Okay, so - honestly, I cannot think of ten. I tried, and I can't right now.
But what I CAN do, which I couldn't a month ago, is love them. I have had the opportunity to see many good things in men, especially here at thoughts and I'm grateful.
People can be assholes, be them men or women. I don't think anyone can understand, but me, what a breakthrough it is to say that. I see now that everytime a guy does something "typical" I throw it onto my pile of all the reasons guys are assholes. Now I cannot see the top, nor am I able to discern what is what within the heap.
But now I catch myself. I force myself to say "no, that is ONE Person, not men." What is especially strange is that I am so against generalizations, I am so pro-tolerance, except in this one area where somehow I had fallen under the delusion that it was just the truth. I'm the first person to label ignorant anyone I see as intolerant so it's been rather humbling.
Only now am I realizing how crippling it can be to allow yourself to buckle under the pressure of a few bad experiences and turn a blind eye to the possibility of anything else. I mean, I'm human - it's not like I purposefully resigned to perpetuate hate, I just stopped trying not to, and with what seemed like good reason. But really it's just another one of those ugly "isms"
Seeing things with a new perspective takes, for one thing, a willingness to really examine the lenses through which you are viewing the world. I'm seeing how cozy it was in my little corner, and venturing out isn't always the most intriguing idea. But I also see how freeing it is to let go of the yuckiness. And I am working on my list.... I'm sure the ten will come, I know they will.
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