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Sometimes children can say one thing and do another. Parenting.com said it is because they have not yet learned how to express their feelings and needs correctly.
Surely anyone can think of at least one time when a child exclaims that he or she wants to do something and the confused adult does not understand why. A young boy with his legs tightly twisted screaming that they do not have to go to the bathroom or a child that insist they want to go outside and then once the adult packs everything up they yell out they want to stay in.
“Paradoxical behavior like this often happens because a child’s feelings are in conflict with his needs, but he hasn’t learned how to express either yet,” explains Mary Kurcinka, author of “Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime.”
Parenting.com also offered insight to an infamous problem with children: hungry kids refusing to eat food at the dinner table. Children, they say, appreciate predictability and eating dinner at a usual time can prevent them from saying that they are not hungry.
Danielle Sauve of Cambridge Massachusetts gives his 4 year-old son Theo an opportunity to decide what is in his best interest. “If he wines or ignores us and doesn’t come [to the table], we often ask him if he’s too tired to eat with us and would prefer to rest in his room. Of course, he always prefers to come to the table.”
Trying to figure out what is the real reason why some children say and act the way they doe can prevent obnoxious behavior.
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Posted by jstied1 on 2008-03-26 20:19:23 | Rating: | Views: 31
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