| Posted in
Survey/Questions on 2007-10-31 00:27:32 |
|
Okay rg,
You know of course your going to reading for quite some time. LOL
RACE
1. Yes I believe it's still a big problem. There are number of reasons I believe this:
a. It continues to keep us seperated from eachother and thus not really knowing more about ourselves as a whole
b. while fighting one another we cannot focus on the truely important things such as our children
c. I feel it is keeping us occupied with our differences therefore we can not then be more focused on what the government is getting away with
d. It allows for government to make more laws to control us all
e. It keeps great minds from getting together and coming up with solutions
2. No I see nothing wrong with interacial marriages. As a matter of fact Some of the most beautiful children I have ever seen have been of mixed backgrounds. I also feel that if we can get enough interbreeding throughout all the races then after a while there won't be any reason for racism. The key being that they get married and raise a family.
I think a contributing factor to racism has been the lack of the family structure, and our children need the whole family to better become good compassionate people.
3. Nope. People are people and brains are brains. I don't think color has anything to do with a persons ability to learn, it's more of the opportunity that one person has over another
4. I wouldn't feel any different than I have for the presidents in the past.
For instance right now with Pres. Bush, I cannot understand how someone so dumb could be leading this country.
I know it was money that put him there and he's exactly what the people with money wanted, but I can't understand how the people with money could ever stoop this low to have such a really ignorant person as Bush as our country's leader.
Bush will not go down in our history books the way he should( some how we have got to save face) but the trueth is he should be remembered as the dumbest and biggest puppet this country has ever had.
Now if a man of color gets to be President and he is a wise and smart and compassionate leader, then follow him I will
5. There has always been two things that stick in my mind when I see these statistics:
a. because most of the people with big money are racists and they are still maintaining that they are better than blacks( I personally feel that by calling people of color now African Americans adds to futher seperating us by labeling us)
b. because black people themselves are perpetuating the notion that the american dream con not be reached because of their color and we need to stop this mental abuse
6. Yes although my wife and I maintain very few friends at all, I do have friends of different races and I don't feel right listing them for you just know that I do not exclude any one from being my friend because of their race.
To me my friends are my freinds and it's because how we realte to one another that we are friends and that's good enough for me.
Gender
1. Yes I do believe that sexism is still a problem:
a. because humans are still animals and we have not yet evovled to the point where we have been able to overcome the basic motovating factors that drive us
b. Males are still reacting on this animalistic level as all men want to be the leader of the herd and we still strive to always be the alpha male
c. women are still driven to find the strongest and most powerful man they feel comfortable with
2. As with anyone who would be our president, all I can ask is that they be, intelligent, compassionate, and fair.
After that I don't really care about their gender or race
3. All people are equal in my opinion and are therefore intitled to equal rights always
4. A womans body is hers and she should always have the right to make a decision based on her belief's
5. I'm not sure if I have an idea anymore about traditional roles are.
As a matter of fact the only one thing I can even place a "traditional role" label on anymore is that women are mothers and men are fathers.
The only thing I would even bother to argue with is that men should be allowed to have their " men only clubs"
and women should have the same right.
I am just a little bit upset that women have legally won the right to prevent such men only clubs to exist and yet they retain the right to women only colleges and even women only exercise clubs. A double standard don't you think?
6. I thank God for the differences with regard to the opposite sex. I sure has hell don't want to be breedin so big old hairy guy.
Sexual Orientation
1. I personally have a deep love for many people who are genetically men, but I am not sexually attracted to them.
I don't really understand homosexual behavior although I have even wittnessed it in animals. I have seen all kinds of livestock where one boy was humping another. I have even seen it in the wild, where one young buck deer was humping another young buck.
It goes on in our prisons and prisons all over the world I guess guys will hump anything if he can't get a girl.
Hell women do the same if they can't get a man.
Now when it comes dowm to actual love and desire of your own gender I don't understand it and I can only say that I do not feel threaten by homosexuality.
Hell sheep herders have humped sheep for thousands of years and I don't enderstand that either.
2. I will only repeat myself by saying that if the person is qualified for the job and he or she is smart, compassionate and fair then let them do their job.
3. Once again all people are equal in my eyes therefore they deserve equal rights
4. Now here I may come off as being hypocritcal but I do not believe that homosexuals should be parents. If you and your parntner can not make children biologically than you are not meant to have children. Besides our children have enough problems and issues today that are facing them. Why would anyone who truely loves kids add this burden upon a child?
5. Nope if a person could really choose to be a homosexual they probably wouldn't. Hell who would put themselves through all that pain and misery that a homosexual has to endure?
6. Yep I have known a number of homosexuals, some of who have been really nice caring people and when I still lived near them, they were of people I called friends and meant it.
Then there are those who have been nothing more than drama queens and were constantly needing to be the center of attention. Hell I guess that's just like a thousand of other people I have known.
Atheism
1. Nope it's not any threat.
To me it's not any different than being catholic, jewish, hindu, or any of the organized religions.
2. Sure atheists can have good morals.
Morals have nothing to do with religion. Morals are more of a reflection of who you are and what is right or wrong without regards to your relgious beliefs.
3. It would make any difference to me the job is supposed to be seperate from religion anyhow.
4. Actually that reference should be removed from our currency. We profess to be a nation of laws, and even the Bible says that God told us to hold up a distinction between his laws and mans laws. Thus church and state should be seperate.
5. No the forcing of one religion upon anothers beliefs has always been wrong. It allows for one powerfull religion to kill and sudue others in the name of their God.
It has been at the base of many wars throughout time and is a matter of fact one of the reasons we are killing innocent people in Iraq.
It is the selfrighteousness of BinLaden's religion that he perpetrated the attack ion america.
Time and time again amn has used the vail of religion to commit attrosities upon his fellow man. Hell no keep your religion yours and leave me to mine!
6. My father was an atheist he never stopped me from going to church and He never really played a role in the way I believe in my God.
Aesthetics
1. I guess the only way in which I have ever treated any one different from anyone else has been in the case of a person with a disability.
And then the differnce has only to be more aware of that certain persons personal needs.
other than that, I will hold a door open for an ugly guy just as often as I hold it open for a beautiful woman.
2. Once again I don't feel that what a person looks like has any bearing on that persons ability to preform their duties.
3. Nope I know a lot of really beautiful fat people. My wife and I are both now beautiful fat people, the thing is; we were beautiful before we were fat and it has not changed one bit as we have put on more weight.
4. First and most important a persons smile, cleanliness, and then grooming.
5. Nope never will. I don't think so and I don't care. I know who I am and I don't concern myself that are that small.
Well there you go rg, I hope that I have been some use to you.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
A Message From Your Child's Teacher on 2007-10-29 19:15:18 |
|
Dear Judy,
Wow I didn't know that you are a teacher. ( God what a hard job)
It's appauling what parents do or not do when it's their kids that are really needing the guidance.
I don't understand how they can be so obliviuos to the awesome responcibility they have placed upon you, and then they blame you for their kids performance. ( or lack of)
When I was going to school, our teachers were allowed to paddle us if we behaved badly enough, and there were many times I was sent to my counselers office becasue of my anticks.
His name was Mr, Hartzel, and we had a great relationship and I thank God that he was who he was.
I actually would enter his office and he would be shaking his head with disappointment. I would cross the room and even at fifteen I would sit on his lap and tell him that it everything was okay, and not to feel bad that he was going have to paddle me for my behaviour.
When my children were in school, I was one of those really invovled fathers as I kept up with my kids day to day performance and volunteered my time for their extra activities.
I was blessed with two kids who did very well in school, and I honestly believe that they excelled because of my invovlement.
I could see all around me how the teachers took the most complaining by the parents who were least invovled with their kids.
It was as if the kids that were the worst, had the parents that complained the loudest.
They seemed to only get invovled when their kids were flunking out and then they blamed the teacher.
We just had a televised case where approximately 140 kids out of a graduating class of about 1500 were protesting because the kids failed the state graduation qualifying tests, and they were not allowed to wear the cap and gown, and they were not allowed to go up to receive their diploma's along with their classmates.
I could only think to myself where was all this involvement when the kids were not doing their homework, or studying to take the exam.
Some of the parents were most aggitated because their kid only failed the test by five or ten points and should be special consideration.
To them I say, B---S---, failed is failed.
I realize that they are upset for their kids, but where were they when their kids were out hanging with their gangs and not studying?
We the parents place way too much responsibility upon you our teachers and then we tie your hands so it's difficult to the point where you are lucky if you can just maintain discipline in your classrooms.
Certainly you don't get paid a fair salary for all the hours you dedicate to your positions, and then if there is a levy on the ballot just to keep a school open, we vote it down because our kids are not worth sacrificing this years vacation for their education.
Oh yes Judy, there are some of us who every night say a small prayer for those of you who take on such a hard and unrewarding job.
It is my firm belief that your pay should be on par with those ceo's who make money for nothing more than linning other people's pockets, becasue when it comes right down to it: It is people like you who truley are our future!
Thank You for all you have done for our children, and I know that you will continue to do.
