My anniversary is coming up soon (February)... I should be happy but I'm not. I mean, I am happy that my honey and I are together and that we "made it" but I'm not as thrilled as I should be. Reason being:  He does not want to take part in planning our "joyous" day. Our anniversay is also a few days before Valentine's Day too. Double whammie! To be fair and make this 50-50, I asked him if he wants to plan our anniversary and I will put something together for Valentine's Day (or vice-versa). He said 'No'.  I don't know if it's a guy thing or if it's just him... but knowing how anti-holiday, anti-celebration, anti-ANYTHING he is... I'm leaning more towards it's JUST HIM that is not as enthusiastic as most of us happy, optimistic, glass-is-always-half-full normal human beings are when it comes to celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc. etc. Some men see Valentine's Day and celebrating Anniversaries as a waste of time, energy and money. But they (he) needs to realize it's not just about them (him) anymore. There's another person's opinion and feelings involved now that need to be taken into consideration...not just his own. Women (like me) need romance (not the over-the-top gushy, mushy kind of romance but sweet, thoughtful gestures), affection, compliments, kind words and an occassional celebration of love.  Tell me how thankful you are to have me, tell me you appreciate me, tell me you love me... don't just assume and say "You should know how I feel about you."  Yes, us ladies do know how you men feel about us but it's nice to hear it from the person we are trying to please and keep happy. And if we don't receive compliments and appraisals, after a while, we begin to feel un-beautiful, un-loved and unappreciated. That's how a lot of relationships (I think) fall apart... people become too comfortable with each other and they don't try as hard or make no effort like they once did in the beginning of the relationship. One or the other feels unappreciated and un-loved and as soon as one person starts to feel this way it becomes the beginning of the end. Relationship takes work (teamwork) and maintenance to keep it alive, happy, healthy and in love. You gotta nuture it regularly to keep it growing and going.

Anyway, I was getting off track for a moment there. I kept all of this bottled up inside for a while.  I didn't want to sound ungrateful or unhappy because that's the not the case. I'm grateful and very happy with whom I'm with but once in a while these thoughts creep back into my mind and make me wonder, "What about me? I have needs that should be taken care of too."  But anyhoo... I feel better now, now that I got it out of my system (I like this "blogging" stuff :p).  Ok, so back to why I originally posted this blog... so my honey bunny, the apple of my eye does not want to part take in planning our Happy Day. It makes me feel like WTF?! Why celebrate with him if I'm going to be the one doing all the planning...I might as well wine-n-dine and romance myself, I might as well celebrate alone. Right?  I guess for some men it's too much pressure for them to plan these things. But if you know your girlfriend/wife/lover the way you should by now, you should know that it doesn't take much and it doesn't need to be over the top or extravagant. It truly is the thought that counts.  No one has ever done anything for me. No one has ever planned anything for me. No one has ever thought of me. No one has ever taken the time for me...until my Schnookie came along and (once) gave me a taste of what it feels like to be surprised, to be thought of, to not have to plan anything. It was a great feeling. But for the most part, I have always been the "Planner".  I need a break.   A little effort, a little time, a little bit of thought and consideration goes a long, long way in my book. :)