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am i a fool or just stupid on 2007-08-31 11:07:19 |
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I think hes worried that you would overreact and burst out even though nothing was going on (if nothing was going on) Sometimes we keep things from people to protect them...trust is never absolute, (ignoring religion in this comment) ever. Some people will split up because of a stupid message that had no meaning, or something was interpreted the wrong way. Perhaps he is trying to avoid hurting you.
People say if he trusts you he should show you everything...but that isn't what is in question here... people need privacy sometimes, ive come to realize this...the question that needs to be answered, is whether you trust him or not. If you trust him...you have nothing to worry about. If you don't, then you have problems, not because he is talking to someone else, but because lack of trust means your relationship won’t work out. Trust is fundamental in any relationship.
This is just another point of view then the “He sucks, break up with him, it’s all his fault” …like some fantasy perfect person is right over the hedges. Everyone has faults…what makes relationships work is that you accept their faults and work around them.
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If I ever did. on 2007-08-31 10:58:08 |
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Heh, I have recently ran into this problem...some girl works and leaves to work. Work work work is all she does. One day she quit, sick of working sick of being a lone, and lonely and having all this money with no one to enjoy it with.
Material things can be replaces, jobs can be remade, but people are unique, there are only one of each of us.
The question you have to ask yourself - would you stay with him forever if he stayed? If that answer is yes then perhaps your priorities have been mixed by accident. You have to decide what's more important...your job, or this person.
The answer is rarely an easy cut and go one.
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She Has a Sunshine Smile! on 2007-08-31 10:50:31 |
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You are betrayed, and yet you smile,
You are beaten and yet you still smile,
You are strung out by your neck and yet you smile,
You are throw and kicked and stabbed and tortured all while you smile
You forgive and forget and still it repeats, you only smile.
You watch as he tortures the world, and you can only smile.
You watch as he walks up to you raising his hand
You frown, He stops, and you smile.
I wrote this in response to yours. Hopefully you can pull the correct meaning that I intended from it.
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Something About You on 2007-08-30 15:54:40 |
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Oh, I'm not trying to convert you to anything. You just seemed interested in the subject - books generally stay away from theory, they give you a solution to a problem generally without going into depth about what makes the problems, how to overcome obstacles and the such...never really trying to explain it. I was just trying to say that if you have any questions I would be glad to answer them.
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Something About You on 2007-08-30 13:49:16 |
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Um...a book? Can't say that I know of any books...I generally just pick this up from personal experience, observations, or word of mouth from people who seem to know what they are talking about :) It's hard to find a good book on this stuff, I have tried and they are either to vague, or I don't agree with what they are saying. Sorry...you will just have to ask questions ;)
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Life Advice on 2007-08-30 11:58:13 |
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I know...but it's hard to say advice when there is no one around with a problem to give advice to. So I tried remembering what I told some people...and those were the first that came to mind. Anyways, go for it. Would be sweet if I had my quote in a book.
Taj.
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hert and broken on 2007-08-30 11:55:18 |
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I think people would appreciate your poem much more if you spell checked it...otherwise it has a twist to it, which is nice...it tells of a man who covers up his mess but is caught without ever saying it. Nice work.
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I Am A Witch, I Am Not Wiccan. on 2007-08-30 11:41:59 |
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Hey Kate...I'm wicca, in a sense...I have my own mismatched sense of what is what - I'm rather knew and I don't know many things about the actual religion, there may not be much to learn and that is simply why but I always like hearing how other people regard their beliefs. Think we can talk about what makes what and what the differences are sometime?
aim - ThisBeDizzy yahoo - Heizo_Shugen@yahoo.com msn - tobad99@hotmail.com. Would greatly appreaciate it, you seem to know your stuff ;)
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Something About You on 2007-08-30 11:22:13 |
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Interesting – see now it has always been in my belief that the spirit (aka the soul) is very separate to the Aura, though they are connected…here is how I have interpreted it.