I still love each and every memory with Mr. Hartzel and if weren't for people like him, I shudder to think of what or where I would be today.
So here is my heart felt Thanks!
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
How is Carol doing? on 2007-10-28 07:37:54 |
|
Hey Blan,
Test what text?
Damn I didn't even review the material.lol
I'm good at test's the only hint you gave was how is Carol doing?
I don't know, which Carol?
Oh man I just know I'm going to flunk this one?
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
The death of George Washington aka Gorgeous George on 2007-10-28 07:31:24 |
|
Dear over the hill,
You should be angry because in reality there is absolutely no reason to put any racing horse down for a broken leg.
The reason the owners do this is because they are not willing to put a big chunk of money to fix a horse's leg that is not going to get them any money in the future.
I had a friend, Bobby back in 1962 who was 14 years old and his horse; (Babe) was eleven years old. babe had stumbled one day and broke her ankle.
The vet said it was a bad break and because Babe was so old even if they could fix the ankle she could never be riden again. Plus it would be a very expensive operation to do and she would need constant care because she would have pins in her leg and she wouldn't even be able to put weight on it for maybe a couple of months.
Well there was just no-way Bobby was going to let them put his best friend down, so he convinced his parents to lend him the money for Babe's surgery.
He worked his butt off to repay his parents and he spent night and day with his horse.
I visited him and Babe everyday all summer long because he quit hanging around with everyone so he could be with Babe.
He nursed her back to health and though he couldn't ride her anymore she was still included in Bobby's daily life until she died seven years later.
Now these racing animal owners are not real animal lovers and if that horse was not a multi-million dollar champion, then to them there is no reason to keep a horse that has broken a leg around even as a stud.
If you get angry with that, then you should take the time to see what greyhound racing dog owners do with a dog that isn't even hurt, but doesn't win races.
It is my opinion that it should be against the law to invovle animals in any kind of sporting event, because owners of sporting animals have no- real concern for an animals health unless it is making money for them.
If you are a mistreater of animals and the animal gets hurt because of your indifference then you should be put down along with the animal.
God gave us dominion over all the animals but he didn't say anything about using them for are amusement!
Love & Peace
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Opinions please??? on 2007-10-28 07:02:03 |
|
Dear Nikilynn,
I'm sorry I haven't read any of your earlier posting's about your relatioship with Andy, so I won't be real onesided about my opinion.
If you have had a good history with Andy, and it's been a good length of time that you two have been together, then I don't see any problems with you following him to Arizona.
The job opportunities are much better in phoenix than they are here in Mi. and of course the weather is warmer. lol
( it's down right hot out there I know!)
On the other hand, if you haven't been a couple for very long and if you have had any serious problems in the past, then I would give it maybe six months to a year before I would make the move. That would give you plenty of time to make sure that he still wanted you and didn't move on to other interests.
Send me an e-mail and tell me what you think of this advice, and you could also let me know a little more about your relationship so that I can give you a much more sound answer to your question.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
I got laid off...and I don't want to work anymore on 2007-10-28 02:14:22 |
|
Dear gaz1023,
Sounds like your in a funk!
I certainly understand what you are saying. Life really isn't fair huh?
Instead of looking for a job why don't you consider starting up your own business? Is that at all possible?
You seem to have a lot of knowledge, so why not use that knowledge for benifiting yourself instead of some company or corporation.
With administration experience can't you put together an employment agency yourself. Like maybe weeding out and supplying people for upper level management.
How about going in a totally different direction? Maybe developing a hobbie that you love into a business?
Screw what other people think!
Do your own thing and one day there will be a company that you once worked for saying to themselves," we should of held onto that girl!"
Heck you never know, you might even end up being in competition with the very company that let you go. ( wow wouldn't that be a hoot!) lol
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Another One Bites the Dust on 2007-10-28 02:00:56 |
|
Dear Judy,
You didn't have to be there for your friend, you did it because your a good person and it was the goodness in your heart that you stayed.
Divorce is ugly!
But you haven't let it destroy your life, and you stayed strong for your kids.
It has hurt you though as I can see it in the way you wrote this blog.
Yep the animal that lives within us all too often surfaces and creates hardship for all who has been touched by it. Actually sometimes I wonder why we even think we are more sophisticated than the wild animals on the plains.
Hell guys want to breed everything they can, and women all always looking for the best stud they can find, so why confuse it with love.
I think a lot of times that we are all tryng to hard to rush to find that love and we think that we will reckonze it when we see it.
In the begining we fall for all the images of our minds and we allow our hearts to lead us to the alter.
My wife was way smarter than most of the women I have ever met.
She wouldn't marry me for the first 28 years we were together. Even then we talked about for about a year before we finally did get married.
Yeah I think that when we are young we just know everything there is to know about love when in reality we don't know jack!
Since we are a nation of laws we should starting using our brains when it comes to inacting them.
Voting age is 18.
Drinking age is 21.
And marrying age should be 25.
By then you are able to see a little more clearly about what love really is.
Love is so much more than that tingle we get in our hearts and our loins, and being in love takes a lot more work than jumping into marriage, having children, buying a house, and all is right with the world.
Girls are the worst judges of love and are constantly being heartbroken. most of you didn't even learn how unreliable we men are after you gave us your virginity and dumped you the day after.
You put far too much faith in men to do the right thing and you are forever going to be hurt by this.
That is until you learn to be more understanding about the biological facts of life.
We are all still basically unsophisticated animals and therefore will respond in foreseeable ways to given stimuli.
Thats will always be the trueth and it is never going to change.
Women are always thinking that they will be able to change the way a man is, and you are always beliving that men will overcome his animal instincts.
You are giving way too much credit to what a man is. We are all still animals and I don't belive we will ever evolve to anything more.
While we may gain more intellectual capacities. Our drives and needs are no higher than the lowest form of life.
We must eat, drink, and reproduce. That is the way it has always been and that is the way it will be forever.
Now getting back to divorce, yes it is a hard thing to get through but get through it we always do except in the case where one person is so unable to control themselves. They do the unthinkable and really do destroy the other person's life by taking that life.
Be mad, be sad, but remember that your life is going to go on and in a lot of cases you have children to think about.
Life is never fair and many times disappointing and that is just the way it is.
Yep men have two heads and they don't usually use either one for thinking!
I want to appologize for everything I just said because it was not very kind of me to put things into that perspective.
Men just don't feel the same way as women. Part of it is nature and part of it is the way society has treated us in different ways as we were growing.
I personally don't think it will ever change, but maybe a few thousand years from now it may be different. (hell I don't really believe that there will even be humans a thousand years from now)
Well anyway I thought you sounded as though at least you have been a good friend for listening to her cry.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Part of my life on 2007-10-28 00:38:38 |
|
Dear Rocio,
I don't really know how to approach you, cause I don't want to say anything that would add to your pain.
What I can say( because I know and have lived it) is, your pain of loosing your sister will never go away.
I lost my daughter and we were very close.
She kept me involved in every part of her live and just two nights before she died, she was sitting on my lap and telling me about the problems of her day,and the funny thing that had happened that day.
Two days later she was gone forever and I cry a lot over loosing her.
I was disappointed to hear about your parents not being truely involved in your life, but not all people should really be parents in the first place.
What is going to continue to be hard for you will be to deal with them until you can finally make a place for yourself in this world.
You seem to have an inner strength that your sister was able to help you express, and it's that strength that you are now going to have to rely on now.
Honey you are only stuck in hell if you let it be that way. You can choose to make a happy life if you really want to.
I can't hug you and hold you from here, but I can talk with you and explain that you have to use that inner strength your sister saw.
You and your sister had plans and goals that you both wanted to achieve, and I'm sure she would be saddened to hear that you now feel lost without her to help guide you.
I would be willing to bet that she would want you to go through with your plans to get your own place and carve out a place for yourself in this world.
My wife went to our daughters grave site every single day for the first four years after Tracy passed, and I always went every weekend.
I still go every weekend and I sit upon her gravestone where I talk to her about my problems and my successes.
Now instead of her sitting on her daddy's lap, I feel like I get to sit on her lap.
Your sorrow and pain are never going to leave you, but it will get a little better as you talk to your sister and show her how much you are able to do with your life.
I have a really unusual believe that really doesn't have just one supreme being, but I can explain to you that we never really leave this earth completely. We will always remain in spirit and it is those spirits that will continue to live on for eternity.
For those of us who are still here in body, well we kind of owe it to the ones who have gone before us to do the best we can with our lives.
You will feel your sister watching over you at times and you will want to be able to show her that you are doing fine and that you are contributing to a better world for yourself and the people you surround yourself with.
So don't give up on life!
Don't worry so much about your parents, they are going to have to live with the lives that they have chosen.
You only need to be concerned with what you do with your life. Reach down inside yourself and see what your sister saw. Then gone on and do the things that you want to do, you will make yourself and your sister proud!
Give yourself plenty of time to cry, as crying is not a bad thing. I still cry when I am talking with my daughter, she died in January of 2001 and I will probably cry until it's my time to go.
