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I have finally got a backbone! Yea! I finally stood up to my ex, and told him what for today. This isnt the first time I've done it, but this time it was different. I used to beg and plead with him, yea that was stupid i know, to get him to go with me anywhere. Now, as of today I finally realized I didnt need to take that. After the whole falling out last week with Heather, his sis, i have grown a backbone.
He told me he was shocked I didnt cry and beg him to go out with me, as I used to. I replied "I know where your priorities are and where they've been for a long time and its not with me. Its fine and I dont really care I just go with people that love me and want to spend time with me like Tracy(my best friend of 8 years)." He didnt say anything and I told him i had to go hung up the phone.
I honestly didnt know how wonderful it would feel not to beg him to hang out with me! It rocked!!!! I did learn a lot of life lessons in 18 months and never once did I grow a backbone. It was only AFTER I left him that I got one! Actually he ended the relationship before I even left him. I just hung on for dear life like an idiot and begged him everyday for affection and attention.
I know I was stupid, i have issues right now anyway, trust and other wise, but i know one thing, I will not beg a man to pay attention to me. Either he loves me or he doesnt, and if he loved me I wouldnt have to plead with him to spend time with me.
Final thought does anyone agree with me on this? I just kinda wanna know :)
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Posted by jaded07 on 2007-11-03 19:15:08 | Rating: | Views: 88
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Oh HELL YEAH I AGREE WITH YOU!! I'm just sorry it took you so long to learn this lesson. I had a guy tell me once that he needed some time away to figure out his feelings for me. I'm thinking that there wasn't anything to think about; you either loved me or you didn't and if you had to think about it, then you obviously don't. I gave him time and even though I was going through a difficult time with no emotional support from him, not a problem. I didn't whine or beg. I moved forward with a smile on my face. Went out with someone else that weekend. It blew this guy away. He couldn't believe I could do that. Tsk. Yeah, Could and did. BTW I married the other guy. 27 years later, still happy with him because he never had to think about how he felt about me.
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Posted by Fracture
on 2007-11-03 19:20:03
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I THINK WHAT YOU HAVE DONE WAS A VERY COURAGEOUS THING...TAKING A STAND FOR YOURSELF AND TAKING BACK THE POWER AND AUTHORITY THAT YOU SHOULD HAVE. I WILL SAY THIS THE FEAR OF BEING LONELY CAN MAKE A PERSON DO ALOT OF THINGS BUT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT AND NOTICING WHEN YOU ARE NOT GETTING IT CAN MAKE YOU DO ONLY A FEW THINGS...AND NEVER SETTLE YOU WILL BEGAN TO ATTRACT THE RIGHT PERSON; EVEN PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE...ALWAYS REMEMBER SHOWING STRENGTH IN YOU MOMENT OF WEAKNESS WILL MAKE YOU STRONG BECAUSE IT HELP BUILD THE MOMENTUM THAT YOU NEED TO GET THROUGH YOUR TRIALS...I WISH YOU THE VERY BEST
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Posted by myword2
on 2007-11-03 19:29:14
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wow, it sounds similar to my situation, the whole begging and stuff.
im currently in a relationship where i let the guy walk all over me and i have to keep my opinions to myself for fear of him leaving me. he gets angry if i dont do as he says. i used to be one who didnt take shit. now however... i know i shouldnt...
i know that when this ever over, ill be like feeling like that, standing up for myself.
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Posted by lifeisfcked
on 2007-11-03 19:36:34
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that's great if you follow through with it.
keep strong.
:o)
cheers!
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Posted by badlydrawnstickman
on 2007-11-03 20:41:31
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You are absolutely right. Well done!
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Posted by MikeCaper
on 2007-11-05 03:47:43
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I love the expression that you told him what for or gave him what for, no matter, you must be proud of yourself
yahoo
way to go
good for you
the question should be
does anyone disagree?
I dont think so
good job
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Posted by roe
on 2007-12-08 20:28:23
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