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My best friend Lizzy moved into our downstairs. We opened up our home to her and her daughter because we found it in our hearts to help her out... so she will have the best chance possible to make it on her own.... in a few months. As everyone says, you never really know a person until you live with them. haha.... no kidding.
Jasmine is Lizzy's daughter. Jasmine is so beautiful, almost with the Disney Princess Jasmine-esque look. Dark skin, dark eyes... pretty little girl. Wow, she is a little tyrant though. Lizzy doesn't seem to know how to control her either.
This little girl is the most imaginative, dynamic and brave I have ever met. She is continously bouncing off the walls, with her next move in mind. She can't sit for more than 2 1/2 seconds without getting into trouble for something. It has been only 1 month today that they have been living with us... and already, I am tired.
Lizzy has been dating Elliot on-and-off again for about 4 months now. I just want her to wise us and realize he is not the right guy for her, nor a great guy to be wasting her time on. Lizzy is so sweet, smart and I love her to death. She is really my best friend and I feel that I can tell her everything and anything. But why is this so hard. Why can't I say "Elliot is stupid. You are wasting your time. He is playing with your mind and your heart. If I were you, I wouldn't give him the time of day."
But sadly, I am a big chicken. I can't say this to her because I already feel like I am "parenting" her in sorts. Her room is a disaster. I am not kidding around here. It resembles New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina... minus the broke-down, torn-apart misplaced houses and replace them with clothing, toys, sippee cups and old fast food sacks of garbage.
Lizzy is so pretty and she keeps herself looking so "put-together" everyday. She never leaves the house without makeup and doing her hair. I had never imagined that she would allow herself to live this way. I know that she has had a hard time this past year due to the break-up with Lance, Jasmine's daddy. But that is no excuse. That was a year ago. Last January, and look, here we are again... January 1st is in 3 days.
Lizzy likes to go out and party on the weekends that Jasmine is with Lance. Thursday through Sunday Night is Lances' time. And Lizzy takes advantage of this time without her to party it on with Elliot. Elliot has broke up with her 3 times so far.. and because he said that he was unable to commit. Lizzy has said time and time again that she doesn't want to commit either... but somehow only a couple of day after the "heart-wrenching" breakup that I have to hear about constantly.... she somehow woooos him back into her bed. And then, that is when it starts up again. It is the craziest thing/situation I have ever heard of.
Well.. I am sure there is more that I would like to vent about.. but I can't. Thanks for listening. I am sure that my life is boring.... and I feel that is how it is. But by golly..... that is what life is....... its what you make it.. and I make mine boring.
*J
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Posted by ikinoii26 on 2007-12-28 16:13:34 | Rating: | Views: 101
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I have been in a similar situation, My Mom and I let a girl move in with us when I was prego with my first, she was having a rough time, had a kid, no place to go, it turned out badly, I will never ever do it again..I hope your friendship can survive...good luck.
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Posted by Rajah1116
on 2007-12-28 16:20:56
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Wow, guests like fish begin to smell after three days. My take is that Lizzie doesn't want to grow up and she doesn't want to be a mother. It's ok to party your life away if that is what you want but it is not fair to Jasimine and certainly not fair to you. So why not give Lance full custody, Lizzie could then move in with Lance or the next love and get you out from under the thankless job of "mothering". Personally, I love living by myself. I live in the guest house on my parents estate. I moved out of the main house when I was 16 and have had these two years getting to know me. As long as you are living with others, you never get time to live with yourself. I have never been bored with myself but often with others.
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Posted by penumbra88
on 2007-12-28 16:30:04
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Its hard when up you break up op with the father of your child you go through a horrible dating strak before you really get over him. Just try to bear with-you can mention the mess though.
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Posted by BERTHA
on 2007-12-28 16:30:46
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I think you should ask her if she were in your shoes how would she go about telling you that your boyfriend was a total dud.
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Good luck!
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Posted by Whitters
on 2007-12-28 16:32:32
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My take is that Lizzie doesn't want to grow up and she doesn't want to be a mother
I'm sorry but I couldn't disagree more with that comment. She didn't state that her friend was neglecting her daughter, she goes out when her daughter is with Lance, she isn't dumping her daughter on other people so she can go party, I'm assuming these are arranged visits.
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Posted by Whitters
on 2007-12-28 16:37:16
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