Just don't let the crying stop you from going on and becomimg the person you have always wanted to be, and some day, I don't know when, you will find happiness again, and then life will once again have beauty and purpose.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
The Tenth Post on 2007-10-26 22:53:56 |
|
Hey Krieger,
You are right about the politicing inthe service,but it is no-different in civilian life.
There is one big difference that you might want to think about: There are few jobs in which you can make the kind of money you are making in the service.
Even if you have degree's you'll be hard pressed to find a parralell job in civilian life.
NAFTA has sucked the good jobs right out of this country and we are loosing more every day. ( Ross Perot was right on the money with that one!)
If you make an officer the hard way, believe me when I tell you, that you will get respected a lot more by the enlisted men. ( I was a grunt )
90 day wonders will always be frowned upon, and most often they deserve the animosity. (mostly rich kid assholes)
You didn't mention if you have done a tour in Iraq?
I would drop the dream about changing the army, cause it will just drive you nuts, or get you kicked out if you try.
Still you are thinking, and that's good.
Keep asking yourself, "what is right for you?" you'll find the answer.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Being Single... on 2007-10-26 22:37:31 |
|
Dear teenz,
I remember hearing that kind of crap from my mother.
" when are you ever going to grow up, get a wife and start having grandkids?"
I was way too busy just trying to get out of that house and experiencing life.
Well I got away alright, but somehow I ended up married and a father at 19.
Wow what a freakin mistake. I ended up divorced after five years a Vietnam veteran, single now with two kids.
I was an asshole an very inmature and it was tremednously hard for me to find a good job in the middle seventies.
Now a day doesn't go by that I don't look upon my life with regrets. I met the most wonderful woman on this earth, and she took me in with all my baggage and my kids. She was smart though because we didn't get married for the first 28 years. Now we have been together 31 years and I am the happiest I have ever been.
Now having said all that:
"I WOULD NOT DO IT AGAIN !"
Truely most people are not ready to even be good parents until they themselves have taken time to enjoy life for a while, and to understand what it really takes to make a happy home for themselves first.
Go out learn what you can, decide on a career and give yourself a chance to travel. Grow up, mature and become a responsible adult before you decide when to get serious about a relationship, and have children.
If your friend wants to have four kids let her, but advise her to go to work at a daycare center first.
There is too many kids having kids, and that is one of the reasons our children of today are in so much trouble.
Teens and young adults are not ready to take on the responsibility of children and so when they get tired of the poop and puke on their new clothes, they drop their kids off to mom and run out to play in the bars like they have no consequences on the way their kids turn out.
Their children see this behavior and at age ten they show the same distain at being responsible.
You are one hundred percent right in going after your goals, don't give your dreams up for man nor beast at this time in your life. There is plenty of time to decide whether you want a family in the future.
Don't let your friend cause you to stray, and don't let her make you feel wrong for not wanting to be a mommy quite right yet!
Stay her friend and watch what she does, and you'll see!
You certainly come across as a very smart person, so keep your life for you now because you deserve it!
I like the way you think, and I'm willing to bet that you will have a bountiful life, if you keep on track.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
The World on 2007-10-25 03:40:13 |
|
Hey theall,
I believe that it's the hindu's who believe in over 300,000 Gods and I too believe that as long as you believe in some good higher power, then who is to judge that I am wrong.
my personal way of believing is way different then the majority of believers, but who is to say that I am wrong.
I believe that religion is an exersize in belief that focuses on honest goodness, and with that belief, if gives humankind an opportunity to have faith in themselfs, and allows them a reason to more fully understand the hate and anger and greed that lies within themselfs.
Pay it forward was a reflection of a person that some how wanted to make a difference in the world. I'm sure it wasn't in their thoughts to comercialize it through hollywood, but to maybe pass on the idea to the masses.
It is unfortunate that society has become so callus as to only see it as a good movie.
Too bad we didn't get the real message being sent, and molded our lives around the old message do unto others.
Scientists are way ahead of you by the way. There are a miriad of things that have just been invented that have no real link to the past.
Yes someone might think that all the good inventions have already been done, but without having the ability to see the future, it's beyond our comprehencesion to even visualize of what is yet to come.
Yes it may be true that most people are working on improvements to what alreadt exists, but once again there are things today that have no- real bases in anything in the past.
Aren't you being a bit high horsed thinking you can inprove on people?
We are what we are, and only if we are willing to change our bad behaviors, then can you really improve upon us?
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
First One on 2007-10-25 02:39:53 |
|
Dear luxuriouslife,
Sounds like you are getting your head right, and I feel really happy for you!
It really nice to get a short history of your life and see that you have come a long way into knowing yourself.
I have also struggle with some issues, and have overcome them, feeling much better about things now.
I will be looking foward to what you have to say on your blogs. They are really lifting and upbeat.
Hey I bet you can become an inspiration to a lot of younger girls out there who are having some problems with their love lifes.
Nice to hear your words!
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Don't Care! on 2007-10-25 01:08:24 |
|
Dear killa0707,
Yep, it's tattoed right on your forehead!
As long as your wanting to be around people that you already know aren't of the highest caliber, then you are going to get f--ked with.
As long as you are willing to be shallow yourself, then it will be a long time coming before you find real satisfation.
People who know of karma know, what goes around comes around.
I understand the pressure you are under, the needing to be accepted by those you envy or admire, but if you aren't in your heart genuine, then people will eventually see this.
Remember that having a boyfriend is only that: a boyfriend.
He is most likely not going to be your life long companion, and even if you get married to your high school love. The chances of you staying married to eachother the rest of your lives are; slim, and none.
So protect your heart a little better and don't just fall in love with every guy you think you want.
You have got to realize that most guys are very inmature as we are growing and we will say most anything to get into a girls pants. Oh yeah! We will tell you how much we Love you to get laid! And then the day after, when you approach us with all your sweet hello's, we will tell you to f--- off.
Guys usually don't use the head on their shoulders to do their thinking with.
There really isn't a way for me to get you to think about things, but I hope this gives you enough information to at least START THINKING!
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
i hate my life and sometimes my daughter on 2007-10-25 00:49:05 |
|
Dear tcat,
Yep, shit happens.
Life can be so darn hard, and when it rains on you it's never that gentle summer rain that you want, but that cold drenching rain that soaks you to the bone.
I won't add to your depression by telling you what it's like to loose a child, but I will tell you that life goes on.
The reason I mention this is because after my divorce I got custody of my children and not because I went to court for them, but because their mother just didn't want the responsibility or obligation to raise them on her own. So I did.
After I got them I came to the realazation that this wasn't going to be so easy, and yes there were times that I didn't think I was going to stand the burden of taking care of two kids.
But I made it and my kids grew up and left home and many times throughout their lives they made me one proud papa!
Back in January of 2001, I lost my daughter to a drug overdose. She didn't do it intentionally, but was dead none the less.
It's been over six years now and life goes on, but the pain will never go away. So even there are going to be times when you don't think you really want your child, believe me, if she were to be gone from your life now, you would always hate yourself for having those thoughts of not wanting her.
So what do you do now?
Sounds like to me that you are a deep thinking person and that is what will bring you out of your depression. To get back up on your feet, and do what you have too so that you may make postive decissions to have a good life for your and your daughter.
Don't spend too much time worrying about things that have already happened. Use the time to decide what you are going to do with your future.
You said you had to drop out of college, well maybe for now, but I'm sure you'll find a way to either continue your education or to find a vocation that you would be happy with.
Anyway, you have a right to be depressed for a while, but just don't wallow in it!
You can either knock down the walls that are preventing you from accomplishing what you want, or go around them. Whatever you choose just don't sit and do nothing.
We are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for, and I'm sure you are plenty strong enough to get through this!
You can e-mail me if you want, or just continue to post your blogs and I will put up a comment now and then.
Heck give yourself a chance to mourn, and then get back to business.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Religion. on 2007-10-25 00:19:15 |
|
Dear vampyricpurity,
I definately agree!
There has always only been one good reason for religion and that is:
People are smart, but masses of people are dumb. The human desire to be with others is so strong that they are willing to forego their own belief's.
It's not just religion that make people believe, you've seen it, like when your with a bunch of your friends and they start talking about how they don't like this or that and they think that something is totally stupid.
Your natural reaction is to go along with the groups thinking, even if by yourself you don't think that at all.
It's the need to be accepted that will let you act in a manner that you would never do on your own.
We all know God in our own ways no matter what name you place on him.
It's a need to believe in a higher power that drives people by the millions towards an organized religion.
The need to know that this life isn't all that there is?
A single person's pshycilogical make up is very complex, but a group of people is easy to analize because of it's one minded focus.
Actually religion was a very good thing, but then it has been corupted for 5000 years (according to how long the bible says we have been on earth).
Man has made hundreds of different religions based on his decision on how and what to believe.
Calling yourself by a name makes no difference really because the whole idea of religion is really based upon was is good, right, and honest.
The problem with religion is that it has brought about many deaths, because someone else doesn't believe the way you do.
What you should really be asking yourself, is how can people who claim that they are religious be so greedy and damning of others?
How can they call all other religions as being wrong.
After all If there really is a God, then wouldn't he be just happy with the fact that no-matter how you are doing it, you are still believing in him?
