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A tie-in to my blog about break-ups, and another with trends. I have one question: how did people lose their sense of self and get so nasty? So mean?
Yeah, breaking-up sucks. It hurts. But revenge? Putting yourself lower than low? Some people must find it entertaining. I find it detestable and yucky, because it's gone beyond ranting and raving, beyond dipping pigtails. Into something base and unimaginable for me- hurtful.
Look, fantasy is fantasy. Of course you want them to want you, 'oops, mistakenly too late-!-sorry!' Of course you're hurting and you want a vent, an outlet. But what kind of person would: make Christmas cards with a nude picture of the ex, and send them out to family? Which person would pay thousands of dollars to post a man, naked (when it was cold outside), on a billboard, with his real phone number? And the absolute worst- who in the hell would buy revenge crabs online and infect someone- after the break-up- with crabs.*
It's beyond humiliation and funny haha. It is downright despicable. If you can't go into a relationship knowing there's just a small quotient of it working out, please don't bother. You're not ready for it. But to intentionally try to emotionally damage someone...you are not fit to embrace the word love. It is giving and taking, certainly, but it is also loving enough to be able to let that person go, freely. It means even if that person doesn't feel happy with you, or you with them, that it's ok that they find someone else. Or that you do. Being happy that the person's happy. It's a strange idea that has nothing to do with hysteria of "getting back what they took."
No one can ever take from you. You only strip yourself of dignity when you bow to new lows trying your best to hurt an ex. It never reflects on them, but on you. And how date-able will you be once the word gets out? Not to mention the fact regret can be a four-letter word.
I think the Chinese proverb- the best revenge is the one not taken- describes it precisely. So what, exactly, is the point in attempting to deface someone's character? It certainly won't win you any friends, unless they're of like-mind, and most certainly will define how you are viewed by future possibilities. Don't forget that you too, have to live with yourself. I can't believe a.) that people would stoop to maiming someone they had claimed to (at one point) adore, and b.) that there's an agency available to cater to such senseless drones.
I really hate that a stalker or a co-worker now has the power to dent my sexuality, with crabs, for 7-10 days, and that people find it amusing. Lovely world we live in, sometimes. Kocka.
*If you do happen to get crabs, it's one of the few home-remedied STDs- look online and you can discreetly wash at home. It should be gone within 10 days, though be warned that the fantastic site which advertises is growing them to outlive their normal gestation period. Good luck, sincerely, K.
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Posted by kocka on 2008-10-02 08:10:09 | Rating: | Views: 39
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