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It's amazing reading thru some of these blogs and seeing how different children are today compared to when I was young. I guess in some ways not a lot has changed over time. Just seems like children are growing up way too fast and carrying burdens upon thier little shoulders when they shouldn't have too.

I say shame on us! Not them! As parent it is our responsibility to take the time to talk to our children and help them with things that they can't seem to fix. I read through one girls blogs and her stories broke my heart. Lot's of talk about suicide and being a cutter. She refers to issues with her parents a lot as well. I think hers has touched me the most because I once was like her. Growing up my dad wasn't much of a father. He did what he was taught because his parents weren't remarkable either. He never paid much attention to me and my brother unless we did something wrong or we were playing sports. He cheated so all of my moms time was focused on him so attention from her wasn't always there as well. I am a mother of an amazing 4 year old little boy. He has changed me so much over the past 4 years. In the begining I found myself making the same mistakes as my parents did. Now I make it a point to pay attention to my child. I am only online when at work or when my son is at his grandmas house. When we get home I keep him busy with craft projects, playing baseball outside, talking or watching a movie with him. I never let him see me cry. Well I avoid it as much as possible. When my husband and I argue I try to not let him see what is happening. I have had to change my whole world and make it about him. Honestly it has made me a much better person. I love being a mother. He is a blessing. A gift to me from God. I look at him sometimes and I can't believe God gave me something so amazing with all the bad things I have done in my past. No matter how unperfect I was, he still blessed me and I see God's love through my sons eyes daily!

Now it seems like parents make no time for thier children. This is what I feel has happened with the young lady who's blogs I read through. One person had the nerve to post that she was only wanting attention. She is a child still, she deserves attention. In my eyes we are still children until we reach the age of 20 and in some cases we are still even after that. She said he dad pretty much told her she was messed up for being a cutter. I feel like smacking her father for saying that. Telling her she isn't a Christian. She's a child of God no matter what. He needs to react to the cries for help and give her some positive attention. Sit her down and talk to her. I'm in no way saying I am a perfect parent but, seriously!! As parents we can't just look at it as ohh they are talking about killing themselves for attention, we will just keep ignoring them or whatever. MAKE TIME FOR THEM!! Go camping, on a hike, to the beach a vacation with you and your child when the react like this. Cries for attention and cries for help are the same thing in my eyes. She doesn't sound like some spoiled brat reacting badly because mommy and daddy grounded her for bad grades. She sounds unhappy! So talk to her and help her to be happy. Teach her to be happy! let her know she makes YOU happy!

I will not mention the young lady I am refering too. Her business is hers to share. And for her incase she reads this, I am in no way knocking you hun. Just realise there is too much in life to ever let it go. You still have a future to think of, college, marriage...children of your own. Find strength in yourself. Take anything negative and make it positive. You have heard the saying "you are what you eat" well I believe "U are what you think!" It took me almost 30 years to figure it out. Don't neglect YOURSELF from happiness like I have. Figure it out on your time and start trying to figure it out now so that way when you have kids, you will be a better person for them. They won't see you unhappy and grow to be unhappy as well. (Not saying a person with depression can't be a good person!) You are a child of God! your biological parents may not always be listening but, He is! remember that! Believe in him or not, just remember that!

To any child, teenager/ young adult who reads this...childhood isn't easy! If I knew the things I know now back then...man! Take it all in as a life lesson. never let go of your self! Always love your self more than you love others! Don't get frantic when stuff goes wrong! Realise life is way too short! Owning and loving your self and happiness are far more important than fitting in, money, friends....anything!

God Bless!