Thoughts.com Blogs - Pro-Divorce

Life is simple and should not be made complicated. Contentment is the key to happiness. So why stick with the boring way of life you have when in fact, you have the choice to make it far better and different, the option to be happy and satisfied?

This is the rationale behind my stand on divorce. There's no law governing divorce here in my country and I wish there will soon be. The only one we have is legal separation and annulment of marriage whose process takes a very long time before the decision finally be announced. It's annoying and it just prolongs the agony of the one who wants to be freed from the knot which he or she once tethered.

Actualy, I'm not married nor separated. I am still single, never been married and no kids. My stand on being pro-divorce was influenced simply by my observation. A husband and wife fight everyday due to some reasons like; there is third party, the husband often beats the wife, the wife is not a good wife as she goes to spa or parlor everyday and goes home late at night, the husband is vicious: he drinks a lot, he smokes a lot and he parties a lot; the husband is a drug addict, the wife is a nagger and always badmouths her husband, the wife forgets her emotional or sexual responsibility, the husband is not a good financial provider, the husband is psychologically incapacitated or the wife maybe and others. These are facts that should be taken into consideration by our solons or lawmakers to pass a divorce bill. These are irreconcilable differences and will never make a family life blissful.

I am a Catholic and I understand that the sacrament of marriage must be kept sacred and holy but the facts mentioned are making the marriage itself chaotic and messy. I don't think a husband and wife can stand a daily fight, badmouthing each other and sometimes go a little physical throughout their married life. I certainly don't think a husband will be patient enough listening to the daily "vehemently long oratorical speech" of his wife, nagging and shouting and crying out all the hecks, s*** and the f*** life has offered her.

I don't belong to a broken family if that's what you have in mind. My parents never got a divorce for obviously there's no divorce here. Neither did they get annulment or legal separation. I have three siblings and we are all legitimate children and that's what I'm proud of with my family.

My perspective on separation comes not from my family but from other families. I love a happy life and I always crave for happiness. If I'm not happy, I'll try to look for things that will make me happy or at least just be contented. Same is true with my views on family. It's painful to see couples making quarelling and hitting each other a daily routine. It's even more painful to see a man keeping his mouth shut or just walked out the house and stay outside overnight to avoid his wife's loud mouth or to see a guy drowning himself into alcohol because of disappoinment in his married life. Why do these things happen?

I believe we all deserve happiness and we have the option to either look for it or just forget about it. Why suffer a dull life when in fact a lot of good choices are laid upon us? Why do you stick with a marriage that's not working and growing when you have the option to get rid of it? Unhappy married life signifies lack of love between one of the parties. If love is inexistent within the marriage, then go out and search for it. Or do you choose to be happier when alone? It's up to you! Just follow what you think is good and right for you! Life is not difficult to live, go the easy way and enjoy!