The aura is produced by the spirit, yet the spirit is not produced by the aura. The spirit holds everything in your being, how you really are deep down inside….now your aura is produced by your spirit, it is generally a representation of how strong the spirit is and reflects the properties if your spirit. Now I say generally because I know of a few people who can change their aura at will – make it bigger or smaller, I haven’t seen anyone change the feel of it personally however I think it can be done through practice. So I look at an aura as a sort of energy leak…it leaves footprints, travels with your thoughts, and you can get a good feel for what is hidden inside through it, thus why some people “fall” for a guy who are on the inside despicable, yet are easy to hang around with on a general basis.
But that is just me, it’s all up to how you interpret it.
( I explained this better the first time but I hit the back button and lost it)
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Something About You on 2007-08-30 06:43:12 |
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That’s an interesting view, because I have noticed that 2. And it’s really weird, every time it’s happened, the other person always shares some weird trait with me that is not all common place. If you believe in magic, I think what attracts you to someone else is their aura. Everyone has one, but some are large and comforting, warm and caring. They make you sleep easier at night, they sooth you at the slightest touch and for some reason you can simply trust the person who produces it….for auras reflect the soul and cannot be faked. You don’t even have to see the person to feel their aura, it can be projected to you through interaction! It is truly magical.
Generally the strongest auras come from what I call “Healers”. They are the people like you, who carry the pains of everyone…who literally cry because their finger breaks when someone else’s finger breaks (that was an odd feeling…) It takes a strong person to do this, it’s not for everyone…it also takes a very old, and understanding soul to do this. One that has grown in wisdom over hundreds of years…
Now I know many people do not believe in this concept – however the first time my eyes met your words the connection was felt, and I knew what you were. Someone who was meant for great things, which is why you inspire so many.
However don’t forget about yourself….take care of yourself so that you can take care of others…even the healers need someone to heal them every now and again ;) Pain is meant to be shared.
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If only ALL criminals would admit to criminal acts on 2007-08-29 21:35:19 |
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Eh...don't take any legal action just on what I say...I'm no expert to say the least...talk to a professional whose credible :P
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Another day, a little more sorrow.... on 2007-08-29 14:23:29 |
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I went through this over a year ago...its stupid how they say there is nothing to forgive and yet they remind you how miserable you made them, all of your faults and such. Cameron is right, it doesn't get easier...it can even get harder when you try to move on and make yourself happy with someone else! I still think about my X, I hate her for what happened...and yet I don't. I hope she is well and I hope her new life brings her happyness...however I realize that dwelling on the fact that shes gone only holds me back from moving on and making my life happy once again. I swore I would never love another, however somehow life always has a way of working out in the end. Just believe that someone that will make your heart jump out of your chest everytime you think they are about to say something to you, or send you a message will come around....
And another thing Cameron said is true...these events shape our lives...and I have grown as a person because of my experience...ive learned many things and will be a better man because of it...sometimes these events MUST happen to us, our only choice is to keep walking.
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Where's My M&M? on 2007-08-29 13:36:34 |
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Mmmm...what I would give for cheesecake right now...
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All the small things. on 2007-08-29 12:14:38 |
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"only a fool says he has nothing left to learn". Everyone has something to learn from everyone. No one person can experience all of what the world has to give :) *pokes about your blog*
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If only ALL criminals would admit to criminal acts on 2007-08-29 10:51:59 |
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I’m a little computer savvy, and it doesn’t sound like hes tracking her Ip address. That would take to much time fishing through all the sites and actually finding her account…not only that but ip addys change when you have cable. It sounds more like she has a key logger on her computer. What this does is track anything that is typed, any website she visits, passwords, credit card numbers, and application she brings up ect ect and dumps it to a text file, then emails it’s self or uploads itself to a web server. Now with all the junk there is on the internet it’s easy enough to be infected with a backdoor so someone can install this on your machine…you can even pay someone to give you access to this backdoor (how some people make money). Or he could have installed it on there when you were still together or any time he has had physical access to your machine…someone with no brains can easily install this.