I guess if people are all going to believe in something, then I guess I'm happy that they are at least believing in a God who is good, and not in some evil being who tells you to take what you can get and the hell with everyone else.
At least you are thinking, and I believe that thinking is the start of finding the answers.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
annoying drivers on 2007-10-24 23:41:37 |
|
Hey halex,
I too have thought that after a certain age, people should not be allowed to drive anymore.
But then I think, if we now make another law restricting our rights to drive at an older age, then what happens when I reach that age?
Mister hip hop is probably going through his mid life crisis and is unsure about his own identity, but he is definately being rude with his loud music.
Goldiggers come in both sexes, so if you think it's gross to see a guy picking his nose, then wait until you see a really good looking girl with her finger up her nose so far that she must be scratching her brain. All typical sexual thoughts about her just jump right out of your head.
Yes I have thought of buying a tank and just running over people in my way, but it wouldn't be long before I would have to run over myself for the stupid things I have done on the road.
I am proud of the fact that you don't join the idiots who think it's okay to play bumper cars, and that you are able to control most of your anger, but you may want to watch who you give the finger!
I used to live in the city of Orange and I commuted to work to work each day at LaBrea Pontiac not too far down the street from Hollywood Blvd., and if you keep flipping the bird, someone is going to pull out a gun sooner or later, so be careful!
Do you think you can create a transportation device like the one used on StarTrek?
BEAM ME UP SCOTTY!
lmao.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Lonely day, on 2007-10-24 23:20:07 |
|
Dear Sengentaro,
I'm struggling about what to say in this comment.
It's really tearing at my heart.
I have walked many miles in the shoes you are hinting at. Those that put you in such a terrible place where you question your right to exist.
There are no-words I can say that will take you away from your thoughts, and how you feel. All the hugs in the world are not going to help you.
What I can tell you is, that this too shall pass.
I won't depress you with all the absolutely horrible things that have happened to me, honestly because I don't like to remember them, but I will tell you that I am here, and I have survived.
You have to decide whether you want to stay in an enviroment that is obviously still causing you hurt and then you need to take the steps to change this.
People only can hurt and affect you if you let them.
Do the things that are right for you, because as long as you live, you will discover that it is only you who has the power to change your life.
I don't know why you are in such a depresing state of mind, but it is up to you to change that.
You are going to have to jump trough the hoops that are part of life's rules, and if you can, you will be able to change your life to what you really want from it.
Bottom line, all the advice I can give, is to change yourself. Don't worry about others around you until you can deal with them.
You are the only person in life you have to worry about, and if you can find a way to be happy with yourself, then you will find it to be a lot easier to be happy with others.
Don't sit around waiting for God to answer your prayers, cause God helps those who help themselves.
Get up, stand up and make things happen for yourself!
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
My first official appointment on 2007-10-24 22:58:53 |
|
Dear tadaa,
I am also going under the knife soon.
Guess after my life experiences it doesn't bother me at all. I know the statistics about being under anesthesia and I guess it's because I've been shot, blown up, broken in accidents that it just doesn't bother me about surgery.
What I mostly want to say is; I'm sure you'll do just fine and I can't wait to hear how things are going for you in the next coming months ahead.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
decisions.... on 2007-10-21 04:33:03 |
|
Dear skyhigh,
It really hit home when I saw this posting.
I can feel your hurt as that happened to me once. I was pretty young back then when it happened and I was still a very unbalanced and really confused person.
I won't tell you my whole life story but it really had a strong influence on what I did after it happened.
I'll just tell you about what is relavent to your situation.
Back in 1972 I decided to become a truck driver and like you I was gone away from home for long periods of time, and I was gone very often. Not very condusive to a two year old marriage.
Well in 1975 I was on my way back home from a cross country trip after being out on the road for three weeks.
My co-driver and I came upon another truck driver who was broken down on the side of the road and we stopped to give him a hand. He had been driving for over twenty hours without a break and now he was having transmission problems.
Well we got him going again but he couldn't keep his truck onthe road because he was just too tired to drive. So I volunteered to drive his truck for him and my co-driver would follow us.
Sure enough somehow we got seperated from eachother so when I and the guy got to Houston Texas, I waited for Glenn ( my co-driver) at the first truck stop just outside town. He never showed, to this day I don't know why. He drove straight to the company we were taking our load. He unloaded there, got himself another load and headed back to Orange County California where we were both from. And he just left me ther to get home on my own.
I didin't realize that I had left my wallet in our truck so there wasn't any way for me to get a money order or cash so that I could get a bus ticket home, so I did what any 25 year old guy in my place would do. I stuck out my thumb and started hitch hiking home.
It was somewhere around SanAntonio that a car pulled over to pick me up, but instead of opening the door to give me a ride, three guys jumped out, told me to give them my money, (which I had none) and when I didn't give them any, they proceeded to beat the living shit out of me.
[ hang in I'm getting to it]
Well I laid in a ditch on the side of the road for three or four days.
When I was able to get up and start hiking again, a traveling salesman picked me up, he couldn't belive that I had survived the beating. I was a horrible mess. I was covered with dried blood from head to tail.
He took me to the very next gas station and he wanted to call the police or take me to the hospital, but I just wanted to get home to my wife and kids.
The man' name was Jerry and he was going to LosAngeles, so Orange County was on his way.
He dropped me off right at my apartment.
My wife was still at work, so I had to get our manager to let me in.
Altough I had called my wife the night before and we both cried about what had happened. I was really not prepared for what happened when she got home from work that day.
Of course I had cleaned up and everything, but when she got home she took one look at me, ran into my arms and hugged me to the point that I thought she was going to squeeze all of the air out of me.
We were both crying and hugging and kissing, when she whispered in my ear that she had cheated with a friend of ours while I was gone.
That's when the air in me was really gone and the room began to spin and I litterately fell onto our sofa.
My crying had stopped and i was stunned to the point that I couldn't even ask her why.
I walk to our bathroom to our medicine cabinet where I proceeded to eat every pill in the cabinet.
I went back to the living room, sat on the couch and just stared into space.
No skyhigh, you are not the blame, and I know how so badly it hurts. I could only wish at that moment the pills would do their job and I could be over the horrific pain I was going through.
Obviously they didn't and today I am so damn glad they didn't. But at that time I felt there was no reason for me to go on living.
Gosh I was really touched by your posting, as I can still remeber that hurt like it was yesterday.
There are a mirriad of reasons our marriage had come to that point, and I guess you can blame me being gone often, and for some long periods of time. I know that contributed to our divorce but the falling apart came with just more than me being gone. There were many many factors that brought about what happened to us. We both played a role in what tore us apart and it was not just my job.
We were young and inmature when we first got married. We had all these grand ideas of what we were going to do as a married couple, but mostly we forgot what it takes to make a marriage work. You must first and most importantly be able to talk with eachother and express your needs. We didn't know that then and we didn't do it.
Your job won't always be the same, and in the future you will be able to choose how much you travel and maybe then you will find someone who will be more understanding and more secure with you. You will be able to comunicate your feelings much better without making demands,and placing ultimatums upon eachother.
It will be then that you will truely find your partner in life who will help you grow and achieve all the things you both want out of life.
Hang in there girl all things come to those who wait.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
''you mean why is there silverware in the pancake on 2007-10-21 03:17:34 |
|
Dear poppyxstars,
I hope that I don't offend you with what I am about to say, but I feel compelled to say it anyway.
You spoke of eating healthy foods and taking vitamins and counting calories. All good things to do for yourself, but then you also spoke of purging. Good God girl are you crazy or what?
You want to do good things for your body but then you vomitt causing your stomache acids to shift into overdrive.
Sending a dose of acid up your esophigus, and through your mouth and over your teeth.
Do you have any idea at all of the damage you are doing to your stomache, throat, taste buds, and teeth?
Then if you add this all up, where is it going to get you?
I haven't a clue as to what you look like physically but I bet you are not the picture of health that you probably see yourself as.
Hey if you eat it then let it stay down there. If you have enough self discipline to purge afterwards then by all means you should have the self discipline not to eat like a pig in the first place.
Heck if you have got an ideal weight that you want to maintain, then use your time spent cooking exercising instead.
I bet if you would follow a plan along those lines, you will become an absolute knockout looking girl.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
appearance. on 2007-10-21 02:59:45 |
|
Dear kiah,
Boy do I agree with what you just said.
I know that we all have thoughts about the people that are around us, but only the jerks haven't learned how to keep their mouths shut.
What really is a kicker. I can tell you a real story that will make my point.
Back in 1970 I worked for a sign building company in Omaha Nebraska.
There was this guy I worked with who was always wolf whistling at the women going by. His name was Jim and he was always saying this or that to the people that went by, and his comments could really get pretty nasty.
Well Jim had no right to be making smart remarks to people about the way they looked because he was no beauty himself.
Jim was a really big guy and I mean really really big and I saw him hurt alot of peoples feelings with the nasty remarks he would say to them.
Then one summer Jim fell off a sign we were working on and it caused his leg bone to break through his hip which of course made him become disabled.
