Posted by
brainstormer
on 2008-02-14 22:56:32 |
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Welcome to MY world:P The shy guy. I can't exactly put myself in your shoes. But, I've been there..sort of. And, I just happen to meet someone recently on here who has a similar friend situation. She too has a friend who has gotten involved with drugs, and it's ruining that friend's life and putting her responsibility(a child) in this person's hands. Not right in my opinion. No matter how super this young woman may be.
If your drug friend cannot handle you being concerned for her and asking her to stop, she is not a friend to hang onto. Sorry, but it's the hard truth. You can stick with her for the long haul and hope somewhere down the road she cracks her bad habit--without ruining your life in the process--and forgives you for putting up with her. Or, you can make your claim, set it straight and just let her know because the loss affects you both. You both stand to lose a valuable, priceless friend. But, that value can all be thrown away--and there are plenty of people out there in the world(granted, I have not had much luck--but my shyness/fears get in the way)--by people not being able to work together to conquer what is clearly an addiction problem that is not healthy by any means--not to mention costly.
If you can't even talk to someone about this guy you are connecting with...if your only outlet is this drug friend...what is that? What good is it? You are better of speaking here then maybe.
I've heard that light/special story before myself. It got stuck in my head and maybe is why people say I act like I am better than them. I might want to believe I am special--though I humbly often refuse the notion and just say I am different with different talents I don't even express or boast about--but such a thought has yet to win me any fail safe acclaim. In fact, once I started believing in my superiority, I was given a rude awakenning by the very competition I had told people I would face. Did I shoot myself in the foot? Maybe. Or maybe my "specialty" told me in advance what others could not predict. Who is to say?
Again, when I see someone who says people make friends with them--even if you choke--at least it may be something good? I suppose it depends on these wannabe friends though too. They might be worse off just trying to find someone to bring them up. You may find more than one of these drug friends wanting to be your friend but they slow you down in your journey just to take a hit. But, they are your friend right? Don't worry that they are risking your life by being with you when the drug lord comes to collect his dues. They will protect you, right?
I know what it is like to have a light inside and--despite church singing/teaching--hide it under a basket. Maybe for self-preservation. Maybe out of any number of fears. Like someone could violate or steal that light. It could happen.
My two cents...and then some. Best I can do for now. Sorry if i say anything upsetting.
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Posted by
MacabreDreams
on 2008-02-14 23:40:38 |
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| I understand about secrets, and not being able to trust. It's hard when the person you trust the most is the one that also hurts you the most. It makes it so you can't trust and you don't want to. I had to abandon a few friendships due to drugs. You can't make people's choices for them. Sometimes, the best you can do is sit back and hope they don't ruin their lives. |
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Posted by
specialgoodness3
on 2008-02-15 18:00:51 |
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I dont think you should be scared to like that boy. If he loves you then he wont want to hurt you. And you have to get hurt sometimes to learn and grow. Dont be one of those people who is scared of what people will do. Cause you cant control what will or might happen to you. Because you only have today. So why be scared and miss good times just because your scared or getting hurt. your going to get hurt sometimes its inevitable.
About your friend who smokes pot. Tell her whats up and how she needs to get a reality check. If she doesnt like that then get someone new.
There are tons of people out there you just havent met them yet. |
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Posted by
brainstormer
on 2008-02-16 23:58:49 |
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| I hate that last choice of words...havent met them yet. If I had a nickel for every time...I wouldn't be sitting here, that's for sure:P Don't ever let those words get in your head...that if things don't work out with some ppl, you can just go find another group and it will be better. I am not sure of that at all. My past HAS repeated itself, sadly. So, maybe there is something I have not learned yet?--as the old saying goes. |
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Posted by
skullosaur
on 2008-03-29 13:43:33 |
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Honestly it's really true...
Words hurt more than actions to me. |
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