If this is true, I suggest checking the running processes in the background and looking for something fishy, or simply formatting your computer and reinstall everything fresh…not only will that get rid of the key logger…but any other viruses you have obtained over the years, any backdoors that are installed, even any setup for a remote connection. (though you can be re infected quite easily) At any rate hes hijacking your computer data and that is very illegal…should see how much sony is being sued for installing a rootkit(it can be used for malicious acts and is auto installed on your computer when your cd autoruns) in their cds to keep people from pirating their stuff…
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Life Advice on 2007-08-29 10:36:30 |
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"Dieing is for suckers"
"Life is a risk, Without risk, there is no life!"
"When life hands you lemons, ask who life gave alcohol to and make a good drink"
All by me.
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le premier jour. on 2007-08-29 10:29:55 |
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you have weird convos....:)
*chuckle*
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blabber on 2007-08-29 08:33:06 |
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You should take up meditation. It works nice at calming the nerves if you do it right, makes you feel empowered, strong, and at peace. Send me an email if you would like to know my methods, it could possibly help.
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School! on 2007-08-29 08:26:41 |
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God didn't put you in class, you put yourself in class. That way of thinking will only screw you over in the long run. Keep matters in your own hands, that way they are more likely to come about. Congratulations on YOUR efforts, I hope they pay off.
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Conversations with God on 2007-08-29 07:55:41 |
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This sounds more like advertising then anything...a nice big gimick. If you wonder what is a lie and what isn't, then why don't you go out and find your own damn answers instead of reading a book that supposedly tells you everything. Any book that costs money or that is writen by a man is subject to being skewed by their believes and making money.
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How creepy...myself is. on 2007-08-29 06:09:04 |
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I have no idea...id never go see one. But what does that have to do with logical thinking?
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Where's My M&M? on 2007-08-28 14:13:41 |
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hehe...ive upgraded myself from m&m's to a nice lcd tv and a car :) M&m's still sound yummy though....that line made me chuckle
"wheres my m&m's"
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My theory on Vegetables on 2007-08-28 11:57:10 |
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yopu call it cancer, I call it population control ;) jk jk
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My theory on Vegetables on 2007-08-28 08:56:26 |
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that's why they make natural vegetables..they are called organic veggies :) they taste good.
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How creepy...myself is. on 2007-08-28 08:43:11 |
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bah, don't be impressed. It's nothing to special...anyone can do some logical thinking :)...well...maybe...most people can do logical thinking....
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How creepy...myself is. on 2007-08-24 23:55:13 |
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who said I wasn't talking about you? ;)
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Dont judge me, please. on 2007-08-24 17:58:50 |
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I personally like cute girls in uniform....kinda sexy...not trying to hit on your or anything...but maybe people are looking at you with interest sometimes?
at any rate find some good friends...there are always a few in a good size school, generally.
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New Tech News 3 on 2007-08-24 12:44:52 |
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lol. Cars are actually made like that. They are designed to fail, because if everyone's car lasted for 300,000 miles how would the auto makers and mechanics make any money? It's just something you have to live with, or buy foreign.
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New Tech News 2 on 2007-08-24 12:43:23 |
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well, the convention also has people from the software and manufactere companies who use this information to better secure their products...also hackers are hired to test software alot of the time, or to make the software in the first place. not all hackers are bad :). Plus it's those same hackers that make us able to back up our legitamatly bought products instead of buying them 4-5 times.
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Suicide Will Kill You on 2007-08-24 08:32:57 |
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Proffessionals suck for one reason...and I keep running into this reason with my friends who are forced to see doctors...they think a pill will solve anything...have a problem? eat this pill that has a bigger chance of making you worst then right again. YAY pharmaceuticals...which btw, I stay away from pills as much as possible...even advil...not good for you, though don't get me wrong...sometimes they are required.
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Dream on 2007-08-24 08:20:51 |
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or maybe it's a prophecy of you needing to "steal" back your marriage from some trampy girl? At first you don't think it's worth it but you as you realize those hidden feelings you grab them good and hard...donno, just another way to look at it ;)
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God, I need to write. on 2007-08-24 08:13:54 |
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Well...don't blame god for your actions...that is only an excuse, and it accomplishes nothing. Be responsible for what you do, we have free choice for a reason.
