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Brainstormer, thank you for passing the QOD baton to me.
When I actually saw my name in print at 5:30 this morning, it scared the poo outta me! I thought I was going to be sick because I have learned as of late that I don’t like being the center of allot of attention.
I was walking through the grocery the other day and was thinking about everything that I have seen and been somewhat part of here on thoughts and then I heard a lady tell her school age son “You can’t go back and change that moment so you have to live with the consequences.” And that got me to thinking about a question for the QOD if I were ever passed the baton.
So I went home on Thursday night and wrote the question down and wrote out my brutally heart wrenching answer to file away for that special day.
Thankfully, Brainstormer jotted down the Hall of Fame or I would have repeated a very early question. Instead of listing all of the amazing people who have come before me, I will ask you to all see the Hall of Fame post for the complete list. :)
So now the task of coming up with a question that hopefully would make him proud of passing it to me.
My question is also a two part question:
1. If you lost everything you had today, how would you pick up the pieces and begin the process of starting over?
2. When starting over; would you make a clean start in another place or restart over where you are?
I proudly pass the baton to the thoughtful inspiration behind my questions.
Circe
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Posted by heatherslife on 2008-06-30 05:00:00 | Rating: | Views: 262
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To tell the truth, I haven't much to lose now. I have just my parents' love, my friends' attachment and rather stable life. Though, maybe, it's the most worth... I can't really imagine loss of my parents... I can think of losing my usual lifestyle. If it happen, I'll have to create my new "world". But in my age I don't think it would be a large problem. And I'll start from zero in the same place I'm now. Though, I consider, there are situations when we can't live further where we are...
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Posted by LuckyJulia
on 2008-06-30 06:15:38
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If I lost it all I think I would do what most people do, just slowly put on foot in front of the other, find what I needed in terms of the basic needs of life and build from there.
As for where, well I would like to start in a new place if I could but that then asks the question how encompassing is EVERTYTHING? I mean if I still had my job, you start here as at least you have that. Also if you lost it all I would think you would not be able to afford to move. And did I lose family? If that is in the everything then maybe I do move and start again somewhere that is cheaper to live so my climb back is easier.
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-06-30 07:19:29
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So long as I kept my 2 children, I could do anything!
If I lost my home, my material possessions, I would start again slowly.
By taking each day one at a time, and by setting myself small goals.
Baby steps, learning from whatever it was that took everything away in the first place.
I would do it somewhere that was affordable and in my plans.
Good Question!
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-06-30 07:43:49
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Well, I'd make sure I have a stable place to live and a good supply of food at the least, and build up from there.
If we only lost material possessions, I'd just live with my boyfriend, but I'm assuming this is not the case.
I would definitely stay where I am. I have no problem with where I am now, even if I lost everything, I wouldn't go away at all. It's a very nice little place.
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-06-30 09:51:27
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We started with nothing so I don't think it would be that big of a deal. I'm not so into material things. Sure it would be a shocker but we know how to live hard! Now the kids on the other hand would maybe want to kill over without the computer and wii (guitar hero).
Yes if I had to start over I'd find antoher place. The only reason we live here is because of famiy in these parts. But I'd love to move somewhere if I could take a few people with me. New Zealand maybe???
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-06-30 11:18:19
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1. I have started over, with all material possesions. Thank God, My family all survived. The biggest Wildfire in San Diego History, was in 2003. We went to bed not knowing there was a fire 20 miles away.Because the winds in the fall, coming out of the desert are very hot and firce, it pushed the flames into cyclones and tornados of fire. Sparks fly in the wind. Although we had made plans on what to do in the eventuality, of a fire, we didn't plan it to be so big, at that time of still- dark morning,nor the direction it came from. A semi-panic takes over. I didn't grab everything I had planned to. So, we lost a home, a rental, and a business, vehicles, everything. And some of the pets, who ran and hid,in thier fear. I still cry about that.
In any case, best laid plans don't work the way you think they are going to. So we got out, we stood on a hill, with many residents of that valley, and watched it all burn.
Realisation that we are homeless set in.
2.Bypassing the pathetic Red Cross response, we took ourselves to a relatives house, showered, slept, realised we had a place to go to, a 'fixer' house in escrow, 100 miles away. The owner let us in before close of escrow. Except from the look at what happened, and obligation to clean up the debris, we haven't been back. The devastation of the fire scoured the beautiful countryside of our former Oak,Sycamore and Willow treed valley. All the houses near us were gone,Neighbors in travel trailers where beautidul houses once stood. It was complete destruction.