After all the surgery that could be done for him was done, he had to wear a special orthopedic shoe that had about a three or four inch sole on the right foot in order to make up for the lost length in his right leg.
After that he walked with a real real bad limp.
One day we were all walking back into our shop when some guy came around the corner and bumped into Jim.
As the guy picked up whatever he had dropped, he looked at Jim and said to him; " look out where your going damn gimp"
I thought for sure that Jim would have hit the guy right in the mouth, but he didn't.
After we got into our shop I noticed that Jim was wiping away a small tear off his face.
This guy had hurt him with his comment.
I would have never thought that Jim could have been so sensitive.
I also thought about how many times the people that he yelled at walked away feeling the same hurt.
That made me believe even more in karma, "What goes around comes around".
That was over thirty seven years ago and I have never called anyone any kind of name since that day.
You can never know if that one smart ass comment might be the one that pushes someone over the edge and you have no-idea what that might cause them to do because of your ignorance and inconsideration.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
things that are so annoying on 2007-10-21 01:54:17 |
|
Hey halex,
Sorry but I couldn't help but snicker at this blog. It was just that I could see the people you were describing just as though I was there.
The smoker guy, only God knows why he's there. The lady riding with her feet on the handle bars, how RUDE!
Now the old guy with the oxygen bottle, I just hope he doesn't up and die while your there exersizing, but I guess it's kind of good that he is trying. Can't be doing very much for him sleeping during his tour de france. lol
Thanks for the giggles, it's just that you paint such a good picture.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
I Survived ... on 2007-10-20 05:42:08 |
|
Dear Elendii,
NAFTA is alive and working well, isn't it?
The type of management is exactly what our fathers and grandfathers, fought and died for in order to form a union.
Corporations are not human and they are totally unsympathetic to your problems.
Upper management is only concerned with their yearly bonuses and they only answer to the stockholders; which many times, they are themselves large stockholders.
Look at how Iacoca worked his first years for a salary of one dollar per year, but ten million shares of stock.
This is the pattern of every corporation today, if they CEO's don't get millions in cash bonuses, they will gladly take millions in stock holdings.
Now that nafta has been put in place, it's just as Ross Perot said; the sucking sound you just heard were all the good jobs leaving the country.
Now once the jobs created a vacum, then there had to be something to replace them and that is return of slave labor.
This is why China has become such a powerful nation in todays global economy. They practice slave labor and it's not about to change over there.
Your kids are the one's who are really going to suffer, because once China runs out of water to drink and air to breath they will be coming here to take over the U.S. and when they declare war on us: unlike WW1 and WW2 there is no possible way the rest of the world will be able to out produce their manafacturing, and the number of people China will have to put into war, and then you will really know what it is like to be a slave.
If you think that I am spreading propaganda, then maybe you should look at how absolutelt horrible China's enviroment has become.
The comunists there are not going to be able to tolerate for too much longer before it becomes impossible for them to do anything else but to conquer the rest of the world.
Hell not only do they have their own military scientists, we are having them make the technology our owm military uses.
They make almost all the turbine engines for general electric now; "those are the manafacturers that make the turbine engines that power our planes" and companies are jumping on the cheap labor bandwagon for all their industrial needs. This in order to gain a larger profit margin.
So in conclusion, if we the people: (not the government) do not stop and reverse this trend now, then you might as well learn to hold your pee!
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Another U.P. Adventure on 2007-10-20 04:42:56 |
|
Dear rogintheUP,
I randomly came across your blog, and the thing that stood out for me is that you have learned to upload your pictures. I wish that I could do that, but I'm still learning how to turn this machine on. lol
I got a chuckle because you were explaining to everyone where the U.P. is.
You see, I happen to be a flatlander.haha
I live down by toledo right near the state line in a little town called IDA. It's right of U.S.23 south of Cabela's which is in Dundee.
I'm going to go and look at your profile to see what's there.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Girl B on 2007-10-20 04:32:51 |
|
Dear RagingLadies,
I happen to notice that there is someone out there being a moral policeman, and for that it's too bad that people would come here and bother those who just type the way they talk.
We all can't be prim and proper, and there are just sometimes there isn't another word that expresses the feeling quite the same way as a curse word can.
It's my opinion that unless you are on this site talking nothing but smutt, and your whole conversation or blog is nothing but porn. Then swearing on occasion is totally acceptable.
I mean damn! sometimes there is just no other way to say it.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
You can tell a lot about a person... on 2007-10-20 04:23:58 |
|
Dear kaos264,
While I agree with you, that you can't tell a lot about a person from their footwear. There are some things that you can pick up on.
First, the type of shoes can send a massage that today I'm being csual.
Second, if the person is wearing a nice pair of shoes but they are lacking a good polishing, you can asume one of two things. This person lacks self image and doesn't take the time to care for their own possesions, or they are so unhygenic that they aren't going to take the time to polish them,and I'll bet that their house will be as ill kept as their shoes.
Love & Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
I'm not a stalker! on 2007-10-20 02:40:24 |
|
Dear whattheheck,
Sounds like your looking for something lacking in your life and your try to fullfill with your relationships.
Unfortunately they will never be able to fill that void, at least not until you find out what it is in yourself that you are not providing for yourself.
There may be a little selfesteem factor that you may need to work on. Do things that truely make you feel good about yourself. When you can consider yourself really, honestly satified with who you are, then relationship will find you and it will be real.
Quit believing that life is like the movies. There is no mister wonderful and we do not live happliy ever after.
My relationship with my wifes took years to get at to where we are today. Hell she wouldn't even marry me for the first twenty eight years!! lol
Thats the trueth, we just got married back in April 2005, but have been living together since 1976.
We have put up with eachothers idiosycracy's and quirks, and problems for over thirty years and I must admitt it has only gotten better each and every day because we did Love eachother enough to make it work. We still bitch at one another occasionally but it's nothing that lasts more than a couple of hours at the most and then the same things we were bitching about turns to teasing. I mean it's crazy how it works, but it's only important that it does work.
I'd be willing to bet that we tell eachother that we love you more than teenagers. I might be sitting in the living room and Pat be in the kitchen reading the paper, and for no reason at all, she'll yell out I Love You Jonathin, and I will yell back I Love You Pat. We must hug and kiss ten, twenty thirty times a day. Sex is something I won't talk about right now, but believe me when I say it's good but not important.
Try taking the time to become someone you are proud of and Love will find you when you least expect.
Love,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Afraid on 2007-10-19 06:15:49 |
|
Dear ki_1six,
Sounds like your thinking too much.
Go about your day activities and focus on what your doing.
For goodness sake don't try reding someone else's mind, we have to much to deal with thinking our own thoughts, much less trying to figure out what someone else is thinking.
Heck, if your going to a party where he will be there, and you want to talk to him, then say hello. Don't wait for him to say something, he might just be thinking the same way you are: oh I'll wait for her to say hi first.
Shouldn't even be thinking thoughts of love, you haven't even begun a relationship yet.
Don't forget that you already know yourself and what happens to your heart when you think you need someone else to be complete.
You don't need anyone to be happy, and in reality no-one other than yourself can truely bring you happiness!
Take time to love yourself first, and to love what yoy are doing with your life. Love with another will come when you least expect it, but you'll never find it if you go out looking for it.
What you will find is, that as long as you let yourself be vunerable, then people will use you only to cast you aside when they are done.
So do your own thing first and make your own way in life,there's plenty of time for love, and love will move in it's own time.
Enjoy ki_1six for a while motocrossboy will be ther later.
Love,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Clothesline on 2007-10-19 05:44:20 |
|
Dear aurarajulialis,
Why just back as a child?
My wife and I still look at the clouds to see the pictures they paint.
We look fo four leaf clovers, although it's pretty hard on our backs now a days. lol
We walk and play with our dogs, and bath in the unquestioning Love they give us.
It's fall now and we debate the best looking colors of the trees.
We hold hands a speak of our Love for eachother as thouhg we just met today.
We talk of the things we are going to do to the house, but we let the dishes sit in the sink another day,
Why only think of the daydreams of a child, those daydreams are still here waiting for you to revisit at any time!
Love,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
I'm being stalked...by Reader's Digest. on 2007-10-19 05:34:22 |
|
Dear kaos264,
Call, write, or e-mail Readers Digest and have yourself removed from their mailing list. It's just that simple.
Your not going to hurt their feelings and you would be doing us all a favor by getting yourself off their list, by saving one more tree that was cut down to make the junk mail that RD sent you.
I'm not sure how you got on their list, most likely because some other company you got something from sold them your name and address.
It is all of our responsibilities to get ourselves of the annoying junk mail lists.
Love,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
new roommate on 2007-10-19 05:25:59 |
|
Dear Small Town Writer,
Discipline,discipline discipline!
Too much information, unimportant facts and data. Rambling.
If it's a romance novel, then give us the romance.
Reveal the feelings, describe the relationships with emotions, just identifying the players does not give us an idea of who they are.
Here's an example; I introduced Jillie to Clay, everything was polite enough but when we left the apartment, Jillie said " he was just wierd enough"
What? what did you say?
