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Have you ever heard the phrase, “life is stranger then fiction”? Well, my life is stranger then fiction, personally I would rather be in a lovely novella, set off the Mediterranean coast of Italy with my gorgeous husband (that part is reality), living in a beautiful villa…..But reality never fails to shock me out of my daydreams.
So my gorgeous husband has a gorgeous daughter that is from a previous marriage. Though it has been a number of years since the divorce, the child support has been settled and the momma has moved on countless times over, there still seems to be problems with this woman. We have been in and out of court for 5 years. Now, being a mother myself I understand the hardships of being a single mommy and the need to have companionship. But this woman has gone beyond a simple need.
My husband decided six years ago to request more time with his daughter. He wanted to spend more time with his kiddo and knew that he is not only responsible for financially supporting his child, but he was responsible for her emotional up-bringing as well. He tried to talk to the child’s mother, and she wasn’t having any of that. She claimed he didn’t give a rats right nut about his child’s emotional health, he just wanted to pay less child support. He told her that the support wasn’t an issue, that he loves his child and that he wants to be a good father. The kicker is, he told her the support wouldn’t change. She said no. So my hubby got a lawyer. This is when the “life is stranger then fiction” thing comes in.
Like I said this all drama started six years ago and it has continued to this day. During all this time, we have had our car vandalized, one car had it’s plates stolen, another has had the windows broken and been side-swiped, my children have been threatened by this woman while they were at school (my step-daughter doesn’t attend the same school as my children, think about that), she has had her best friend egg our house ( front and back), she was ordered to undergo therapy twice a week, hasn’t done it. She had a newspaper article written about a portion of our battle. Oh yeah, I forgot, she has alienated this precious little girl from the father that she was really close to.
The courts are a joke. My husband was granted more time with his daughter. The mother ignores the orders. She owes us money for paying for all the professionals we had to have because of her actions; she ignores the order to pay us back. She was ordered to get a job, decided against that. Now she spends the majority of her time online spreading lies about my husband to his employer, family and the internet public at large. Ya know that anyone can say anything about you on the internet or in the paper and not be held accountable. My friends know just by the tune of my voice that this woman has struck again.
I have been through enough with this woman to know how to act when my ex asks to spend more time with our kids. The key word here is OUR. I am their mother, but he is their father. I know how important it is for a child to have a strong father figure, especially when their natural father is ready and willing to be that figure. I really don’t know what the motivation of this woman is? Could it be that she is afraid that the little girl will develop a really good relationship with her father? Could it be that she knows that he will be a really good father, despite what she has told the little girl? Maybe she is afraid that she will be found out by her daughter that she is the cause of all the heart ache that has come from the last 5 years? And if she is found out, what will the little girl do? It is hard to look at this child and see the pain that has been caused to her.
My husband has considered giving up the custody battle and just letting his daughter grow up then try to start over. But everyone involved in our case tells us not to. He has said that he doesn’t ever recognize her as his child anymore. Though she looks just like him. I just hope that this ends soon, for the sake of this little girl.
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I honestly don't know what goes through the minds of these types of women. I am in a similar situation. I would think the well-being of the child would be the most important factor in situations like these.
If the father wants more time with the child, they refuse it, but if the father decides to give up on it, they accuse him of not caring. It's a no win situation.
I hope this little girl knows that her father loves her, and later in life understands how much he fought for her. Children should never be put in the middle of a relationship break-down.
I honestly feel for you.
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Posted by HornyLittlePoker
on 2007-09-22 20:47:43
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Ya know, I didn't know that there were people like this woman out in the world. Call me sheltered.... I am a true believer of, "you treat me with respect, and I will do the same". She doesn't care about that at all. My heart aches for this child. But the mother thinks that we want to take the child away from her.
Thank you for you kind words.
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Posted by heavenlyeyes401
on 2007-09-22 21:11:15
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Good luck. Its a difficult situation, but for the sake of the child I wouldn't give up if I was your husband. That would just show the child the mothers rite about all the things she tells her. Its tough. I wish you all the luck in the world.
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Posted by italianmommy1986
on 2007-09-23 02:48:13
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