We moved, made a new life, did it on our own, accumulated the tools and equipment for construction with our Hubbys actually) ability to make an income. Things don't really matter, people matter, and I am rich with my family intact.
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Posted by circe
on 2008-06-30 12:32:24
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I would go to the ymca or summat. I would start over in lowestoft.
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Posted by FutileResistance
on 2008-06-30 14:04:28
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I have started over as well...It was hard but it can be done. I am currently looking to settle somewhere else...been looking for my 'place' for a while...Haven't found it yet...:)
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Posted by dreampower
on 2008-06-30 14:19:36
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starting over is a really hard thing to do. i think i'd sulk and complain a lot. and when i finally came to terms with myself, i'd shut up and heatedly start working.
go someplace where they dont know my name. definitely. away from everything and everyone... siberia maybe... ;)
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Posted by Slash
on 2008-06-30 14:30:18
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I'm gonna be honest and say that 'stuff' has always mattered to me - I dont mean the TV set, my moblie etc...I mean physical things that hold memories, like photos, things like that. So I would be devastated for a while (circe...I am in awe of you)...but, that said, if I still had David and little Stanley, I believe I could face anything. If I then had to start over...I'd stay in Whitley Bay, its beautiful. Great question...
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Posted by chebtastic1
on 2008-06-30 15:35:32
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Question of the Day
Brainstormer, thank you for passing the QOD baton to me.
When I actually saw my name in print at 5:30 this morning, it scared the poo outta me! I thought I was going to be sick because I have learned as of late that I don’t like being the center of allot of attention.
I was walking through the grocery the other day and was thinking about everything that I have seen and been somewhat part of here on thoughts and then I heard a lady tell her school age son “You can’t go back and change that moment so you have to live with the consequences.” And that got me to thinking about a question for the QOD if I were ever passed the baton.
So I went home on Thursday night and wrote the question down and wrote out my brutally heart wrenching answer to file away for that special day.
Thankfully, Brainstormer jotted down the Hall of Fame or I would have repeated a very early question. Instead of listing all of the amazing people who have come before me, I will ask you to all see the Hall of Fame post for the complete list. :)
So now the task of coming up with a question that hopefully would make him proud of passing it to me.
1. If you lost everything you had today, how would you pick up the pieces and begin the process of starting over?
As it is and as I am, if I woke up tomorow and I had nothing. I would work a short time to get money for a plane ticket.
2. When starting over; would you make a clean start in another place or restart over where you are?
I would fly to hungary, work untill I bought a small flat, start new in a place foreign to me. New faces, new people a new life.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-30 15:56:56
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oops I am sorry I did not mean to copy all of that
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-30 15:59:13
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Circe, how very brave of you. You are a strong woman.
1. How would I pick myself up if I lost everything? I don't know. I hope it never happens. If I lost everyone I care about, I would not know how to get up on my own. I just wouldn't do it.
2.Every place would look the same without anything/anyone I recognize so it wouldn't matter where I was.
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Posted by Cecy24
on 2008-06-30 16:42:46
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As long as I had my family, together we would rebuild our life piece by piece. Baby steps, beginning with the essentials and then take it from there.
It would make me prioritize things, and appreciate the little things in life that I treasure.
I would love to live by the sea, I feel so much more relaxed and at peace by the water. But my family and friends are very important to me...so they would have to be within visiting distance :)
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Posted by Kaybee
on 2008-06-30 19:05:54
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My Answer:
November 16, 2004, when the heavy rains of Tropical Storm Allyson left Houston with devastating flooding water, my grandmother and my house was flooded with 4 feet of water.
My grandmother was rushed to the hospital the day before with complications from cancer so she did not get to see the house as she never left the hospital.
Once the water had subsided and they let us back in, seeing the mud and water residue was awful. I had pretty much lost everything. I was only able to salvage a few clothes and some stuff that was over the water line.
I was able to pick up the pieces with my families help. I had not worked in almost two years as I was my grandmother’s primary care taker and so I found a job. My mom loaned me some money and I was able to get an apt and some needed stuff but we didn’t have any flood insurance. It was hard living in an apartment with almost no furniture and feeling depressed about also losing my grandmother.
I chose to stay in Houston around my family and friends to pick up my pieces. I have now learned that possessions can be replaced. Unfortunately I lost a lot of mementos that belonged to my grandmother and her side of the family, but I am thankful that I am alive.
I thank God for all I have. Family and friends are mote important to me.
