I don't think thats a very fair question. I know many men that are very good at showing their emotions, and I know just as many woman who aren't.

yeah, i was actually thinking about that myself this evening. I just got back from the ER with my sister and I was such an asshole to her. She called me and said she was having trouble breathing (and honestly, she's kind of a dramatic person so I knew she was fine) - anyway i was like "so who is going with you" and I was clearly not exactly stumbling to the door to go to the ER at midnite... but I went and acted irritated about having to go, when she just needed someone to help her chill out, which I later realized, but it was very difficult for me to be sensitive to her situation even after I realized that's what she needed (she turned out to be fine, got an inhaler and has bronchitis) - but i was thinking about how I think guys suck for seeming all un-emotional and unaffected, but I do the same thing, and I strive to appear unaffected. and I do it because i don't want to appear vulnerable. I do it for the same reasons guys do it, so It was just kind of eye-opening. I detest the idea of appearing weak. So, anyway, I'm learning to look at things from other perspectives than just my skewed view which is a good thing. Thanks for sharing...

Well it goes both ways, some people just are not good at showing emotions or more correctly - they don't know how to handle themselves. In all fairness, women tend to be more emotional than men, we cry when we're sad and get upset over silly things. At the same time though, men get upset too - they just handle it differently and don't really let anyone see it because they see it as a sign of weakness and would rather deal with it on their own.

Men tend not to get visibly emotional as part of our nature to be protective and brave. When the lion came attacking the cave and the women were cowering in fear, the men had to take their clubs and fight back. They needed to reassure the women who just didn't have the physical capabilities to protect themselves on their own. They needed to keep it together.

Nowadays that doesn't quite work. Women get emotional when things upset them and they want to be able to talk about it. Men see getting outwardly emotional as a failing in our ability to cope by ourselves. Men need to be independent. As a result men will try to hide our emotions and deal with it by ourselves until we realise that we can't; then it is a sign of wisdom to ask for help, and then we get emotional.

I think being in touch with our emotions is very important in relationships, because if we aren't open and honest then people don't know how we really feel, and there is less opportunity for adaptation and change to the other person's needs, which is essential.

SaM

It really depends on the emotion. Men are expected to show "manly" emotions such as anger but not tell you when they're feeling down. Most men have gotten used to it