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I have more than one subject on my mind at the moment, and I choose to write about all of them. Caution: This is likely to be a long blog post. 
Boyfriends and Girlfriends: One thing I've noticed, especially in teenage relationships, is as soon as you admit that you like each other and begin using the term "boyfriend & girlfriend," the whole relationship changes. Suddenly there are new expectations, like kissing, holding hands, "making out," and being mushy. (And, of course, groping and sex.) Let's be real. . . . With all those pressures weighing down on our shoulders, of course the relationship is going to change! Unfortunately, most of the time it's not for the better. Things become awkward, especially when you and your honey and alone together. It seems to me (Note: This my personal opinion.) that most teenagers aren't ready for getting physical right away, and they only begin because that's what society expects. Boys and girls everywhere see sexual content on television and movies every day, and somehow they take TV-realtiy for actual reality. They then rush into relationships sooner than they normally would, and become sexually active much quicker than what used to be average. A lot of teenagers begin kissing in less than a week, if not the same day, after adopting the status "boyfriend & girlfriend." And if you've only known your crush for a few months or less, that is very fast! Think about it. . . . Not too long ago, when our parents were young, the BF/GF status took a long time to take place. And even after two people were a couple, it took even longer for the physical stuff to come 'round! Plus, the term "BF/GF" meant more those days. Kids would date for much longer than three months. Six months was not very long! Also, girls weren't allowed to date until after sixteen, when they were more emotionally ready. Kids today have boyfriends and girlfriends at age ten or less. Kissing at age ten or less. That is a seriously scary thought. People seem to have forgotten how to take their time and enjoy building the relationship. With all the sexual pressures on kids nowadays, it's no wonder the relationship doesn't last very long. A year isn't long enough to get to know somebody, so why would three or six months be any different?! Kids get phyical, and forget the emotional part of being a couple. How well do you know your significant other? What's his/her favorite color? What's his/her favorite sport? What are his/her ambitions? Those are pretty shallow questions. You can go much deeper than that. For example: I've known my best friend for fourteen years, and I still don't completely know her. She constantly surprises me. I love building relationships, and you need to not rush. If you rush things, everything will come crashing down around your ears. I don't think anybody should have to deal with these pressures. It's not fair. It ruins the chance of developing a meaningful relationship, both in couples and in friendships.
Believe it or not, I have more to say on the "Boyfriends and Girlfriends" subject(s). I could go into mini-detail about everything I was talking about, but it can get very irritating to read something that's fifty pages long. OK, I have gotten out my rant on that subject. Sorry it took so long. =P Since that subject is so long, I'll just write about one more thing: Me. (Wow, that sounds conceited. LoL)
I'm home schooled. I have been all my life. I am of African American and Native American heritage. I guess you could say I'm half and half. ;-) I grew up in a "white, middle-class" family, entirely made up of odd people. I inherited my views from my parents, which is why I am extremely anti-racist, anti-sexist, and anti-labelist. LoL I believe all people should be treated equally, and with the same amount of respect, no matter who they are. I am constantly disgusted with our society, and I work towards changing the future, in hopes that things will be better for my children. There you go. . . . Now you know something about what I'm about! LoL Catch you l8er!
jinxx
Oh yeah, here's a P.S. When I fall in love, I take my time. I feel like there's no need to hurry when I'm making up my mind. I wish everyone felt that way. Don't you think you should be friends before being BF/GF? Isn't that what the "friend" part of both words is supposed to mean?
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Posted by jinxx on 2007-12-02 14:13:39 | Rating: | Views: 135
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i enjoy reading your blogs as well :]
I am in 9th grade.lol
only a freshman.
p.s. didn't read all of your blog, but i will later, kinda busy at the moment, i am sure its a good one :]
comment it later :]
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Posted by sunshinelafoy
on 2007-12-02 22:35:14
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hey! Thank you for the comment! I think you touched on good points that does happen in relationships. I am in a very commited relationship. I think taking time to really get to know the person you are with is important, but once me and my bf were together it did not take too long to know that it was meant to last. I am happy you dont submit yourself to sex and other things to compensate when a relationship is not working.
But I will tell you this: As stupid as it sounds. Love takes you by surprise and sometimes three months are enough. Only sometimes though..
I liked your blogs.. Ill keep reading
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Posted by smilingsarahy
on 2007-12-03 19:58:24
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ok.. I read it now :D
very true, you got into details. I heard on the news about a month ago that in a middle school somewhere(i don't really remember where) they were passing out birth control to 11 year old girls because they were having sex,
I thought, "Wow, what is this world coming too?"
But I guess the world always changes.
I would have never guessed that you are African-American and Native-American. I am glad to here that you are anti-racist, sexist and labelist :]
i agree that we shouldn't get physical until we absouletly know them. I want to wait till marriage. Do you?
I have a best friend that I haven't know for even a year, & I hardly know anything about her..
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Posted by sunshinelafoy
on 2007-12-05 14:21:40
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its good that you are going to be commited :D
if i don't want to wait before marriage, i want to be like that as well.
i look at all of my sisters and they have all had sex before marriage & they tell me how horrible it is because they dump them afterwards or it just doesn't work out. so I just want to wait & hopefully my future husband will wait for me too.
I think the same thing about how in your twenties, there are a lot of changes.
my sisters still selfish, but I don't really care about her decisions, you know? its her life.lol
do you have any sisters or brothers? :D
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Posted by sunshinelafoy
on 2007-12-05 21:12:36
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well..that was a good blog..lol i agree on everything u said..me and my bf had to be "frands" before we dated..(at least thats wat i wanted.) and were still taken it slow cuzz wat u sed is a really good point..
but thats pretty kool ur home skooled..i sure wish i was..but no i go to a public skool..high school. lol there is sooo much drama..i try to stay away from it..most of the drama comes from the freshmen..lol and i am a freshman..
anywho, ur right we shouldnt get physical until we really know them..
i wanna wait till im married to have sex though..but i dk..im just 15..i might change my mind lol.
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Posted by lizziee
on 2007-12-07 06:58:47
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Wow, you have some really good points here. A lot of people do rush into relationships..I was in one with Josh for two years and we knew eachother for six monthes [[spent every day together during them]] before we dated and that made us a lot stronger, infact even though we arn't together anymore we are really good friends =] I like you viewpoints! And I would Def. read your fifty pages =] haha.
Take Care
kay
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Posted by sacrificedangel
on 2007-12-10 20:29:02
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