That out of the way, I agree with everyone else. Love isn't something that is constant, unless you consider it constantly changing...because it's like a light switch...sometimes you can't stand the person, the next, you can't stand to be away from them.
Keep working at it, obviously you posted up because you wanted advice...and it seems everyone is thinking along the same lines. marriage isn't easy, its hard...but one way to make it easier is to keep your words honest. Talk about how you feel, try and connect to each-others heads...for once you stop talking, the feeling of alienation sets in very quickly, then paranoia, then the feeling that the other person does not love you. So, try and talk...we know it's hard for him to understand sometimes...but when you stop talking, it only makes things worst.
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have you on 2007-08-23 17:14:50 |
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don't get to attached quite yet. Life has a way of kicking your ass...I felt that way...still do...but I got engaged to her...then while I was in college...she did bad things...*life just kicked your ass*
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My View On Religion on 2007-08-23 17:12:39 |
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Not all "gods" are the same..I myself am wicca. (please don't stereo type with devil worshipers, it's just not true) There is no punishment of hell if you disbelieve in god, or don't follow the rules...there is simply kharma...do good things and eventually good things will happen...do bad things and bad things will happen. The general purpose of this is to make you live a good life and help others live good lives. Now, It is in my belief that all religions are true, but they are diverse because we are diverse people...one size does not fit all. If you have a hard time going for Christianity...try looking into something else that fits your tastes a little better.
On one last note...if god protected us or did everything we prayed for he/she would become a servant, or a dictator of our lives...now what fun would that be? I do quite enjoy the unusual punishments good people do to bad people every now and again ;)
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Sick of Talking About Abortion on 2007-08-23 16:58:00 |
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Well..Christians have been around for a very long time...they are a stubborn race that won't piss off. ;)
ps. take it as humor, very poor poor humor.
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My "Superior" religion on 2007-08-23 09:45:57 |
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Well, you can say it is unsatisfying as an answer...however how can I improve the theory if you neglect to tell me why it's so unsatisfying? Is it so hard to believe that there are many religions because people perceive beliefs differently? I mean even religions of the same name are practiced differently at times depending on the personal views of the individual.
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Suicide Will Kill You on 2007-08-22 14:12:27 |
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I live by my famouse quote I once made.
Dieing is for suckers.
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emo on 2007-08-22 13:48:17 |
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Il say to you what I tell many in your situation, and you can take the advice or leave it. I’m not going to pretend that I know what you are going through, or that ive gone through the same shit myself. I can’t say that ive ever been emo and that may be all you need to discredit me…but ive experienced things myself and there are a few ways you can break the trend.
Music is nice, no matter what genera, if it makes you feel better then listen to it more. What is associated with Emo is a negative feeling, sure you can tell people off for criticizing emo kids, but they make some decent points once in a while. Ive had a few emo friends and they complained quite a bit…and not just complained, but did nothing to better the situation, it was always to hard, or there was nothing they could do, or it was someone elses fault. Not saying this is you, I am just saying don’t get stuck saying those things and doing those things…there is always something you can do!
Depression feeds off itself, the more you let depression get to you, the worst everything seems. There was a Chinese man who wrote kanji (japanses symbols) on glasses of out of the tap water. He wrote negative things on one glass, and positive things on another…then general emotions. They analyzed the water with a microscope and it turned out the molecules in the water arranged themselves all spiky and dangerous like in the negative bottle, while arrangements were less welcoming and even pretty in other bottles…considering humans are made of 80% water, think about what all the negative symbology you showing is doing to your body. Everything has meaning whether you want to believe it or not, it all depends on how you look at it though. Try putting in a few positive features into how you look. Black looks nice in my opinion, but it can be complimented with proper posture, as in not staring straight down at the ground while you walk all the time. That in itself gives a feeling of being lower then anyone else. I generally walk like that because it’s comfortable…but if you can help it keep your head high and have confidence in yourself.
Don’t wear your hair in front of your face, hiding isn’t going to make things any easier…if anything it will make others avoid you or even forget you. One of my most prominent memories of something is their face, however I never seem to be able to remember names..but that face…it will stick with me for a life time.
