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8.11.08

So for any and all of you who care.... our mini vaca was amazing. I feel like I am starting to figure out how to relate and be a good wife to my husband. Things seem better, and I am sure that is partly due to the medication being taken regularily and working it's magic.But hey I am okay with that!

D and I had an amazing talk on our way back from vaca about our lives and how we need to make some changes. We decided to make a list w/ two columns One for what we would like to acheive w/in the next year and one with wishes and aspirations that we would like to have. We are going to put the list on the fridge to serve as a reminder and for modivation for us to acheive the things we want. Here is hoping it works!

I discovered on our vacation that part of our marital stress sometimes stems from his mom. I know no one is guilty of anyone elses actions, but things use to be so different when she wasn't around and while we were away it was almost like they were the same again. It was a nice feeling. I think he has this un=natural tie w/ his mother, it is almost sickening. i know it was always just the two of them and for him that makes their bond so much closer and I can respect that. But what I can't respect isthe way she still wants to run his life, as a married man w/ his own house and family it is time he be his OWN person. Cut the embelical cord please!

The very saddest part is that she couldn't have been or be a worse role model for him. She is irresponsible and doesn't pay her bills, if it wouldn't be for her boyfriend she pry wouldn't have a place to stay besides here, he takes care of everything. Any money that she has is straight to the bar.

D once told me when he was growing up his mom would get paid then she would pay whatever bills were there, take her and D out a nice supper or something and then to out to the bar and spend all the rest of the money that night. This explains why it is so hard for him to understand how to make responsible decisons w/ money because he was never taught!

So anyway that was my venting on his mom and whatnot, but in reality she loves her son more than anything, and just wants to be in his life and wants him to be happy. I can't pretend to know what being a mom is like since I have no children, but maybe one day I would be able to understand things better, Until then I will try not to judge.