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There are many different definitons of what a family is. www.ardictionary.com says that a family is " The group comprising a husband and wife and their dependent children, constituting a fundamental unit in the organization of society. " A family for most of my friends would be your typical mom, dad, sisters/brothers and pet living happily ever after. My family is defined by not falling into any such category.
As long as I can remember my parent's have been split up. Never married I was born an only, bastard child to a 21 year old mother and alcoholic father. I don't have any memories of the three of us together from my childhood, except for one- a day in the park where all I can remember is my dad walking away. So for the most part my memories are of my mother, grandmother and I. Somehow the lack of a father's influence has not negatively affected me as far as I can tell. After I turned 8 my dad came back into my life, clean and sober, and has been ever since. We do not see eachother as often as he or I might like, but we still do have an existing relationship. I still love him very much, and although I do get a little angry inside at times at him, I do not let those feelings interfere with the time we have together. He is very strong for having overcome his disease, and I am proud and thankful for that everyday. He still has a lot to offer me as a parent, and I respect his opinion and thoughts.
My mother is an amazing individual, who I respect and admire so much. She has always made my life so comfortable and easy, and has been the most amazing provider a child could ask for. She never settles, she does appreciate the best and wants that so badly for her and i. She has been the source of my strength and although most people do not wish to end up like their mothers, I would like nothing more. She has so many desirable qualities I would be honoured to inherit. Those which she probably inherited from my spectacular grandmother...
My grandmother lives life day to day and is such a happy person. She has overcome a lot of hard times in her life, and has proved to everyone how strong and sensible of a person she is. She is the core of our family, and always makes everyone feel so loved and appreciated. She has the most amazing sense of humour and can lighten up any room. Every single person takes a liking to her beauty, inside and out. She is just one of those people you can't feel anything but lucky to have spent time with.
I also have a little sister, she's ten years younger to me and we share our dad. She has a different mother than I do, but that does not make our bond any weaker. I love my sister so much, she is still so young but so smart. She at 9 has already had to deal with a lot of serious stuff, and I'm proud of her ability to remain such a happy child. Her mother and my father are no longer together, she turned out to be a lesbian and is getting married and going to be having another child with another woman soon. Im not sure if my sister understands completely what that means, but she doesn't ask very many questions. She is a very accepting person, and takes whatever comes her way.
I am also very close with my cousins and aunt. They lost their father, my uncle,and my mother's brother, when we were all very young. I don't remember too much about him, but I still think about him very often, and he is still very much apart of our family. He is with us all the time. My cousins and I are more like sisters, we've always been so close and able to share everything. I love them and my aunt with all of my heart.
I see the rest of my dad's side of the family once a year at christmas, and I suppose that's enough. It's nice that I get to see them at all. None of us are close, and we don't know much about eachother, but the love is still there. I wish I could spend more time with my grandparents on that side, I suppose I could make the effort, but it feels like there is never any time.
So you see, my family is not the typical kind, but none the less it IS a family and is still a very special one at that. I am grateful for all of them, and love them all. We still fit in the "organization of society" just as much as the next, and I wouldn't ask for my life any other way.
My family being the way it is has made me the person that I am. |
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Posted by jaykaydee on 2007-12-15 15:57:04 | Rating: | Views: 44
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