Try to look at things positively…if people are treating you like trash then ignore them, they aren’t worth your time. It’s hard sometimes, Ive been picked on for just being foreign and moving to the US. It sucks, but as you said you have a friend, so concentrate on that person. Don’t confuse insults with advice. Your friend may have called emo kids stupid, but perhaps she wants you to break that trend so that you appear happier…people who appear happier are generally easier to hang around.
People who always act negative whether they mean to or not bring their friends down with them..which is why those popular kids never seem to have any worried, and why so many people hang around them. Those other kids are never brought down, only lifted and they feed off of that emotion like a leach which in turn makes them happy. Try remembering a happy moment, and those around you…were they happy or were they sad? Now remember times when you were feeling utmost depressed…how did people react to it?
Cutting yourself is an addiction, it’s been proven, and I relate it to alcoholism. Both are used to take your mind away from the problem at hand, both can harm no one but yourself, however they harm those around you without you realizing it. Cutting lets you deal with something real that can be handled giving you relief, alcohol lets you float in a happy place which gives you relief. However there are other ways that are healthier for you and that can actually help start take away depression gradually.
Adrenaline is a chemical our body produces naturally, and our body actually needs to release some or we become stressed and depressed…it was designed in us a long time ago when we had to watch out of things that ate us. Now that we no longer have to worry about that sorta thing we have to find other ways of burning it off.
Exercise is one of them. It keeps your mind off of bad things and runs that adrenaline… Play a sport, or if you would rather stay away from those go out for a run every day, or go swimming at the closest YMCA. I’m if you can’t afford a membership your parents would take up the cost if you explain to them it makes you feel happier, and if they don’t I’m sure you are creative enough to find something you can do, just don’t do nothing…that only makes you feel unaccomplished because in fact you are accomplishing nothing. See if that helps at all.
Also try leaving your depression at the door…take the mindset that your day starts out when you leave home. If you think positive your day tends to be a bit more positive and less shitty. If you only concentrate on the crap, all you see is the crap and that leads to digging a whole to the center of the earth to which you will never climb out of. Find some small things that make you happy every day, and gradually you will start seeing more and more. BTW, if your friend thinks wearing pretty colors and doing your hair up nice will help, maybe instead of blowing it off as being fake, and not you….try it one time and see what changes. Maybe the difference in how people react to you is worth a change wardrobs….like I said earlier…people will react better to positive things…and obviously you care what other people think considering you were talking about how they made you feel awful with what they said.
These are a few things that helped me when I got depressed, I share them with you cause feeling like crap sucks, and no one should have to deal with that constantly. Also others who simply say I feel sorry for you, or say how other people suck…help nothing…they tell something that obviously doesn’t help you out of your situation, and something you can obviously see for yourself.
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The Dating Theory on 2007-08-22 12:10:28 |
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It's a good theory...but not always correct. Ive seen many guys who are stupid, irresponsible, and only after sex...however, ive also seen older men, younger females, older females, who are the same way. Ive even seen one person in particular brag to his friends how he is getting laid by this 16 year old girl and the only reason you should date younger females...because they are just as demanding of sex as men are. The reason younger females go for older males in many instances is because of experience in having sex..they have done it already and know how to do it right, they also last longer. Everyone knows the stories about younger males sucking their first time..it's not unheard of.
In reality there are many variables in why older men date younger females and vise versa, however it is ignorant to think that every case is the exact same way. It all depends on the maturity of both female and male, and their reasons for being in the relationship in the first place.
btw, I have no doubt in my mind a older male will date someone his age only for sex even though the female wants marriage...if anything that will get him laid faster because of the sense of security.
If you are a mother questioning a relationship, think about where she is mentally…is she doing more things sexually? Or does she feel out of place in school because she feels more mature then others. Generally if you pay attention to your children WELL you can get a good feel for what their intentions are, especially when they hang around the opposite person in the relationship around you. I emphasize well because no matter what the bond between you and your children, they always have some secrets they will never tell you and that takes a little more snooping on your part, and more understanding their situation. Saying something without giving a reason is like shooting yourself in the foot, especially if you raise your voice.
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