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I see so many blogs about people being lonely, hating themselves, cutting themselves, trying to kill themselves, etc. It breaks my heart. I wish I could just open my arms and hug these people and somehow make them understand that they matter, even if they don't see it. I've been down, I've been there, I've battled depression, but once you get out...it feels so good. But it does seem that some people don't want help, they are perfectly happy being miserable.
It reminds me of one of DifficultSoul's recent blogs. I can't remember the title, but it's about swimming in your own self pity and despair. She makes a good point of you can only get out once you want to get out. I really liked her blog entry.
I guess I just give up on some then. The ones I try to reach out too only to have my hand slapped. Ok, I'm not going to argue with you about what a crappy person you are. If you feel it and believe it, then so be it. I'd love to help you get up and get out. But I can only do it if you first stand up, I can't drag your dead weight very far alone.
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Posted by ladiegodiva on 2007-11-26 14:09:42 | Rating: | Views: 365
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horrible girl
people with your views make me vomit, get off your high horses. GEEZ
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Posted by mickk
on 2007-11-26 14:18:16
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Wow, that's harsh. I was simply saying that I'm not going to continue trying to help someone who keeps trying to talk me out of helping them.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 14:21:59
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Thank you.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 14:30:07
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I agree you can only do so much. Some people say they are getting out of it but their next blog is the same ol', so maybe they need more help, Maybe a good doctor, We can only do so much saying good stuff to them. Good post
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Posted by mhairimac
on 2007-11-26 14:36:43
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Thank you. I'm glad some people understand what I was trying to say.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 14:47:36
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LG, I agree with you. A person can only do so much for another. The person with the problem is the only one who can make that last step - a positive one or not.
BTW, you have been flagged again. ;)
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Posted by Mandie142
on 2007-11-26 14:56:58
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I agree people can only get better if it is what they want to do. Well said although help is important if you want it.
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Posted by jessforgets
on 2007-11-26 15:00:52
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I would absolutely love to help anyone I can in any way I can. But I'm not going to waste my time and/or energy on someone who really, honestly does not want it.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 15:02:32
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Yes...I have been flagged again. Oh well, I'm coming to terms with it.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 15:03:11
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Whoa, slow your roll there Mick (please note that I typed your name with a D) and politely deleted it.
Seriously, she didn't say anything wrong! She's a kind person and if you read her blogs, you'd see that. Shame on you for being ugly to her!!
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Posted by Whitters
on 2007-11-26 15:05:03
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Awww, Whitters...did you just stand up for me? That's so sweet! Thank you. I love you too!
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 15:07:04
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I told you privately what I thought of this. LOL
I dig ya like a fat kid loves cake!
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Posted by Whitters
on 2007-11-26 15:12:41
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LG, I agree with you...You and I have
most likely read the same posts...Some are self pity, but some are really sincere. Yes, we've all been there done that...
I love you LG, you are the most sweetest person ever...
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Posted by olp76
on 2007-11-26 15:20:40
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Thank you. You guys are so sweet. I love you too!
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 15:23:37
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you got it right, I agree all the way. How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb? Only one , but the lightbulb has to want to change.
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Posted by 2rivers
on 2007-11-26 16:16:14
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you are absolutely right, girl. change has to come from the person needing change. it is quite obvious from your post that you are a kind hearted person.
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Posted by Arik
on 2007-11-26 16:54:52
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LOL! *wiping away a tear* it is beautiful. :)
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Posted by Arik
on 2007-11-26 19:01:41
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There are people in my life like this. No matter how good their situation could be they choose only to see the bad stuff and fixate on how awful a person they are. Then they say they can't be as good as you are which really makes me so mad. I have learned that they are just looking for attention so I only give them attention when they don't put themselves down and be negative. It is hard but it works.
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Posted by beautiful_crone
on 2007-11-26 21:40:39
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You guys are all so good to me, *wiping tears away* I love you all!
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-27 07:21:05
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PS: Thanks to the staff for unflagging this.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-27 09:17:39
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Ok, and I'm an idiot...I just figured out how to actually work the forums. Wow. What a blonde I am :)
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-27 10:41:15
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i see that you think you are trying to help ppl but you dont know everyones situations and you dont know everyones expiriences. dont be discouraged by the ppl who dont want you help, maybe its not they dont understand it is simply that YOU do not understand, i mean realistically there is only so much you can pull from ppl by looking at blog entries. and as far as people cutting and things of that sort, there are multiple reasons ppl do and its not something anyone can help them with. i somewhat see you as a person who is a bit full of their own advice but then again i dont know you i have only seen your page.
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Posted by trentbabe
on 2007-11-27 10:49:35
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Do you feel better now? Now that you've told me exactly what you think of me? Full of myself? No. Sick of people using their pasts as an excuse for the way the act today. Also sick of people whining about their damn problems but not wanting to do anything about them. Would you keep walking into a brick wall even though you know it's not going to move? I highly doubt it.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-27 10:59:07
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Wow... the nerve of some people on here. Ladie... I am also one of those people who wants to hug and save everyone. But I also understand exactly what you mean... and especially on a website, not knowing everyone personally, there is only so much you can do. you should not be attacked for writing your thoughts on this. I know what it's like to be that low as well, and I know what it's like to refuse help and I know what it's like to pull myself up on my own as well. You don't deserve this crap!
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Posted by spinningreflection
on 2007-11-29 11:59:21
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'horrible girl
people with your views make me vomit, get off your high horses. GEEZ'
This guy has his nerve about posting a thread in the forum, about regretting being mean?
I think he needs to reread his own thread, talk about MEAN and RUDE!
I will apologize for him ladigodiva, he needs a lesson in NOT being MEAN and RUDE!
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-22 03:39:20
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I agree 100% with this entry.
Some people enjoy their self pity.
Some use it to manipulate others, to get attention, and use it as an excuse to be hateful and aggravating.
Now let ol' Mickk call me a horrible girl. I will not mind one bit.
hehe.
Peace.
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-22 03:44:42
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I have a feeling that I know exactly who Mickk is. Hmmm.
Let it roll off LG!
Some people LOVE misery.
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-22 03:57:15
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