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Posted by heatherslife
on 2008-06-30 19:49:16
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The first few days would find me crying, overwhelmed and in shock. Then anger and a sense of determination would set in. Each task at hand would be handled step by step with my focus on the next thing that had to be done. [When I have a large room to straighten and clean I divide the room into sections and work one small section at a time.] Essentials would be first ... clothing, toiletries and food. I would remind myself that the restoration of any life is a journey of a million steps ... taken one step at a time. I would not be afraid to accept the help of others as many hands make light work. I'm not all that happy where I find myself so my "start over" would be in a brand new place.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-06-30 23:07:04
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I am also in awe of anyone who has had to do this, endure such hardships....its just not a 'what if' question to them...I can only hope I would do what they all did, and just take it one step at a time and rebuild my life, I would not move to another area of the country, unless my area was gone...
last spring we had racoons in the attic, for a few months, a long story, but an entire family lived up there without our knowledge or permission, a single racoon mom and her babies, another story... and everything in our attic was destroyed, my wedding dress, all our christmas decorations, photos, etc...kids clothes and blankets I was saving, etc...yet nothing in comparison to other peoples experiences! Although I was very upset about the whole situation and I had a giant stinky mess on my hands that gave me the creppy crawlies, and we filled a dumpster the size of our driveway with all sorts of stuff, it was a relief in a way to get rid of so much "clutter" unnecessary stuff ....that I was holding on to, unable to give away or toss...so it was cleansing in a way.
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Posted by roe
on 2008-07-01 00:31:16
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To me it is all material things, My memoeries are in my heart, as long as I has my health and the love of my family I could start over anywhere I wanted to place my hat.
Of course it would take and effort, but by putting one foot in front of the other I would and could.
If I had anywhere I could fgo, somewhere warm, with little rain, I hate the cold I hate winter, give me warmth and sunshine any day.
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Posted by KP
on 2008-07-01 07:11:37
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I did lose everything, I brushed myself off, and started with baby steps, over in the same place. If It ever happened again I would pack myself, princess, my dogs and the ferret up and start over again somewhere where no one knew me, start fresh....
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Posted by Mamacita925
on 2008-07-01 09:13:12
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Not sure if it counts, but when I was 8, and my brother 6, our dad walked out on my mum for another woman (complicated man, long story) and she was so skint she had to work four jobs to look after us, and go wherever she could get a job. We packed up and left Newcastle with a few clothes and started a new life in Sheffield. I have fond memories of my time there, but when her job relocated her back to Newcastle, it was definitely like going home, even though I had been away for nine years. She had to build a whole new life for the three of us, with nothing to her name.
If it happened now, I would be okay if I still had Cheb and Stan (without them I couldnt live). I wouldnt relocate - Newcastle is in my head, my blood and my heart, its where I'm from and what I am xxx
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Posted by geordiedreamer
on 2008-07-01 10:06:20
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I would probably try to find work closer to my friends or family and I would start over by working hard.
I have lost everything before and made it (divorce) so I know that I can do it again.
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-07-01 11:08:37
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If I lost everything, first and foremost, I would rely on my most loyal friends and family members who I know would be there for me both emotionally and financially. Thankfully, I have a good education and experience under my belt so hopefully it would not be too difficult to get a new job and build from there. I would definitely not move far away from loved ones because they are the people I need the most. Of course, if I lost my entire family and all of my friends, I might as well die too. I just don't think I could move on from that. Then again, my strength has surprised me in the past so anything is possible but I don't even want to think about it. Good question.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-01 11:31:41
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I dont know how i'd get myself together if i lost everything. But i do know i'd probably try to do it in a new place. Everything here would remind me of old times, old memories...and i'd find it really hard to move on. So i'd start over in a new place.
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-07-02 08:13:07
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Three years ago I did loose everything. I lost the home my wife and I built (it took three yrs to design and two yrs to build),I lost my parents, my sister, credit scores shot, had to sell everything from my larger business and end that-ten years of hard work, and all that remains is my home in NH, my wonderful wife and three kids.
I lost everything except the four people that make my life what it is. So, instead of making business deals and looking for new toys or cars for me and my wife, I spend almost all of my free time playing with my kids-that's what I am supposed to be doing and not working non stop. Everybody falls down in life, everybody hurts and fails. Recovering from anything takes time and utilizing the wisdom learned from the wreckage of my past is how I (we) are learning to walk again before we run.
Since we really have nothing to pick-up we simply take one new day at a time-espessially considering my wife having to deal with post pardum while this nightmare unfolded. To top this all off, I was recently informed that I am ADHD like my oldest son. Yeah, sometimes my house is like the circus-without the lion tamer! Yeah, My wife is one of a kind.
Everyday breathing is a good day-never quit.
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Posted by Lastlighthouse
on 2008-07-02 16:48:23
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