarter. now all that being said, what happens to the woman in between the "curvy" one and the "skinny" one? the one who is the "average" one? i must fall into that one because i definitely don't consider myself "skinny" and according to the survey i'm not the "curvy" type. i must be the average type. our kids must be the normal ones. my kids are very normal, all successful in their lives, and very successful in their endeavors. do i think they are overly smart? well i never thought about it. i was certainly not one of those parents that had stickers all over my car saying "my kid is a genius", because i thought it more important to tell my child rather than advertise it to the world. my kids always told me stuff. i was a parent when i needed to be and a friend when needed and just a listener when needed. it must have worked because my children are so cool. i've had so many parents come to me and ask me how i did it (considering i had a husband that could care less). i told them i gave them my trust and unconditional love. if they needed anything all they had to do was ask me. i may not have given the answer they wanted but we at the very least discussed it. i trusted them unconditionally until they gave me reason not to. that was our rule. i didn't make them earn my trust. i gave it to them until they gave me a reason not to. that only happened one time with my daughter and she felt so guilty about what she did that she actually came to me. we dealt with it, she was grounded for a week and it was over. clean slate. now you may think "oh yeah, she doesn't know what went on behind her back", well thats true, i don't. but i will tell you now that they are all grown up, we've gotten into converstions about things like that and the stuff that actually went on "behind my back" was so minimal that it wouldn't have mattered back then anyhow. so when i feel like a failure in life and look at my marriage and see how utterly pitiful it is and have a bad day at work or just think life sucks, i think of my kids and how wonderful they are and how i did it single handedly alone. sorry, but the universities are a bit wrong. smart kids come from the average woman.