You know he's not to nice not to be bad, and he's cute enough to make living with him interesting. God his eyes seem to undress you with just one glance.
Describe to me what you are writing about, give me enough information that I can draw a mental picture.
You know where your going but show me what you are doing along the way.
Paint me a picture of everything your doing. Tell me how the sun felt, the sand, the water as you washed away the sand.
Sounds like you have the basics now get the knowledge you need to tell me of great advetures, take me away to a place of love and life and living that will take me away from mine now!
Other than that, it's a good start!
Love,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Is anyone able to see this? Let me know. on 2007-10-19 04:53:02 |
|
Dear Barnsey12,
You'll find your future with the next step you take towards it.
What is your passion? What are your hobbies? What is it that you enjoy?
Those are some of the questions you need to ask yourself, and the you need to make a plan.
The plan does not have to be what you are going to do with the rest of your life, because if there is one thing I know for sure, it's that your wants and needs will change as you go, and so plan for what you are going to want tomorrow.
I have no-idea what NLP is: and Tony Robbins motivation is a way for him to make money like devidggal said.
Sure he can motivate you when your at his seminars, but he's not going to be there everyday for you. His real message which you may not of remembered is: motivate yourself!
Do the things that make you feel good about what you are doing and you'll find that everything else will fall into place. After that you will be looking back saying to yourself, Oh what a wonderfull life I have had.
And just that quick life will have moved on and your problems will seem so far forgotten.
Love,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
AAAAGGGGGGGGG !!!!!!!!!! on 2007-10-19 04:37:01 |
|
Dear Jaded,
Sounds like kentlass has given you some of the best advice to be given.
Check your heart and ask yourself if there isn't more you want from this friend, than to be a good friend.
Kentlass was right, he has to suffer this pain through on his own, so if you want to be a good friend then give him space and time. Let him know that you will be there but don't smother him.
For some reason men don't believe that women can have friends of the opposite sex without there being something physical and the same holds true for women.
The only time that either man or woman can believe that you can have friends of the opposite sex is when your not in love with someone.
Once your in love you cannot accept your partners friends are just that: friends. You'll see.
You may be part of his problem or may not, just give him room and time to sort things out, if you truely have a good friend he'll be back and he will be needing your friendship.
So stay a good friend!
jwcj
p.s. Don't wait go see a Doctor about the headaches!
|
| Posted in
Why Men Will Never Get It on 2007-10-19 04:21:37 |
|
Dear Devidggal,
Wow I am really sorry you had a migrane, they hurt I know!
I don't know how to answer your question cause I get this feeling you already have an idea what your going to do, but here goes.
While he's asleep, start by hiding all his clean underwear. When he asks for clean feign sleep or another headache.
Make sure that you tie his shoe or boot laces together, and make sure it a nasty knot.
Superglue the bottom of his pant legs.
Wrinkle all his shirts.
Give him only a small peck on the cheek as he leaves for work, and don't be home when he gets there at night.
Instead, leave the kids with the sitter, take your friends and go find an all male strip club for the night.
When you get home and have him giving you the third degree, just explain that since he enjoyed Hooters and you know you haven't been giving him all the great sex he was fantasising about when he was there. Tell him you just wanted to get into the mood for what he has been missing so much that he even took his boys there with him so he could rubberneck.
Then grab him by the back off the head and lead him to the promissed land! lmao!
|
| Posted in
sex in marriage on 2007-10-19 04:03:40 |
|
Wayne I was wrong, I don't know how to get you on my friends list.
My friend Luke told me once and I actually do have a couple of people there, but I forgot how I did it. lol
I do have an excuse, DRUGS! I'll tell you about that later.
Okay someone tell me how to add someone to my friends list please. Again.
|
| Posted in
sex in marriage on 2007-10-19 03:58:55 |
|
Hey Wayne,
Interesting question!
Nope sex is not necessary.
I say that because I'm not getting any.lol Important? Yes!
There are circumstances and reasons that I'm not getting any, and although I was what you might call, "sexually addicted", not so long ago. Things have happened that I am more aware now, about what my wife had been trying to tell me for years. It's just not that important to the relationship.
A relationship is built on love and sex is only an expression of that love. But when it comes down to it sex is only sex, a physical responce to a given stimuli.
By the way now that I have found one of your posts I think I'll be able to put you on my friends list.
Good topic!
|
| Posted in
No ppl interest with this blog? on 2007-10-19 03:46:25 |
|
Hey Hologram,
I really did enjoy the pictures, but the text is way beyond what I have knowledge of. It would be totally beyond my capacity to discuss any of this subject with you.
But take heart in knowing that I will return to your blogs just to see what your up too.
|
| Posted in
madness on 2007-10-18 06:47:29 |
|
Dear knock up,
Oh those hormonal swings!
Yep the wolrd is going to end today at four forty four this afternoon. lol
Aren't we all really alone even when there's people around.
These and a thousand other thoughts are going to drive you crazy, but yo know there will always be someone to talk with if you need to talk.
This is the time for your family and friends to lend you their shoulders to cry on, so use them! I just know they are waiting to hear from you so let them do their job.
Just the fact that you are worried about how good of mother your going to be, tells me that you will do just fine.
Heck as long as you give and show your kids you Love them you really can't go too far wrong when you do everything for them with Love in your heart.
jwcj
|
| Posted in
hi on 2007-10-18 06:36:12 |
|
Dear kana,
Hello
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Deep Thoughts on 2007-10-18 05:57:16 |
|
yep, no- doubt this is good stuff
Don't forget to send it to a publisher it's your money someone else will make from these.
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Men suck!! on 2007-10-18 05:33:29 |
|
Dear Sekzkitten,
I had to go back and read your other posts before I felt I could make an intellegent comment on this one.
So here is what I think.
Yes men suck, but where you are today really doesn't have anything to do with what a man has done.
You talked about your upbringing and I think that has more to do with where your at than a lousy guy.
You don't sound like you have ever taken time for yourself. You didn't really go out and enjoy life and experience the world.
You did drugs and thought you were having fun.
While doing that, you decided that, hey this would be a good time to have a relationship like mom and dad, that way I will have someone to share my fun with.
Doesn't sound like after knowing you had the wrong guy that you got any smarter, cause you went and got another one.
Guys are not going to make your life complete, only you can meet you own needs, only you know your own wants and needs, and no-man is going to be able to satisfiy that empty feeling until you, yourself attain the goals you used to have.
Now youv'e got kids and they are going to need your attention and love, but your not going to know how to handle all of this on your own.
Even in your workplace you have let other people use you and control your life, that is why they have taken advantage of you.
You need to take care of yourself first, and then you have got to take care of those kids. Your a mommy now.
Stand up for yourself, go out and get a job, maybe get some more schooling so that you will be able to have a career in some field that you want.
Most importantly quit looking for a guy to fullfill your inner desires, we will almost always let you down.
jwcj
p.s.
If you need us guys for sex, then use us for sex, but quit falling in Love.
Oh yeah, use some contraception and a condom. You don't need to get V.D. now and you sure don't need to get pregnant again!
|
| Posted in
Brianna Perfection: Do They Feel The Way I Do? on 2007-10-17 05:44:14 |
|
Dear Brianna,
Read your blogs, made me sad.
When I was younger, I was one of those skinny skinny kids, and all the kids at school made sure I new it. Even the overweight kids made fun of me and they used to like punching me in the gut, cause I made such a cool sound like a skwishy rotten pumpkin. God that used to hurt, I used to be bruised all the time.
Even when I went into the Marines, they almost wouldn't take me cause I only weiged 109lbs. but it was at the height of Vietnam and the draft was going strong so they new they were going to get me one way or another.
Now I'm old and fat and now I can see how people look at me, they don't want to sit next to me at the movies and God forbid they see me when my wife and go out to eat. Oh ya! even guys I don't know say they can see that I haven't ever missed a meal. Who do they think they are, nut when I look inside myself at least I am 100% sure of who I am and they are really lucky I am who I am today otherwise they would be in such trouble. lol
You have got to first understand that you may be overweight but that is not really your fault.
Your mom and dad have made a contribution to your weight by setting you up on you path to big by the foods they gave you as you were growing.
While we all as kids loved pizza, it and other fast foods have cotributed to what we look like now. It's even worse for younger kids that whose whole diet cosists of nothing but preprepared foods. Most kids now live off of nothing that doesn't come out of the freezer and into the microwave and into their stomaches, and when mom gets to lazy to even nuke something for dinner, she runs you to micky d's and boy ain't that nutrisheous.
If you want to change your body, then that's the decision you are going to have to make. Then you are going to have to have the self disipline to stick to it. I know you can do it if you really want to. There are all kinds of wonderfull delisheous foods available that you can eat all you want and you don't have to worry because they will actually help you to loose all the weight you want.
Go to the library and you will find rows and rows of books to help you eat the right foods.
The only effort you will have to put forth is to change your eating habits.
Stay away from all the fast food places, and watch what kinds of oils you uese in cooking.
Don't forget that you must develope a good self image and things will come together for you quickly.
Love yourself and do the things that are good for you, you know in your heart that your really a good person and you deserve the best.
