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I am a 60 yr old lady in North Carolina. I moved here in 92 from NY and have never really fit in. Kids are grown now and its me and my husband. I love my husband but he is very distant. He is either out with his gold buddys or in his room on the computer. I sit here day after day alone and miserable. I have tried to let him know how I feel but he won't change. He recently had a sort of affair with an old girlfriend on the internet and it almost costed us our marriage. He said it was his ego. I try and make him feel like a man but he seems to be unaware of my feelings.
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Posted by islandgirl7073 on 2007-11-26 13:35:25 | Rating: | Views: 132
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its his golf buddies, not gold
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Posted by islandgirl7073
on 2007-11-26 13:36:29
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Hey girl - welcome - and you are not alone now - now way - just wait to see all the nice folk around this place. I ony got here a couple of weeks ago and have made a few wonderful friends that I will always keep in touch with - you made the first move - that was the hardest. stay posted.
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Posted by 2rivers
on 2007-11-26 13:45:50
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I'm sorry he's not picking up on your needs. Men can be weird sometimes. I was wondering what a "gold buddy" was, thanks for clarifying. Have you tried getting out of the house and doing your own thing? Making yourself less available almost always gets their attention.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 13:46:36
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PS: I said CAN be weird, so to the men-please don't take offense. And the advice offered is only in my experience. :)
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 13:48:00
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my heart goes out to you. actually, ladiegodiva is on to something with making yourself less available. in my experience, it does seem to work. i don't know why though.
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Posted by Arik
on 2007-11-26 13:54:56
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I think it's something to do with they want what they can't have. So by making yourself unavailable he sees that you do have a life outside of him and therefore you ARE desirable and important and not to be taken for granted.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 13:56:46
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Yes girls I agree - and I'm a guy! Leave the dinner in the icebox, "follow instructions", and watch what happens. Alas few men listen to their lady and it's their loss. As Ladiegodiva says make yourself unavailable - at least something exciting will happen! Told you you wouldn't be alone for long!
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Posted by 2rivers
on 2007-11-26 14:04:31
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Arik - want to know why men go after the unatainable? - it's a male thing, so it's simple - it brings out the pack leader/harem thing like the top dog in the wolfpack. Told you - it had to be simple.
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Posted by 2rivers
on 2007-11-26 14:09:41
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Yup, no one can be alone in this place. We won't let you. It's great.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 14:11:36
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Your not alone. Like 2rivers said, there's great people on here that will help as much as they can. Even though it's over the internet, it does help. In my opinon I think Ladiegodiva is right, getting out and meeting people - even though it might seem like a scary thing to do - it's a good idea. However, I also think you should try talking to your husband again. You said you love him dearly, let him know.
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Posted by Tessa
on 2007-11-26 14:24:00
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Good thought Tessa.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2007-11-26 14:52:47
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