Bless your heart. My sincere condolences to you for your loss.

I had a miscarriage in 04 and I haven't gotten over that and it's been almost 6 years. To deliver a child still - I don't think that's something anyone could ever or should ever get over.
If you need a friend I'm here. I want to share a poem with you that I got and sometimes it's fitting.

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...
'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"

Whitters, I am also sorry for your loss. What a lovely poem.

I'm truly sorry for your loss.

My heart felt sympathies for your loss.

My sister is currently going through the grief of losing a child to still birth having lost her first child only last week.

Sadly, I think this affects more people than we may realize. My second child was still born and family urged me to "get over it". As a result, I suffered from months of panic attacks and would hyperventilate whenever I even so much as heard the word "baby" or "pregnancy". It is definitely best to mourn your loss. Take it from someone who's been there.

Unforgotten, I am also sorry for your loss. I hope you will both find a new friend in each other and I know you will bring her comfort.

I am so sorry for your loss. Prior to ever being pregnant I admit I may
not have understood, but once having carried a child the loss seems so
much deeper. Though I have not endured this type of pain, I think I can
understand at least part of the loss. I hope you find comfort here. There
are so many with tender hearts who will bring you much more than you ever
imagined. Glad you are here.

I am sooo sorry for your loss. There are some people in this world who are unfeeling, they will never change. But know that we care about you here and my prayers are with you. I lost two children. My last I had just seen on ultrasound and lost him that afternoon. Please stay strong. If you need to talk. I am here.

thanks all for your kind words. i'm still learning how to use thoughts.com, please bear with me!