It's okay if your doc gives you drugs to help you cope, but remember this: use the drugs, but don't let the drugs use you.
They may help you through a hard time but they are not the answer.
You must make up your own mind to feel better about yourself, no doctor or drug or friend can make you feel better. That's your job!
Peace,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Freedom of Speech on 2007-10-17 02:37:20 |
|
Dear Sayso,
I just came across your free speech posting.
Now there are two things I know about you; 1. You are of a religious nature, 2. You know something of our laws.
What I still do not know is what you are trying to sayso about?
To you come here to blog about God?
To gather those who are unrepentant?
To bring your religion to the masses?
I just am not understanding your point, so I'll just be blunt and foward, " What is it that you are trying to tell us?"
I'll be waiting for your reply.
jwcj
|
| Posted in
all alone in a room full of ppl on 2007-10-17 02:25:46 |
|
Dear keeblerchickie,
I know where your coming from as I have been there many times myself.
Even now though I have been with my wife for 31 years, those feelings of being alone come and go.
I'm been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, clinical depression, and bi-polarism.
Some how knowing that the shrinks know that I suffer, doesn't help me with my suffering.
Talking with therapists who are good, helps, but when it comes right down to it, it's me who has to do the work in order for me to feel better.
I swear sometimes I just know that I really do not fit on this planet, I know that there is no-one else out there that feels what I am feeling, but the trueth of the matter is, everyone on earth share these feelings, it's just that some of us have a harder time understanding them.
I now have to suffer from failed back surgery syndrome and I have to eat four pain pills a day just to cope with the pain. I use pain patches, a tens unit (that's an eletrical stimulator), steroid injections, muscle relaxors, and I still end up in the emergency room once or twice a month cause it hurts so bad. Add that to the head problems I have suffered all my life, and you can understand why I have attempted suicide a couple of times.
I think even worse than the physical pain that alone feeling has got to be the worst.
Thank God my wife puts up with me!
The only thing I can say with any confidense to you is: " get up off your ass and go do something!"
It doesn't matter what it is, just do something. My daily goal is to do just one thing each day.ie; sweep the floor, do the dishes, vacum the rug, mow the lawn, any one thing. Some days I hurt so bad doing anything besides sitting in a chair is like climbing a mountain to me, but I make sure that I do at least one thing per day no-matter what.
That's when I get to feel good because at least I accomplished something. And then my wife, "who is an angel" comes home to tell me she is proud of what I have done, and then all is right with the world.
I have found that setting out these small goals and accomplishing them is rewarding.
If you don't have anyone to pat you on the back then you must learn to pat yourself. Heck write me an e-mail and I'll pat you on the back.
That empty lonely feeling is really a bummer and it's only you that make it go away.
I'm partly an optomist and therefore I'm thinking you have within you to beat this feeling down and get on with your life.
Send me an e-mail and I will write back, but if you don't want to, i will just continue to make my comments about your postings right out here on your blogs.
Stand up and be Counted,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Becoming a candlemaker on 2007-10-17 01:49:14 |
|
Dear Aurorajulialis,
Sounds like you have got your feet planted firmly on the ground.
It's pretty exciting for me to see someone taking their first steps at building a business. I'm behind you and I betting that as positive you sound, then it probably won't be long before you become successful at your chosen direction.
Okay, now that I have given you your kudu's it is time for me to put up or shut up.
Here is my proposition: you take the time to e-mail me and I will buy a candle from you.
If I get your e-mail I will give you my address and you will have to give me yours. I will put my trust in you to give me a reasonable price on any candle you make, then I will send you a money order for the proce of the candle and postage to ship it to me.
I like your attitude and am willing to trust you.
Way To Go,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Am I a Christian? on 2007-10-17 01:37:14 |
|
MadameWuzzle,
Christianity is a religious distnction, a style of religion.
If you don't know if you are a christian then it might be worth your while to go to a library and read about their beliefs.
You sound like to me that you are a very basically good person who wants to believe in a higher power and that is good.
The style in which you believe is what will define you in your ways of believing.
Religion is the teaching of the Lord under that particular religious manner.
I won't waste your time listing all the religions and you probably know about most of them anyhow.
Just remember that all religions are about the believing in a higher power that we call God in whatever manner.
You sound only confused about wether you want to be a Lutheren, a Babtist, a Catholic, a Jehova Whitness, a Pentacostal, a Mormon, Jewish, Hindu, Budist, or one of the many other ways to believe and honor God.
Like I suggested, try the library first, so that you may familiarise yourself with all the different religions, and then maybe speak to some people who are practicing the religions you find most appealing to you. After that pick a church and go to a meeting and sermon to see if that feels right to you.
Yep sounds to me that you just might be a Christian, and maybe a pretty good one at that!
|
| Posted in
Level One Is Timeless Until The End. on 2007-10-17 01:16:07 |
|
I think you'll start getting to enjoy this game when you get off the computer and start actually playing the game.
Don't forget that you most have a plan, a goal, a desire of what you want from it.
You are allowed to go off course once in a while, but you can't just flounder.
You have got to have something to strive for and then you have got to row the boat or you will never get there.
jwcj
|
| Posted in
This is the start of something new on 2007-10-17 01:11:05 |
|
Dear jrixon,
I read it.
I understood it.
Sounds like a good begining towards becoming a writer to me!
I'll be watching for future postings.
|
| Posted in
Think before you speak on 2007-10-17 01:05:48 |
|
Great observations!
have you ever thought of writing them down, maybe publishing a book with them so that I might be able to buy it and have some more good laughs?
Maybe you might put a bunch of these together and doing stand up?
Spunds like to me that you have a very good sense of humor and I bet you could really make us all laugh!
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Curiously Patient on 2007-10-17 00:59:29 |
|
Hey lofijerm,
My handle is jwcj and I have been reading your postings.
Sounds to me like your going through some shit right now and it's been causing great pain and anger.
I have come to "thoughts.com" so that I will have the opportunity to meet and talk with people. I hope that I may be able to have an interactive experience with as many people as possible.
There is another person on here that seems to have some things in common with you and maybe you two might want to read eachothers blogs, and possibly start a private talk about what is going on .
Do me a favor and go to "recent posts"
find a post by: dAYdREAM1910 called "Details" posted on 2007-10-16 at 22:54:46 read what he has posted, and then read what I (jwcj) have placed as a comment.
I've attempted suicide more than once in my life; twice because of failing relationships, and twice because of severe pain from a broken back. It's not any kind of answer and although I'm not sure about God, I do thank God that the suicide attemps failed, because there is not enough papper in the world to tell you how great my life is now.
If you want send a mail to me, I will take the time to talk to you about whatever you want, just don't send me a bunch of superficial bullshit as your life and mine are too short to not be discussing serious issues and real problems.
Sincerely,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Truth about the bible on 2007-10-17 00:05:30 |
|
Dear Sayso,
Saw your postins today, well at least the one I am making this comment on now. The others have been blocked as inappropiate, so I couldn't get to them.
So with only this blog to read I am left wondering what else you might have posted and have you posted your point?
I'm not sure if your telling me that I shouldn't believe in God, Religion, or what?
Are you now studying theology?
Can you tell me why those who have had to have someone or thing to belive in should now open their eyes and give up their faith.
We all know that religion has always been the foundation of war, destruction, and the conquering and enslaving of others.
To what end are your postings?
I see the link you offer. What trueth are you talking about?
Historical trueth?
Biblical trueth?
Scientific trueth?
The trueth be known that there is no-such thing as trueth. There are only views of those that have seen what they have seen and now will relate to me what they perceive to be the trueth.
Interesting is what you post, now will you tell me why you have posted it?
Send your answer to me at : jwcj
|
| Posted in
Giving Up on 2007-10-16 23:44:00 |
|
Dear Achelois421,
Read your postings.
One word response; "WOW"
I can only hope that you are making a manuscript and not a diary. I consider myself a fairly well read person, and I must say; this is top quality writting and that when you have aquired a bookfull of these, you might want to seek out a publisher.
I am aware enough also to see the writtings come from within a deep hurt in you. I think maybe this is your true calling and that it is through your writting you may find your inner needs.
Be sure to know the difference between your thoughts on paper and what your life really is. It's a fine line and is easy to cross to the other side, if you don't keep your eyes on the prize.
If you want, stick me on your friends list so that I may never miss anything you write. I truely can hear your heart in your writtings and though you are now in suffering, your talent stands out above the masses and the world is in need of your words.
I have long read the words of the dead poets and have always wanted to have known them. I kinda think that you may be the poet of today and your words are touching and deep and moving and thought provoking. I do hope to see you write more, and deeper, and longer on your thoughts.
Sincerely.
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Slowing Down on 2007-10-16 23:22:07 |
|
Dear Pjharr,
I was glad to hear that your back has returned to normal, my surgery failed and I have been on drugs for six years now, and they do very little to help.
I'm taking another chance at going under the knife. I'm going to have a spinal stimulator implanted on Nov-14.
What kind of doggy is sasha?
My wife and I have three walking partners; Vinny is a 19 year old beagle, Keeba is a four year old chow, and our newest addition to our family is Jasmine, an eight month old american foxhound with endless energy and a greyhounds speed.
jwcj
|
| Posted in
whats done is done. on 2007-10-16 03:02:57 |
|
Hey Lost,
I'm glad to see that you broke up with him, and yeah your going to feel like shit for a while, but I saw your picture and read your blogs, and I can honestly say, your not going to have any problems finding a new guy.
Just become a little wiser about who you share your heart and body with in the future.
Putting your faith in God is cool, but don't forget that you need to put the faith in yourself first.
You know, kind of put a plan together, a list of things that you want to do!
Make a list of goals you want to achieve, like I want to go to Cedar Point Ohio and ride all the rollercoasters they have. Then all you have to do to reach that goal is to get the money so you can make the trip.
Yeah being a teenager now sucks, but in reality it has always sucked. I mean there is so much out there to do and experience, where do you start?
Using booze and drugs is always going to be the easiest thing to do cause it's everywhere and anybody can get it.
All you have to keep in mind is that if you decide to use booze and drugs then you must be ready for the consequences. Both are agaisnt the law for you and if you get caught, remember if you do the crime then you do the time!
I firmly believe that the number of people doing it now is a lot bigger only because ther are so many more people now compared to how many people where around then.
Think about it, since there has been cars driving the roads there has always been accidents, and I'll bet that of all the accidents in say 1950, probably about half of them involved drunk drivers. The same is true today, half of all accidents involve drunk drivers, so the only difference is that there are twice as many drivers today so the numbers are much bigger.
What sucks about being a teenager is your mind is moving at about a million miles a second and there are so many things you want to do, but then someone is always telling you that you can't do them!
I mean you can't even stay out as late as you want because mom and dad say's so.
You got to go to bed when they tell you to, even if your not tired. And it always seems that your friends are getting to do things that you can't.
The best thing I can say is again make a list of what you want to do and then work to get what you want.
If you get your own money you'll find out that it starts to open doors for you.
Mom and dad will see that you are responsible enough to work and they will start to allow you to make your own decisions.
If you want, I'll add you to my friends list so we can talk without putting or thoughts out there for everyone.
I'll wait until you say it's okay before I add you to my friends list.
Oh yeah I promise that I won't ever say anything that would get you in trouble with your parents or anyone else.
|
| Posted in
Gave it another chance...... on 2007-10-16 01:53:21 |
|
Dear Alonesoon,
I was adding my two cents and had written you a couple of pages when I got knocked off line, so I feel that it's important that I try again.
When I logged on back at 3:00 a.m. I saw that you had wanted to contact me, it was my fault that we couldn't i.m. , I must have hit the wrong button.
I'm a rookie on the computer and I can only type with two fingers.
With all the small talk out of the way, lets get down to what I have been observing in your blogs.
1. knowing who the other women are is a waste of time, and really in the end it will only either make you mad, or make you cry. It's only a way to try to validate yourself by trying to compare yourself to them.
Trust me, I have seen the picture you posted on your blog and whoever they may be, as pretty as you are they are no-competition.
2. You are suffering from some very low self esteem right now and you need to be focusing on yourself and not your husband and his women.
3. Your daughters are seeing all of this and you are teaching them that this is what to expect in a marriage, and that your husbands behavior is acceptable because that is all a woman should expect.
4. Your crying,yelling, sadness, and all the other emotions you are going through is what they will have to go through until you show them different.
5. Your correct when you say your husband is bi-polar, but that is not anything you should be concerned about now. The time for you and him to deal with that has since long past. That is his problem now, so let him deal with it.
6. Pull your family and friends close to you and get out of this marriage before any more damage to yourself and your daughters is done. ( believe me when I say you are adding to their damage as long as you stay living with this man.)
7. Don't waste your time and energy talking about all the things he has done, and who he is sleeping with, you need only to make plans for you and your girls future.
8. Because he is bi-polar be carefull after you seperate as the first six months can be dangerous to you and every one around this family.
9. Don't be a revolving door to him, once you seperate, stay away from him period! Let him see his kids as long as he doesn't break any rules you and the courts set up for his visitation.
10. You must go to court now and set all of these guide lines legally, then both you and he must follow them exactly.
11. Make this seperation now! You know this marriage is over, so don't tell yourself to give him another chance.
12. You blogs are absolutely clear to me and I can see you want to divorce because you know you can't stand doing this to you heart anymore.
13. Don't be so afraid of what the future has in store, it's going to be what you want it to be, as long as you stay strong and work for the goals you want.
14. Set yourself some goals, small ones at first and long term ones later.
15. Your number one goal is right now going to be the first high hurdle. It has to be; he has got to go, or you are going to have to leave and live somewhere else.
I put you on my friends list and I will be watching your blogs. If you ever want to talk directly to me that would be okay too, we can I.M. eachother if we happen to be online at the same time.
I'm not going to wish you good luck, because what you are going to be going through has nothing to do with luck, it's just the way live is sometimes and we have to deal with it and then everything will be okay.
Sincerely,
John
|
| Posted in
This is Me.. on 2007-10-14 06:20:17 |
|
Dear smilinirisheyes,
I would like to let you know that although people don't want to believe in what shrinks have to say about our phsycee< check my spelling) but here is the trueth about us as individuals.
When it comes down to who you are, this is what I firmly believe: " We are nothing more than the compilation of every person we have ever met. The only thing that makes you an individual is the ability to accept or reject their ideas or views, that is what sets you part from everyone else.
Think about it do you believe that Christopher Columbus discovered america?
Get back to me about why you really think you act the way you do and I will respond.
Sincerly,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
teenage.life.sucks on 2007-10-14 05:37:05 |
|
Hey LOSTINMYMIND,
Been there done that and please listen to what I am going to say.
I'm an older guy and there are some things about us guys you have got to know.
Men have two heads on their bodies and we don't use either one worth a damn.If I am with you I am thinking about you, but when I'm with her I will be thinking about her.
Man has become so far intilectually but our bodies still function on the most basic level.
If you just look at animals and their sexual habits then you'll be able to understand men.
There are two basic things men are really concerned with; nourishment and sex.(not nessecarily in that order)
This is the absolute trueth, it's not a joke and we just don't give much thought to the consequences of our actions.
In the wild the males in most of the species males take on as many females into his harrem as possible, but in the wild no one's heart gets broken.
With you and me, the human factor comes into play, and now us guys have got a problem about how to deal with the woman's emotion, so we lie as best we can so that we can keep getting what we want.
Now if we get caught in that lie, we will tell you another lie so that we don't loose the thing that we want. (sex)
If you catch us with the other woman we will tell you a bigger lie or deny what we are doing with her. We will make up the most unbelievable story and expect you to believe it, no-matter how outrageous it might be. Then if you drop us like you should, we will come back begging your forgivness, crying, soobbing, pleading for you to take us back. Making every promise you want to hear. We will tell you how we will never stray again and that we will be 100% faithfull to only you.
Once you fall for that we will be good for a while, but as soon as someone else catches our eye, we will follow that other head and chase the next skirt we see.
It's partly because we are still reacting on our basic animalistic level, wanting to have our herd of females, but mostly it's because we are just inmature and we have not learned to control our physical desires.
Occasionaly there are a few guys that are smart enough and mature enough to not act in this way, but most of us have not yet evolved that far.
So my advice is to dump this guy fast, and stay away from him except to have him served with the child support papers. Be prepared to raise this child by yourself or with the help of your parents.
Talk to your family and friends about what you are going to do, (if you are deciding whether or not to take your pregnantcy to full term), but most of all please learn that sex is not love it's just sex, and if your going to have to have sex again, then you must be smart enough yourself to; 1. use a condem 2. use birth control or 3. keep your legs together until after you get married.
This is just flat out the way we guys are, and if your not prepared to understand that then are going to end up getting pregnant again and again and again.
Let me know if you want to talk about this or anything else.
I'm sorry this has happened to you and I know your going to cry a lot about this, but this isn;\'t the end of the world.
You may have to start thinking a little harder about letting your heart override your head, because you know your smarter than this. Remeber your only a dummy if you keep making the same mistakes over again.
Good Luck,
jwcj
|
| Posted in
Can I get a witness? on 2007-10-14 04:46:29 |
|
Hello Reign,
It sounds like you are tired of being told how we should look.
Personally it sounds as if though your life is in really good shape even if your body isn't.
Well I say if you were able to quit smoking cold turkey then if you want to loose weight you'll do fine at that too.
I think that when my day comes to die, then I will die. The thing I am not going to do is let anyone dictate to me how much I should weigh or what I should eat, or that I should quit smoking.
I am only going to follow the laws and my heart.
It seems absurd that if I loose 40 or 50 pounds I will be able to live longer, or live healthier. The only thing that really matters is that I will live happy'
My wife and I are what everyone calls overweight, and we don't care.
When we were younger we were slimmer and my gosh my wife had a body that would pop your eyes out. As far as her shape today, well just let me say, she is still as beautifull to me now because I see her much better now than I did then.
Write all you want about it if it makes you feel better, because how you feel is what is really important and not how you look.
enjoy yourself
jwcj
</ | | |